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how often do you cry? for what? when was the last time?

I havent really cried in 3 years at my cousin's funeral. Im not really an emotional person. But when I hear a certain song on my ipod it makes me think of my cousin and my eyes water up. There have been times where I was sad and a tear or two fell but I wasnt really crying a bunch of tears. It was just a few.

I can be such a crybaby, mostly from watching movies. The last one that REALLY did it to be was two years ago at the Festival Nouveau Cinéma. I watched Efter Brylluppet (After the Wedding), a Danish film that was also nominated for an Oscar. I cried and cried, and then when I tried to tell my roommates about it I cried some more. It was kind of ridiculous.

And I cried REALLY bad when I watched the series finale of Six Feet Under. Fantastic show.

I dont cry very much, over the years i have actually tryied to keep myself from crying at all do to the usual stigma against men crying and how i was raised, but once in a while there are things that will make me break down and cry, the last time was sometime last year.

I think that stimga of which you speak is so destructive. Crying is healthy and natural. Why bottle it all up inside you when you can just let it out?

it is viewed as weak, and i know better now but after hearing it for years it kind of becomes apart of you

Crying is very healthy due to the secretion of stress hormones in the tears. Unfortunately society stigmatizes men that cry. Society would rather have men drown their sorrows in alcohol or take out their sadness in other self-destructive behaviour. Very strange.

My brother and his son both cried easily as kids, but I did not (still don't). My mom and dad always commented with irritation that they hated when my brother or his son cried. Their attitude is a microcosm of what happens to boys growing up. From a very early age they are shamed into suppressing tears. Not healthy, not at all healthy.

When I was younger and more sensitive I cried but now its the odd Movie that brings tears to my eyes.

My B/F is young and he cries easy so I do my best never to say the wrong thing or hurt his feelings if possible.

Sometimes I get so down.. I do a lot of cryng at night in the dark where no one can see or hear me. So much on my plate

chrisaz saidSometimes I get so down.. I do a lot of cryng at night in the dark where no one can see or hear me. So much on my plate

Sorry to hear that, I went through similar emotions when I was your age. You may be depressed (I know I was).

I guess I almost never cry - I really am so lucky, I've had so many good breaks, I just don't have anything to cry about. Even at my grandmother's funeral, I didn't feel like crying because I feel like she went on up to a far better place.

Nothing wrong with a guy crying - but if you make a gratitude list, you may find you have so much to be grateful for.

I'm a massive crybaby I cry with the drop of a hat..was a crybaby as a kid, and still is now. I cry over television shows "sob sob"...the most recent one was over Grey's Anatomy's season finale..oh oh and Brothers & Sisters' season finale...and i've gotta admit it..I have cried over Oprah on some of her more tear-jerking episodes ("EEEWWWW Oprah??" I heard you say)..yes I watch Oprah sometimes on boring afternoons when I'm off from uni and that being the only interesting show on TV lol...in terms of crying over an 'event'..the last time would be when I came out to the first person in my life..my elder bro's ex..massive weight lifted off my shoulders and I cried and cried and cried..glad that I can speak to her like my own sister now ohh not to forget..I cry along when I see people close to me cry..so there you go..need me to cry you a river? message me

I don't cry. Sometimes, my eyes just leak.

You should get a plumber about that!

This topic is making me sad to the point of tears.

I cry whenever I'm arguing with my parents mainly. I might shed a tear in romantic films too.

Definitely when friends move away because I know the relationship will never be the same. Often cry with anything final or embarking on something new. Fierce loyalist here.

Last time I cried? My birthday, when a friend on campus snuck up behind me and gave me a hug and kiss. It's the going joke that we only hug on New Year's so this was an extra surprise!

I was such a hardass when I was younger. Lately I get a little choked up at odd things.

I was judging a dance competition and this fat girl was dancing beautifully. I immediately thought of a few of the fat girls I knew and heard their voices in my head--how upset they were that they could never be taken seriously because they were fat. And this girl was dancing well. I felt deeply for her as she performed, almost as though I were her father. She's somebody's daughter, I thought, and it got me choked up. I gave her a gold with honors.

mickeytopogigio saidI was such a hardass when I was younger. Lately I get a little choked up at odd things.

You could be sufferin' Man-O-Pause

ActiveAndFit saidYou could be sufferin' Man-O-Pause

Does man-o-pause cause moobs? I could swear my chest was harder than this.

