Dating someone 5 years older than me...

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    Jan 26, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    Ok so 5 years is not that much however maybe the age bridge could be a bit bigger cos I'm 20 and he's 25. Do you think there'll be any problems?
    Thanks for your advice guys!
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    Jan 26, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    Not unless either of you make it so.
  • starboard5

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    Jan 26, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    I don't think there necessarily has to be problems, though the gap between 20 and 25 is much greater than between 30 and 35... It barely exists between 40 and 45. So if it's good, you two just need to hang in there!
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    Jan 26, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    Im Latin/Caribbean.. age gaps dont exist here
  • araphael

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    Jan 26, 2012 5:09 AM GMT
    Are you serious? Is this a real question, you-20, him-25. Your practically the same age. He doesn't know that much more than you. You're good dude.
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    Jan 26, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    Whether or not you are compatible doesn't have a whole lot to do with age.

    Five years is not a big gap

    Enjoy each others company, & see where it goes.

    Good luck to you both!icon_biggrin.gif
  • ohioguy12

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    Jan 26, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    5 years isn't much, but if he likes to go to bars/clubs with you being underage, that could cause some difficulties.
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    Jan 26, 2012 7:19 AM GMT
    One potential gap is if one of you is still completing his education, while the other is in the workforce. If you aren't both firmly established in your careers, for example, life may take you away from each other. That is, of course, a longer term issue... you don't say how long you've been together.

    Other than that, the 5 year gap doesn't mean a whole lot.

    EDIT: Good Luck.
  • Suetonius

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    Jan 26, 2012 7:42 AM GMT
    Don't concern yourself with the future. Take each day as it happens. Que sera, sera. Who is to know? No one. If things work out, they work out. If not, you get to move on.
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    Jan 26, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    Oddly, to this day from the age of 25 onward every guy I dated who was exactly five years older was always mistaken for my father.
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    Jan 26, 2012 7:59 AM GMT
    BuddyinNYC saidNot unless either of you make it so.


    Exactly. You're both pretty much at the same maturity level for all intents and purposes, so age isn't going to determine if your relationship is successful or not. The both of you are.

    I don't know what the drinking age is in Norway, but if you were in the US where the drinking age is 21, that might create some level of friction since you couldn't socialize in bars with your mate and his friends.
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    Jan 26, 2012 8:21 AM GMT
    I dont think this question is necessary useless you're not 101% comfortable on where you're at now with that relationship.

    As I know of I dont see a problem on a scale of 5 years gap , Only if its 10 to 20 years or more then the probability of problems will arise icon_biggrin.gif .

    besides 5 years is a healthy age gap icon_smile.gif
  • sillyror

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    Jan 26, 2012 8:39 AM GMT
    i had a long, wonderful relationship with someone 11 years my senior. I think 5 is nothing to worry about
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    Jan 26, 2012 9:07 AM GMT
    Meh. 5 years isn't a big gap in age so I think you'll be fine in that aspect.
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    Jan 26, 2012 10:42 AM GMT
    that depens on you guys. your maturity... his... what your goals are... around 25 guys tend to start formulating a plan of actions for goals and dreams to complete. 20... you're usually just coming out to the world and want to feel it in all its glory... it really just depends on you both. Good luck... I wish you the best.
  • NursePractiti...

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    Jan 26, 2012 11:22 AM GMT
    My partner and I are 8 year apart and about to celebrate our 13th anniversary. So 5 should not be a problem.
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    Jan 26, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    intensity69 saidOne potential gap is if one of you is still completing his education, while the other is in the workforce. If you aren't both firmly established in your careers, for example, life may take you away from each other. That is, of course, a longer term issue... you don't say how long you've been together.

    Other than that, the 5 year gap doesn't mean a whole lot.

    EDIT: Good Luck.


    Well I am still in University and he's already working. Cool thing is that we both studied the same, so we really understand each other and we also both practice the same sports and like pretty much the same things. One of the issues is that Im not completely out yet while he is and that kind of bothers him.
    Btw, thank you so so much for the advices guys icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 26, 2012 5:40 PM GMT
    Age is just a number, my friend. Keep that in mind and everything will fall into place icon_cool.gif
  • nefficles

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    Jan 26, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    well im 21 and my boyfriend is 30. we're doing amazing. i think it just depends on how mature the both of you are mentally, and if you view being at two different stages in your life as a pro or con.
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    Jan 26, 2012 6:15 PM GMT
    I think it's the individuals that matter, upbringing, life experience. In my experiences once you're past 25, age gaps aren't that much of an issue, 20-25 can be sometimes. Let alone you might want to take into a count what age either of you came out, it can change the dynamic dramatically.
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    nursemuscle saidMy partner and I are 8 year apart and about to celebrate our 13th anniversary. So 5 should not be a problem.


    Well, thing is that it is so confusing sometimes he's flirting and stuff and then he goes all "whatever" on me...Sadly, I think it wont work icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:10 AM GMT
    5 yrs is not a big deal at all. It could get more difficult as the gap goes beyond that though.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 27, 2012 2:20 AM GMT
    why would there be a problem. as long as you two communicate effectively than you should never have a problem
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    5 years isn't a lot at all. However, there is a good bit of maturing that comes in your early 20s. I'm 23 and don't even feel like the same person I was when I was 20, and I'm willing to bet in my later 20s I will feel the same about myself now. Other than that, if it works for you, enjoy it and don't worry about it.
  • FuzzyRich

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    Jan 27, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    wolfpackbuddy said5 years isn't a lot at all. However, there is a good bit of maturing that comes in your early 20s. I'm 23 and don't even feel like the same person I was when I was 20, and I'm willing to bet in my later 20s I will feel the same about myself now. Other than that, if it works for you, enjoy it and don't worry about it.
    I agree 100%, I'm only vaguely the same person that I was when I was 23.