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    Jun 25, 2008 5:49 PM GMT
    This is to you, man. In all my years at the gym, I have never ever seen someone as dedicated and determined as you. I sit here on my pull-down station, looking at you, in your wheelchair...so crippled, but so determined to be normal. You bring a huge smile to my face. I walk on the tread climber and look down over you getting out of your RAV4. I see you open the back door to get something to hold onto until you can get to your wheelchair in the back.

    I hold the door for you when you get close to the entrance, and you seem to thank me. You don't do it with words, but I know you are greatful. I talk to you often, but I think you look at me the same way as everyone else who talks to you: Like I have sympathy for you and secretly look down on you inside. In actuality, you enthuse me. You make me want to realize how I fucking take everything for granted. My legs? They are no privilege...until I see you. A fire inside ignites and its easier to see the things that can be taken away from me at any time. The best part for you man, is it looks like you are doing fine without your legs.

    But as I sit here on the flat bench and watch you do pull ups, I just try to imagine, just for a second, what it must be like for you. Do you get criticized everywhere? What do you do when nobody is there to open the door for you? Those are heavy! I can't blame you for this one; but why won't you talk to me? I know you have the ability to talk. It is OK man, just know I'm a huge fan of yours. I just cant grasp the idea that you, with all your setbacks and challenges, can make it to the gym, perform all the exercises, and even put on more muscle than me.

    You, sir, are my idol. And don't you thing for a second that I won't be there if you ever need my help. I will spot you. I will help you get in or out of your car (remember the other day?). You are no different in my eyes, and the shit you get at the gym WILL STOP, or I will personally take care of it. Would you get mad if I did that for you? You probably would, but I see what it does to you, and you should see what it does to me.

    So, this is to you bud. For all your love, power, determination, dedication, courage and happiness. Don't worry man, nobody can take those away from you.

    I'll be here always,
    Tyler
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    Jun 25, 2008 6:02 PM GMT
    *applauds hysterically* icon_lol.gif

    Tyler, since when did you start becoming so poetic? And yeah, sometimes the best inspiration comes from guys who are way worse off than we are and yet have twice the willpower we have. Thanks for sharing. icon_biggrin.gif

    I'm curious, is he a real person in your gym?
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    Jun 25, 2008 6:05 PM GMT
    Sedative said*applauds hysterically* icon_lol.gif

    Tyler, since when did you start becoming so poetic? And yeah, sometimes the best inspiration comes from guys who are way worse off than we are and yet have twice the willpower we have. Thanks for sharing. icon_biggrin.gif

    I'm curious, is he a real person in your gym?



    Yea, it is. He is just the most inspirational person I have ever seen with my own eyes.
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    Jun 25, 2008 6:12 PM GMT
    Trocks... i love this. Every word!

    Thank you for posting this, and next time you see said man, thank him for me too!
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    Jun 25, 2008 6:20 PM GMT
    Trocks, How moving! Thank you for this. You are very fortunate as he is to know this man. You have truly moved me. I am going to print this and the next time I am feeling down and don't feel like working out I will read it. Thanks Buddy!
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    Jun 25, 2008 6:29 PM GMT
    Nice, Trocks. Thanks for this.
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    Jun 25, 2008 6:32 PM GMT
    fan-freaking-tastic.

    thanks for sharing that, dude.
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    Jun 25, 2008 6:46 PM GMT
    I understand how youe feel. Several years back I had a co-worker that was confined to a wheelchair after he had undergone several brain surgeries.
    He was extremely independent and would only ask for help loading and unlaoding his wheelchair from the trunk of his sportscar.
    He had massive arms which he needed in order to move his body and his chair around all day. Best of all. he didn't take any S**T from anyone about being in a chair. He never wanted to be viewed as disabled and wouldn't think of getting a disabled plate for his car. He may have lost the use of his legs and most of his torso but he never lost his dignity or his zest for life. (We can take so much for granted.)
    He too never really expressed as much gratitude as he felt and we were all happy to keep an eye out for him.
    He has since passed away from his illness but your story was a nice trip down memory lane.
    Keep being the nice guy that you are and your gym mate will some day come around and you may get that conversation after all.
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    Jun 25, 2008 8:03 PM GMT
    Since he wont talk to me yet, I just wanted to let people know how I feel. I've never had a experience like this-- especially in the gym! I see handicapped people everywhere but in the gym?? I just signaled to me something. He wont talk to me and its really making me think that when he talks to people they just make fun of him or they don't truly care. And those people are on my list now.