BTW, I don't mean to demean crying. I just got news (Friday) that my second boyfriend committed suicide and I shed some tears. He was really a sweet guy who deserved more happiness.

mickeytopogigio saidDoes man-o-pause cause moobs? I could swear my chest was harder than this.

I don't know, but if you want me to suck on them and see if I can draw milk the I could certainly oblige you

Most likely you'd get Diet Coke if you sucked hard enough.

for all those in the throws of love, this vid's for you!!

mickeytopogigio saidMost likely you'd get Diet Coke if you sucked hard enough.

Yuck!! I hate diet drinks!

I could switch to Pepto Bismol.

I'm with Benjamin, up above, as I sometimes cry watching the occasional movie but I go about it in a "manly" sort of way; I don't cry over things in real life so I suspect I project onto the movies - This way I maintain my masculine distance. Eat that Dr. Freud.

PS By crying, I mean one or two tears roll down my cheek.

mickeytopogigio saidI was judging a dance competition and this fat girl was dancing beautifully.

Are you sure you are not just thinking of that blind melon video?

5537B00B saidPS By crying, I mean one or two tears roll down my cheek.

That reminds me of that commercial with the crying chief .. it got to me every time I saw it


I mean I can't believe people threw out those perfectly good fries, I bet Chief Iron Eyes Cody wasn't even hungry

I cry at times for some of the idiotic posts on here!

I'm man enough to admit that I'm not manly when it comes to crying. I cry often and lately with coming out, divorce and my dad dying, I'm amazed I still have any to cry. But they're there, I lost it completely when I read mnjock's posting about his dad (mine is still fresh too). Sometimes I feel good about it, but other times I'm more than a little embarrassed.

eb925guy said Sometimes I feel good about it, but other times I'm more than a little embarrassed.

Hey, EB finally has a face! Can I pet your monkey? Really though, Sorry about your troubles. Crying guys can be sexy I think.

ActiveAndFit said[quote]Hey, EB finally has a face! Can I pet your monkey? Really though, Sorry about your troubles. Crying guys can be sexy I think.

You can pet my monkey anytime you want . Yes, finally decided that now I'm out to my immediately family so why not be out to you guys

I cry a lot when I meditate and/or listen to really moving music. I have a lot of trouble telling exactly why I'm crying, though. On the one hand I think I feel a lot of melancholy, but I also often cry at this overwhelming sense of humbling awe. So it's kind of one part sadness, one part surrender, one part joy. "Tenderness" describes it pretty well.

I cry easily at emotional movies, even when I know it's totally emotionally manipulative, with the well-timed string swells and the like. Hey, it wouldn't be manipulation if it didn't move me!

Another cryin' video .. love that "Pearl"



Sorry for all the videos, it's definitely a YouTube night

the last time i was cry is when i got the news of darren hayes marriage. not because of happiness.i was/am in love with him.

I can shed tears when listening to a stirring piece of music, or when watching a touching movie, like "Seabiscuit" or "To Kill A Mockingbird."

Sometimes I'm moved by a great piece of writing.

I didn't cry at my father's funeral. I did more than my part to take care of him at the end and I certainly behaved appropriately at the funeral. . . but he was a perfectly awful guy, and I didn't feel compelled to cry.

On the other hand, when Tim Russert, George Carlin and Mickey Mantle died, I watched the news with tears in my eyes.

My cousin Malvina just died last night.

I cannot describe her with any justice, but she had a life of the sort they write novels about. A harrowing escape from the Nazis, and a subsequent ascent to high society in New York, all the while remaining one of the kindest, smartest, and most stylish people I have ever known.

And yes, I got the news today, and I cried.

My condolences, jprichva.

Last time I cried was when I saw the movie "AUGUST RUSH"...and I cried buckets!

cry; don't remember when probably when I was a kid and didn't get something I wanted. I get choked up about stuff but not an all out cry.

watching this did it to me the other day.

[cite]NorthFl said[/cite]cry; watching this did it to me the other day.

OK, that brought tears to my eyes....wow..remarkable, how heart warming is that!

Sedative saidMy condolences, jprichva.

Thanks, Eric.

I can't watch Extreme Home Makeover anymore...I tear up. LOL!

I used to never really cry, but a few years ago I had a mental breakdown of sorts, which was entirely necessary. I was just bottling everything up and one day it all broke apart and the floodwaters filled the pools and the havens. Now I let my emotions do what they do, and I cry quite often. Movies do it especially, because I think of things not as plot but as fact and on a global scale. I saw War, Inc. last week, which is an incredibly funny and bleak, black satire on the Iraq war, and in one scene I was torn between laughter and tears. A tank made its way through a middle eastern town, ravaged by war, and explosions and children were abound, caught in the crossfire of it all, I started crying... but on the back of the tank was an advertisement for Cola or something, a comment on American consumerism that made me laugh ridiculously hard between my tears.

