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    Jan 27, 2012 5:23 AM GMT
    What masculine man has married his man while still on Active Duty?
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    Jan 27, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    I havent heard of it. But now that "DADT" has been abolished, you probably will be seeing it. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 27, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    Apparently nobody in Oklahoma.
    http://www.okcfox.com/newsroom/top_stories/videos/kokh_vid_4571.shtml
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    Jan 27, 2012 5:44 AM GMT
    The other question is .. when one does get married are you required to tell your crew.
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    Jan 27, 2012 11:03 AM GMT
    Well you probably have to tell about change in marital status for your paperwork. There are benefits (PX, insurance, etc.) that you wouldn't want to miss out on.
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    Jan 27, 2012 11:28 AM GMT
    Bigsmiles saidWell you probably have to tell about change in marital status for your paperwork. There are benefits (PX, insurance, etc.) that you wouldn't want to miss out on.


    Not legally there aren't. Under federal law (DOMA), it is illegal for any part of the federal government to recognize gay marriage. Doesn't matter if you are out or where you married , it is not recognized.
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    Jan 27, 2012 7:26 PM GMT
    Sorry but here is the DoD statement and what same sex spouses DO get.. yes, DOMA doesn't allow housing allowances, etc..yet

    http://www.defense.gov/news/newsarticle.aspx?id=65857

    he 14 benefits identified for members to designate whomever they wish as beneficiaries are:
    -- Service Members Group Life Insurance beneficiary;
    -- Post Vietnam-era Veterans Assistance Program beneficiary;
    -- All-volunteer Force Educational Assistance Program – Active Duty Death Benefit beneficiary;
    -- Death Gratuity beneficiary;
    -- Final Settlement of Accounts;
    -- Wounded Warrior Designated Caregiver;
    -- Thrift Savings Plan beneficiary;
    -- Survivor Benefit for retirees;
    -- Casualty Notification;
    -- Escorts for Dependents of Deceased or Missing;
    -- Designation of Persons Having Interest in Status of a Missing Member;
    -- Veterans’ Group Life Insurance beneficiary;
    -- Person Eligible to Receive Effects of Deceased Persons; and
    -- Travel and Transportation Allowance: attendance at Yellow Ribbon Reintegration events.
    Eligibility for a number of other benefits is restricted by applicable statutes, including the Defense of Marriage Act.
    Finally, in connection with the repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell,” Lainez said, “the Defense Department is engaged in a careful and deliberate review of the possibility of revising the eligibility for additional benefits, if legally permitted.” Service members are encouraged to contact their personnel offices for more information.
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    Jan 27, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    Almost did, but thankfully not before we broke up.
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    Jan 30, 2012 2:20 AM GMT
    almost none yet. Even so, the military is not giving good benefits to same-sex couples. Can't even live together on base yet. The military still has a long ways to go even though DADT is gone.

    Probably will start seeing more married couples though.
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    Jan 30, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    i would like to meet a few married same sex couples.. the benefits would be great for the use of the commissary ... .... but who wants to live on base....