What is "The Club"?

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    Jan 27, 2012 1:28 PM GMT
    I was thinking that a lot of guys say or imply that they are "not into the club scene" but I'm not really sure what people imagine when they write or read this statement. What is the club scene? What is it they imagine they don't like about it? Not all clubs are the same, not all crowds are the same... Is there something at the club they don't like?

    I"m not sure I'm "into the scene" whatever that means (reminds me of my mother telling me not to get sucked into "the gay lifestyle" but, when pressed, she has no specific idea in mind about what that looks like). When I go out to the club, it's mostly to be social with people I already know: bartenders and bouncers and a couple regulars at the one good gay bar in town. And even at a gay venue, I'll go to the bar mostly to socialize with people I'm there with.

    If you're not "into the club/bar scene" what about it are you not into? Or when you hear someone say this, what are you imagining they hate about it?
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    Jan 27, 2012 1:32 PM GMT
    UP IN THE CLUB
    JUST BROKE UP
    DOIN MA OWN LIL THING
    U DECIDED 2 DIP
    AN NOW U ON A TRIP
    CUZ ANOTHA BROTHA NOTICED ME
    IM UP ON HIM
    HE UP ON ME
    DONT PAY HIM ANY ATTENTION
    I BEEN CRYIN MA TEARS
    FOR 3 GOOD YEARS
    U CANT BE MAD AT ME

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    Jan 27, 2012 1:38 PM GMT
    Did that help? icon_biggrin.gif


    loljk

    I don't like going to bars and clubs because I don't like crowds in general and unless I'm in the right mood I'm easily irritable and have headaches often. I don't go to Pride either, but I also don't go to concerts etc.
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:22 PM GMT
    Anduru saidDid that help? icon_biggrin.gif


    loljk

    I don't like going to bars and clubs because I don't like crowds in general and unless I'm in the right mood I'm easily irritable and have headaches often. I don't go to Pride either, but I also don't go to concerts etc.


    U sound like a buzz kill to anyone trying to have a fun time
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidU sound like a buzz kill to anyone trying to have a fun time
    You don't even want me to get started on what you sound like honey.
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:33 PM GMT
    Anduru said
    catfish5 saidU sound like a buzz kill to anyone trying to have a fun time
    You don't even want me to get started on what you sound like honey.


    Calm down killer. I dont want u to get a migrane.
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    Larkin saidI was thinking that a lot of guys say or imply that they are "not into the club scene" but I'm not really sure what people imagine when they write or read this statement. What is the club scene? What is it they imagine they don't like about it? Not all clubs are the same, not all crowds are the same... Is there something at the club they don't like?

    I"m not sure I'm "into the scene" whatever that means (reminds me of my mother telling me not to get sucked into "the gay lifestyle" but, when pressed, she has no specific idea in mind about what that looks like). When I go out to the club, it's mostly to be social with people I already know: bartenders and bouncers and a couple regulars at the one good gay bar in town. And even at a gay venue, I'll go to the bar mostly to socialize with people I'm there with.

    If you're not "into the club/bar scene" what about it are you not into? Or when you hear someone say this, what are you imagining they hate about it?



    Not sure if you're being disingenuous or not. Let's face it; most gay bars are a carbon copy of the next. Sure, there are exceptions, but it's a very predictable and stereotypical scene. One might call itself a "leather bar" and another might be labeled as a "dance club", but in general they all play the same tired techno music with female vocalists going "uhhhh uhhh uhhhhhhh" in the background. And no matter if the guys are wearing leather or glitter, drug abuse, alcoholism, pretentiousness and ageism is sure to be rampant. I've found one or two gay bars that were the exception in Los Angeles, but lately even those have been actively catering to the circuit boy crowd.
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidCalm down killer. I dont want u to get a migrane.
    It's okay, my eardrums will still be in perfect condition by the time I'm your age. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    Its just a way for gay guys to seem more masc.
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    Noise, cliques, music I don't like, I don't think Anduru is really being a party pooper. I don't like the atmosphere either. In our town, we have recently been gifted with an highly increased police presence in the club district. That's no fun. The whole thing reminds me of high school with drinking age IDs.
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    Loud, chaotic, groping hands, islands of cliques with a dash of judging looks thrown in for good measure. Mostly the same in different clubs in different cities, irregardless if it's a gay sports bar or a gay dance club.

    Fun to observe as you stand by the bar in sight of the cute bartender with a vodka lime but not so much fun once absorbed in the scene.
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    Jan 27, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    LJay saidNoise, cliques, music I don't like, I don't think Anduru is really being a party pooper. I don't like the atmosphere either. In our town, we have recently been gifted with an highly increased police presence in the club district. That's no fun. The whole thing reminds me of high school with drinking age IDs.
    Thank you.
    Catfish is known for being a dumbass though, so it's all good.
  • mikey_101

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    Jan 27, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    It means to me, that I activly avoid the social conditioning that goes allong with socialising in a segregated environment.

    my sexuality doesnt define me.

    nor does it define where I socialise, or who with.
  • Kwokpot

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    Jan 27, 2012 3:05 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    Larkin saidI was thinking that a lot of guys say or imply that they are "not into the club scene" but I'm not really sure what people imagine when they write or read this statement. What is the club scene? What is it they imagine they don't like about it? Not all clubs are the same, not all crowds are the same... Is there something at the club they don't like?

