Relationship Advice!

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    Jan 27, 2012 12:59 AM GMT
    So I've kinda been looking around for a guy close to me for a while that wants to have a serious relationship. I've never had a relationship with a guy, only girls (much easier) and I really want one. Its definitely proved to be hard to find one, and I'm about ready to give up. I recently pretty much just wasted my time on two guys that I really liked who played me.
    It seems like when a guy is trying to pull away I like them more and if a guy is infatuated with me then I couldn't care less. When they pull away it bothers me so much, and that probably just makes them pull away even faster. I don't know why this is and its really aggravating. It's just really discouraging icon_sad.gif For all of you guys out there in a relationship (or single guys with good advice) any suggestions? Do any of you feel that way? I guess it's old saying "You want what you can't have".
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    because most people want what they can't have. when you can not have something you usually try harder to get it
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    Jan 27, 2012 6:46 AM GMT
    You like the chase.
    It's fun, but at some point you'll have to grow past it. If you're only into guys who aren't into you, you're in for some awful relationships.
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    Jan 27, 2012 7:27 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidbecause most people want what they can't have. when you can not have something you usually try harder to get it


    Agreed.

    Don't go looking for something you desire and rightfully deserve. It will seemingly run from you at times. I've made that mistake for too long, that when the time came to actually have a chance the guy I fell for; I chose to finally run... so lost, confused and stupid. Probably, won't happen to you like it did me, but still; live life, be happy, wait for it cause like the felon says, "Good things, take time...".
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    Jan 27, 2012 12:45 PM GMT
    MolaMola saidYou like the chase.
    It's fun, but at some point you'll have to grow past it. If you're only into guys who aren't into you, you're in for some awful relationships.


    I whole heartedly agree with this.
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    Jan 27, 2012 12:49 PM GMT
    Another guy who wants to give up on relationships at 18?

    Yeesh.
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    Jan 27, 2012 1:06 PM GMT
    Charlieee said .... relationship with a guy, only girls (much easier) ...

    It seems like when a guy is trying to pull away I like them more and if a guy is infatuated with me then I couldn't care less.

    For all of you guys out there in a relationship (or single guys with good advice) any suggestions? Do any of you feel that way?


    Being in a relationship with a girl is easier? Uhm NO WAY. The same bullshit happens with girls as it does with guys. Having been in a few relationships with girls (A long time ago) I think they're actually more manipulative and passive aggressive then guys are...... You just haven't dated the right guy yet.

    It bothers you if a guy isn't into you? Well... that's called being rejected. NO ONE likes being rejected. It's bound to bother you.

    I hope 14.5 years in a long term relationship makes me credible. Trust me. All relationships have their high points and low points and all relationships, no matter how perfect they seem, take some hard work at times. There are even unpleasant aspects some times but if both parties are willing to work through them the relationship comes out stronger and the people involved usually have a better understanding of each other.

    Without sounding condescending .... you're only 18. You're still discovering yourself no matter how mature people think you are. This is a time in your life when you should be focusing on building the foundation for the rest of your life so the rest of the blocks fall into place a little easier. A relationship will come naturally if it's meant to happen. When I met my spouse I had given up actively looking for a relationship/boyfriend. It happened naturally and it's awesome!

    Could it be that you're in love with the IDEA of being in a relationship?

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    Jan 27, 2012 2:32 PM GMT
    Charlieee, this:"It seems like when a guy is trying to pull away I like them more and if a guy is infatuated with me then I couldn't care less."

    It sounds like this is also the kind of man you are getting involved with.

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    Jan 27, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    It's all good. Just keep at it.

    No offense to you under 21 guys but ya'll don't really have anything to be jaded about especially when you've just started the journey. Just sayin'.

    You're too young and inexperienced to be giving up so soon.