How Young Is Too Young?

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    Jan 27, 2012 11:06 PM GMT
    So I was on Grindr today and I got the cutest message from this 19 year old kid clumsily trying to hit on me telling me what a great top he is.
    I, am 38, have historically only dated older guys and am quite impatient with young guys, but there was something endearing and cute about his fumbling.
    He is aggressively pursuing me, sending me photos of him in his SFPD Cadet uniform trying to be all tough and manly. OMG it's so ridiculously cute! But cute in that, "I want to pet the puppy" way which is not at all how I can go about it or he will sound condescending.
    He's telling me how he is going to show me a thing or two, um... I'm almost 20 years older than him and was out and dating when he sprung from the womb!
    I'm not sure I am ready to be Mr. Robinson but kind of wish that someone would have taught me when I was his age.
    I would love to hear some feedback on how to proceed. Part of me is curious but another part of me is laughing hysterically and I'm not sure I can keep a straight face if I encourage him and end up face to face with this young guy.

    Advice?
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    Jan 27, 2012 11:26 PM GMT
    It varies...18 if you're in California, 16 if you're in Alabama

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    Jan 27, 2012 11:26 PM GMT
    I'd tap that

    (or in this case, get tapped by that.. meh)
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    Jan 27, 2012 11:51 PM GMT
    i am the same age as you. i would not mess with him but that is me. if he is not even older enough to buy his own beer than why would i want to mess with him? anyhow, you have to make the final decision.
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    Jan 27, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    I'm 32 and slept with a 49 year old the other night. I hope he wasn't 'petting the puppy'....
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    I'd give it a try, you seem to be quite smitten with the puppy. :-)

    Remember to cut out references to his youth and your maturity when you meet, emphasize things that don't have an expiration date, and enjoy. Also, don't forget how you were at his age, and cut him some slack.

    I've dated guys 20 years older and 20 years younger than me, and I have always found the experience amazing. It's like looking through a microscope or a telescope - the same things look so different to people with different amounts of experience.
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:05 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidI count "adult years", starting at 16. (I don't count 'life experience' as learning to eat, shit, and how to say your ABCs.) So, subtracting 16 years from both of you, to me it's a 2 year old dating a 22 year old.

    So no. I wouldn't. icon_lol.gif


    I am 7 and what is this?

  • waccamatt

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    Jan 28, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    He's an adult so that isn't an issue, but I think you sound rather condescending towards him.
  • Timbales

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    Jan 28, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    I like the Age/2+7 guide.
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    Well, go find out, let him have his way with you.

    He's young, he wont last long so if it's a bad experience for you it'll be over before you realise it!
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
    Age is irrelevant, as long as he is an adult. He is 18 and an adult. Many here limit themselves by using age as an excuse to get to know someone. Do what you feel is right, either way he loses or you lose out on getting to know him...or having a good timeicon_redface.gif
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    I'd caution you. He's looking to be your hook-up, not your community service project.
    And are the things you want to teach him the things the 19 year old you would have wanted to hear? Let that help guide your decision.
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    GreenHopper saidI'd tap that

    (or in this case, get tapped by that.. meh)


    You barely know me but know me so well!!
    Haha!
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:34 AM GMT
    dash_8 saidI'm 32 and slept with a 49 year old the other night. I hope he wasn't 'petting the puppy'....


    Rest assured... he was definitely not petting a puppy. ;)
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    themachine saidI'd give it a try, you seem to be quite smitten with the puppy. :-)

    Remember to cut out references to his youth and your maturity when you meet, emphasize things that don't have an expiration date, and enjoy. Also, don't forget how you were at his age, and cut him some slack.

    I've dated guys 20 years older and 20 years younger than me, and I have always found the experience amazing. It's like looking through a microscope or a telescope - the same things look so different to people with different amounts of experience.


    Thank you!! icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:39 AM GMT
    MolaMola saidI'd caution you. He's looking to be your hook-up, not your community service project.
    And are the things you want to teach him the things the 19 year old you would have wanted to hear? Let that help guide your decision.

    You are very right... thank you for that.
    "No community projects"
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    To each his own. For me, I couldn't justify being with anyone under 22, and even that's pushing it. There is just too much of a life experience gap to make the relationship sustainable. Plus, I don't want to raise anyone right now. I'm having too much fun.
  • unjaded

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    Jan 28, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    i've met some guys my age that acted like 12 yr old gurls . some younger guys who have had maturity far beyond their yrs . it all depends on if you want to catagorize all younger guys as puppies and immature. you never know u might get that sexual adventure of your life . you might meet a new friend or it could be nothing . to quote a flashdance line " just pick up the phone and call the dude " < yes this shows my age and am proud of it . i wish you all the best
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:43 AM GMT
    Let him fuck you. Or, send him my way. I could use the screw.
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    Jan 28, 2012 12:59 AM GMT
    Anyone under 45 is too young for me.
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    Jan 28, 2012 1:02 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidI count "adult years", starting at 16. (I don't count 'life experience' as learning to eat, shit, and how to say your ABCs.) So, subtracting 16 years from both of you, to me it's a 2 year old dating a 22 year old.

    So no. I wouldn't. icon_lol.gif


    Cool. I would love to be 20 again - only as the person I am now not the person I was then - if that makes any sense.

    To the OP. 19 is just too young to me.

    I usually like guys older than me, too - but I have to plead guilty to a little flirty fun with a couple of 23 year olds. icon_redface.gif

    I don't think I would do that in real life, though.
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    Jan 28, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    This lil guy sounds like he got swag!

    Haha do it. Better he have someone show him whose boss.
    I was 17 and had a 31 yr old show me what's goin down.
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    Jan 28, 2012 1:28 AM GMT
    I ve never thought of it as a bottom since I'm a top that ends up accepting offers from pups. Eager young hotties have great energy you won't be disappointed if he is a nice guy.
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    Jan 28, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
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    Jan 28, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidI count "adult years", starting at 16. (I don't count 'life experience' as learning to eat, shit, and how to say your ABCs.) So, subtracting 16 years from both of you, to me it's a 2 year old dating a 22 year old.
    So no. I wouldn't. icon_lol.gif
    I'm disappointed in you Dave.