    I"m not sure I'm "into the scene" whatever that means (reminds me of my mother telling me not to get sucked into "the gay lifestyle" but, when pressed, she has no specific idea in mind about what that looks like). When I go out to the club, it's mostly to be social with people I already know: bartenders and bouncers and a couple regulars at the one good gay bar in town. And even at a gay venue, I'll go to the bar mostly to socialize with people I'm there with.

    If you're not "into the club/bar scene" what about it are you not into? Or when you hear someone say this, what are you imagining they hate about it?



    Not sure if you're being disingenuous or not. Let's face it; most gay bars are a carbon copy of the next. Sure, there are exceptions, but it's a very predictable and stereotypical scene. One might call itself a "leather bar" and another might be labeled as a "dance club", but in general they all play the same tired techno music with female vocalists going "uhhhh uhhh uhhhhhhh" in the background. And no matter if the guys are wearing leather or glitter, drug abuse, alcoholism, pretentiousness and ageism is sure to be rampant. I've found one or two gay bars that were the exception in Los Angeles, but lately even those have been actively catering to the circuit boy crowd.

    It's REALLY interesting how different the stright club scene is; instead of techno dance music with female singers wailing we have rap or worse regge dance music with rappers wailing...And what's this 'VIP Bottle Service' bullshit all about???? Now in straight clubs they've taken away ALL seating areas, and god forbid you want to rest your feet you have to 'buy' a seat by buy a bottle for hundreds of $.....
    And you young people all fall for that crapicon_confused.gif
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    Jan 27, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    Kwokpot saidAnd you young people all fall for that crapicon_confused.gif
    Uhhhh, not only is that totally ageist, but scruffypup is the same age as you.
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    Jan 27, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 saidIf you keep up this nonconformist thought, the "gay community" will soon ostracize you.
    He will not. icon_rolleyes.gif
    Leave the poor boy alone.
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    Jan 27, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    Anduru said
    LJay saidNoise, cliques, music I don't like, I don't think Anduru is really being a party pooper. I don't like the atmosphere either. In our town, we have recently been gifted with an highly increased police presence in the club district. That's no fun. The whole thing reminds me of high school with drinking age IDs.
    Thank you.
    Catfish is known for being a dumbass though, so it's all good.


    Andlulu is known for that epic fail attempt at MOTD. Lets not go there again. LMFAO
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    Jan 27, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidAndlulu is known for that epic fail attempt at MOTD. Lets not go there again. LMFAO
    I didn't ask anybody to vote for me so....
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    Jan 27, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    Anduru saidUP IN THE CLUB
    JUST BROKE UP
    DOIN MA OWN LIL THING
    U DECIDED 2 DIP
    AN NOW U ON A TRIP
    CUZ ANOTHA BROTHA NOTICED ME
    IM UP ON HIM
    HE UP ON ME
    DONT PAY HIM ANY ATTENTION
    I BEEN CRYIN MA TEARS
    FOR 3 GOOD YEARS
    U CANT BE MAD AT ME

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    lmfaoooooooooo
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    Jan 27, 2012 3:38 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said<


    Well, that means you are a "bad gay" because ... where you live (Wilton Manors, Castro, West Hollywood, Boys Town, Chelsea, etc...)[shows you're a true gay]."

    If you keep up this nonconformist thought, the "gay community" will soon ostracize you.


    I hate to point this out, mainly cause you're cute and I'll be FL this weekend, but South Beach isn't as butch as it used to be.
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    Jan 27, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
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    southbeach1500 saidWell, that means you are a "bad gay" because ... where you live (Wilton Manors, Castro, West Hollywood, Boys Town, Chelsea, etc...)[shows you're a true gay]."
    If you keep up this nonconformist thought, the "gay community" will soon ostracize you.
    I hate to point this out, mainly cause you're cute and I'll be FL this weekend, but South Beach isn't as butch as it used to be.
    Wait..............




    .....did you just call southbeach........








    .......cute? icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 27, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    Shawnathan saidI try to avoid saying that I am not into something - I'd rather say what I am into.
    THIS.
    I can be by all means a Debbie Downer and a Negative Nancy, but I don't post it all over dating site profiles and shit like that because I don't want people to know that right off the bat.
    I'm also not interested in what somebody DOESN'T like, so I would assume people who don't know me yet don't really care what I don't like. At least, not as much as they care about what I DO like.
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    Jan 27, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    I go out all the time, i just prefer a more classy atmosphere than what most of "the clubs" can provide. I'm much more comfortable at an upscale Jazz bar like the Carousel in the Monteleone (hey, i'm from New Orleans, what can i say?) where i can actually hear myself think and have a nice drink while listening to a local musician and/or talking shop with another car guy. Being in a calm atmosphere also encourages me to be calm, something i'm not too good at when I get excited about something.
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    Jan 27, 2012 5:18 PM GMT
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