I think the best thing to do is just go with how it goes and let it be.

I get visibly emotional around these.

McGay saidI get visibly emotional around these.

I defeat that emotional response with these:

jprichva saidMy cousin Malvina just died last night.

I cannot describe her with any justice, but she had a life of the sort they write novels about. A harrowing escape from the Nazis, and a subsequent ascent to high society in New York, all the while remaining one of the kindest, smartest, and most stylish people I have ever known.

And yes, I got the news today, and I cried.

Jeff, Sorry to hear of the loss or your cousin. My condolences to you.

This guy I was going out with was sort of bragging how he could rip into anyone and make them cry. I guaranteed him that would never happen. I am use to people being an ass or mean. What gets me to break the flood gates, is honest and sincere acts of love or kindness. If that happens I can't hold back my blubbering tears.

And when by myself, certain songs and damn Grey's Anatomy.

jprichva saidI cannot describe her with any justice, but she had a life of the sort they write novels about. A harrowing escape from the Nazis, and a subsequent ascent to high society in New York, all the while remaining one of the kindest, smartest, and most stylish people I have ever known.

Yes, our condolences.

I always find the lives of these kinds of people full of valuable lessons and fascinating events unknown. Maybe someone in the family can collect some stuff (personal writings, letters and stuff) an write something up about her? My mother had a whole suitcase of my grandmothers photos, letters and stuff, and started to write a small biography.

I usually don't cry, when there's no reason to. I'm the sentimental type who'll cry during "The Notebook" and some parts of "Love Actually". I can laugh and cry at the same time if something is funny or positively shocking enough. I broke down crying for hours after a week of complete shock of my grandfather's death.

But I've been out of touch with my emotions for almost a year now, had a job to keep me occupied, but that didn't work for me, so now I play World of Warcraft for long hours powerleveling and working the auction house. But once in a while when I think of my ex and how stupid he was to dump me, the game isn't enough and I find myself wiping tears after I found out I was crying. How sadly pathetic. Can't wait for Arizona, at least my friends, booze and the clubs I know can keep me sane.

Jockbod48 saidI guess I almost never cry - I really am so lucky, I've had so many good breaks, I just don't have anything to cry about. Even at my grandmother's funeral, I didn't feel like crying because I feel like she went on up to a far better place.

Nothing wrong with a guy crying - but if you make a gratitude list, you may find you have so much to be grateful for.

Same thing with me at my grandmother's funeral. I felt bad, but I didn't cry. I did feel the tears coming though

Sometimes I will during movies and certain songs. Most recent was the movie Latter Days.

I just don't cry. Nothing in my life has been that traumatic or deeply moving to bring me to tears. I laughed during Titanic and found it hilarious. P.S. I love you was damf good movie and came a little close to getting me to tear up but I prevailed. I guess I'm an emotionless bastard who's saving his tears for something worthwhile like harsh breakup or something or a dead lover.

I was recently watching an episode of All in the Family.

Gloria and Mike were finally moving out of Archie/Edith's house. The climax of the actual "leaving"moment was hard to watch. Edith ran off to the kitchen, Archie walked back to his chair choking back the tears. This made me cry!

I can relate so much and often to this moment avoiding the inevitable, and trying my best to be stoic.

last time i cried was when i found out that a good friend whom i had a crush on had killed himself. that was pretty hard. (well still is)
he had had a period of depression & had seemed to have gotten better, but i got the news from his twin sister on June 24th that he had passed away...so yeah that was the last time i cried. it helps, still does help really.

north_runner saidlast time i cried was when i found out that a good friend whom i had a crush on had killed himself. that was pretty hard. (well still is)
he had had a period of depression & had seemed to have gotten better, but i got the news from his twin sister on June 24th that he had passed away...so yeah that was the last time i cried. it helps, still does help really.

Sorry to hear that North Runner . I am lucky that I have never had a friend or family member kill themselves. Just attempts, but none successful so far. Mind you the attempts are hard enough on one's psyche.

CRY ME A RİVER wasnt this a justin timberlake song?

turk saidCRY ME A RİVER wasnt this a justin timberlake song?

I don't know, but Joan Baez sang it 40 years ago.