Gym Date

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    Jan 26, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    A guy asked me to go to the gym with him as our meeting/date.

    Would you ask a guy or go meet a guy for the first time at the gym? I thought it was pretty weird.
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    Jan 26, 2012 3:15 AM GMT
    Why weird? I mean, I usually take a guy to the gym on the second date... First date tends to be something with less time commitment like coffee (that way you can easily jet if things aren't clicking and have no hard feelings). Gym seems kinda in depth for someone you don't know.

    Unless you know him in some other context?
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    Jan 26, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    Nope we just chatted online, I find the gym as more of a solitude place really, not the type to be chatty before or afterwords.

    Plus I feel like the only person out there who does not get energized by working out, it always drains me so have to do it right before a meal or before bed. Otherwise I'm dead for the day.
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    Jan 26, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    well yeah i find it weird too
    how do u get to know the guy?
    i mean, going to the gym is kinda a solitary thing anyway…….
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    Jan 26, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    Yeah, I don't think gym dates are romantic at all. I don't want to be all sweaty and stuff when I'm on a date.
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    Jan 26, 2012 3:56 AM GMT
    huhwhat saidYeah, I don't think gym dates are romantic at all. I don't want to be all sweaty and stuff when I'm on a date.


    Really? I don't mind that at all, have gone hiking, climbing, and other activities that you get sweaty on for the first date, then again I like active dates, just the gym seems weird.
  • He_Man

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    Jan 26, 2012 3:58 AM GMT
    Wow, I would love a gym date. I don't think it's weird. Since I spend a good amount of time in the gym, I think it would be nice to meet someone who also likes going to the gym. For me, my potential partner must workout and go to the gym just as much as I do, so working out together would tell me a lot about him, such as workout routine, lifestyle choices, etc.

    Who want's to go out on a gym date? icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 26, 2012 3:59 AM GMT
    To me, the first date is the time when you want to at least get a feel for the guy, get to know some key characteristics about him, see how you connect as well as verify the person you envisioned as you were chatting with him online. I'm particularly bent on the first date being in a setting that allows more in-depth conversation with an easy escape plan, if needed. Going to the gym really doesn't encourage a deep conversation.
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    I had a yoga date once. But it wasn't just the yoga, we met before the session, then went to the place, did the yoga session, then did other stuff. It was nice. I have, however, gone to the gym with guys I don't know too well and it's been aaawwkwaaardd....mostly because I was like ok I'm doing legs today, don't know what you're doing but have fun and see you in a couple hours!
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    I think a gym date would be awesome but with somebody I was already dating or in a relationship with, not to meet someone for the first time. That should be somewhere to allow conversation. But down the road...nothing wrong with going to the gym together and getting each other worked up.
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    TheCelticFury said
    Really? I don't mind that at all, have gone hiking, climbing, and other activities that you get sweaty on for the first date, then again I like active dates, just the gym seems weird.


    Hiking and climbing make for amazing dates. I associate the gym more with routine, not really enjoyment. You can't really be by yourselves in a gym, doesn't seem like it would be good to get to know each other.

    Invite him to do something active instead?
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:08 AM GMT
    TheCelticFury said
    huhwhat saidYeah, I don't think gym dates are romantic at all. I don't want to be all sweaty and stuff when I'm on a date.


    Really? I don't mind that at all, have gone hiking, climbing, and other activities that you get sweaty on for the first date, then again I like active dates, just the gym seems weird.


    Well, hiking and climbing are different for some reason to me. Maybe b/c I get really intense at the gym, and I don't think of that as being romantic at all. I could totally see a nice hike as being romantic.
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    That does seem a bit weird as a date (a 1st/2nd date anyway).

    What happens if the individual isn't into the gym scene?

    Everyone likes to eat, watch movies, go walking and stuff like that so those kind of dates seem more practical. They are more personable and you can learn more about a person in a relaxed setting vs. in a gym.

    I wouldn't invite someone on a gym date unless I was certain of the interest and was looking for a workout partner. Hiking, Mt biking, swimming and other activities of that nature that keep you moving are more my speed and give me and my date more of an option to concentrate on learning about one another. I've invited dates to a friendly game of soccer and kickball. I even invited a date to a rock climbing class. That was fun.
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
    I had a gym date a few weeks ago and thought it went well. I thought it was a date although I don't know if he did. I'm going to try a gym date with a different guy next week and see how it goes.

    Men who sweat together stay together.
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:14 AM GMT
    sounds like a good time. better than drink/dinner.
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:22 AM GMT
    A date is a date. Whether you're lifting weights or hiking or going to the movies. You're both participating in an activity that you both enjoy.
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:25 AM GMT
    I've done it before, it's actually kinda cool. we traded some of our favorite work outs to do and it was a great learning experience if nothing else.
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    Not quite the same thing, but I met a former b.f. while out running during my lunch hour one day. (Our company had showers for us to use after working out). Anyway, we set up a date to go running the next day - a Saturday. It was good to go for a long run, and get sweaty together. Then, we showered up (got a glimpse of what we each looked like undressed) and got dressed & went to dinner. A great date - doing something we both liked, and testing each others' endurance. So yeah, a gym or running date can be a good start.
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    I would love that!
  • DCguy2001

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    Jan 26, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    It's a little unusual but not super weird - I might go on one next week. You can make conversation during the workout, and also check out the other guy's body...
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    Jan 26, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    TheCelticFury saidA guy asked me to go to the gym with him as our meeting/date.

    Would you ask a guy or go meet a guy for the first time at the gym? I thought it was pretty weird.


    I don't think it's wierd. It's what guys do.
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    Jan 26, 2012 8:15 AM GMT
    who the fuck takes someone out on a date to the gym? no wonder you're all single. lol.

    I mean, I can understand after you guys get to know each other pretty well then yeah ok, going to the gym together isn't so weird. first or second date? lol. might as well start shaving each others back hair since thats all the fun you're gonna get.
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    Jan 26, 2012 8:16 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidwho the fuck takes someone out on a date to the gym? no wonder you're all single. lol.

    I mean, I can understand after you guys get to know each other pretty well then yeah ok, going to the gym together isn't so weird. first or second date? lol. might as well start shaving each others back hair since thats all the fun you're gonna get.


    I agree.

    Omg, wanna get to know each other? - Let's go to the gym. . .uhm, no.
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    Jan 26, 2012 8:17 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidwho the fuck takes someone out on a date to the gym? no wonder you're all single. lol.

    I mean, I can understand after you guys get to know each other pretty well then yeah ok, going to the gym together isn't so weird. first or second date? lol. might as well start shaving each others back hair since thats all the fun you're gonna get.


    LOL. Ew, back hair. Luckily we're Asian so we don't have to worry about that. Well, at least I don't... icon_wink.gificon_razz.gif

    I agree. "Gym" and "date" should never be mutually inclusive.
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    Jan 26, 2012 8:25 AM GMT
    There are a couple situations where the gym could be a fun first date.
    Private gym (no one else there) and possibly a private class, rock climbing wall, tennis match, racquetball, or some unusual class (maybe a trapeze or with a trampoline) would all be fun dates.

    Doing your gym routine with a new guy at your regular crowded gym while waiting for the sweaty guy to finish his set and dealing with people who don't know how to re-rack their weights is not a fun first date.