    Thanks for the support guys, I was really just typing to express some feelings! NJMuscle. Nice story! I am not sure what he has...maybe someone further along in medical school would be able to guess, but I hope its not fatal.

    Anyone else have any stories? Or other inspirations in disguise?
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    Jun 25, 2008 8:12 PM GMT
    Freakin' awesome piece. Nice, Trocks. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 25, 2008 8:17 PM GMT
    Awesome, man! We have a guy at our gym who has difficulty walking, even with crutches. He has had several hip replacements, but they keep failing. He's a relatively young guy (late 30's early 40's), but he's very dedicated -- and he's a nice guy, one of the few who talk to me at the gym. Guys like these help keep things in perspective, do they not?
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    Jun 25, 2008 8:49 PM GMT
    Yeah man. For me it was more of a slap in the face!!
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    Jun 25, 2008 9:03 PM GMT
    Wow. I can't say anything except wow... to both of you.
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    Jun 25, 2008 10:04 PM GMT
    "...the shit you get at the gym WILL STOP"...

    Please tell me people don't stare and whisper about him. Please tell me that.

  • qalbi30

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    Jun 25, 2008 10:11 PM GMT
    Thanks for sharing a wonderful story,an inspiration for us all when we are feeling low.

    Warmest regards man,you are a winner !
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    Jun 25, 2008 10:52 PM GMT
    Hands down, one of the BEST threads EVER!! Thanks for sharing your feelings and your thoughts, very awe-inspiring! Thank him for me as well!
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    Jun 25, 2008 11:06 PM GMT
    I agree - this is one of the best forum entries I've ever read. After reading "am I cute?" and "who would you do?" threads, what an inspiring change of pace this is. I felt like I was there with you as I read it. There's definitely a strong message here. Thanks for sharing this.
  • Barricade

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    Jun 26, 2008 12:43 AM GMT
    Very moving. I did some volunteer work at Bradford Woods in Indiana. It was very eye-opening and it puts your own life in perspective or at least makes you thankful for what I take for granted daily.
    Like someone else mentioned...people actually give this guy a hard time or something? They should get a punch in the face. There should be more people like you around. Thanks for sharing. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 26, 2008 12:48 AM GMT
    Trocks, you ROCK dude!


    I am SOOOOO happy to see something inspirational that is real and from the heart.

    May we all be that sensitive and take a moment to appreciate what we have.

    KEEP UP!


    ---- Ron
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    Jun 26, 2008 1:52 AM GMT
    Trocks, I wonder if this is the same guy I see every Sunday at Cherokee Park.

    For those who don't live in Louisville, the park is a beautiful park designed by Olmstead and has a 2.4 mile loop that people walk, bike and run. There are some major hills and even I can't run the whole thing without stopping. But there is this man in a wheel chair, and I see him every Sunday that I'm there, making multiple loops around the park. He also travels to and from the park via his chair on the sidewalks, no car for him.
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    Jun 26, 2008 4:41 AM GMT
    This is just such a wonderful thread, and a beautiful thought.

    I <3 you, Tyler icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 26, 2008 4:49 AM GMT
    That was very sweet Tyler.

    BTW. Nice new pics Tim!
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    Jun 26, 2008 4:51 AM GMT
    That awesome expression of personal struggle totally puts the rest of us in our relative place as we imagine watching it.

    But it made me think of those that are fighting a personal struggle that is invisible. What about all those that are pressing on in the gym and that suffer from depression? Depression that grabs hold of the brain and leaves a person without the ability to will himself to act. When your brain is out of whack, so goes your body. Medication can help, but it is still a hard fight.
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    Jun 26, 2008 4:57 AM GMT
    Caslon4000 saidBut it made me think of those that are fighting a personal struggle that is invisible.
    Thats a good point Cal, we many times never know what struggles other people have until we get to know them. Its good to keep an open mind and not be judgmental.
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    Nov 08, 2008 3:06 AM GMT
    Just so you all know, he has been attending the gym every day! I dont know what he does for a job or anything, but he comes at different times. He has gained more muscle, and the other day he said "thanks man" when I help the door.

    All I wanted to do was hug him!