Brotherhood is Enough

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    Jun 26, 2008 1:03 AM GMT
    Perhaps, because of the time I've spent here arguing identity politics and opposing sexual racism, some people think the BGP is spared life's other concerns, and they would be wrong.

    I met a hot, cut-up from the butt up, straight dude at the gym that stood out from the rest, initially, due to his damn near physical perfection. An astounding physical expression of what he represents. So fine it hurts my feelings. There are many Ab-Fitch types at my gym, but this fellow has significant height to go along with his heart-breaking body and face. When I first spotted him, I wrongly presumed that he would be arrogant and unapproachable because of my own unsubstantiated, regrettable and foolish prejudice against those rare birds that break the beautiful scale at the upper end. God forgive me. I've since come to see that some of us really do have the "total package."

    We hit it off immediately and soon began having deep discussions about our life experiences. I developed a strong emotional bond with this prince, who has shared so much with me, including trust. I feel as if I could tell him anything and receive only acceptance and understanding in response.

    Despite the fact that we are dissimilar in race, sexual orientation and background I consider him to be a brother of the spirit. He has such a soulful heart; I scarcely see color or class when I'm around HIM. I see a man that I could choose to love. The BGP is caught up! Even if this platonic rapport that we have goes no further, brotherhood is enough for me. I feel that I have balanced life's equation. I've met my match.

    I was so emotionally buzzed on a recent weekend, I could only sit at the window and look out at the rain.

    When I left him in the steamroom, just last night (I was overheated), he seemed extremely disappointed to see me go.

    Clearly a higher power has brought this gem of a person into my life, because I certainly didn't set out looking for him. So why would I question or deny the wisdom of such a gift? I can but only cross my heart, cross my legs, cross my arms, look up to heaven and say God is good!

    It's sad that, in our lifestyle, sexual conquest and the attainment of superior status seems to matter so much more than finding and appreciating simple brotherhood.

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    Jun 26, 2008 1:07 AM GMT
    I have nothing to add, but to say that I agree whole heartily with you!
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    Jun 26, 2008 1:19 AM GMT
    That is one of the most beautiful things i have ever heard. In all seriousness it almost brought a tear to my eye
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    Jun 26, 2008 4:34 AM GMT
    I tried to allude to what you are experiencing in a topic a while back ( I feel like this is the most desirable kind of relationship to me .. one of profound, deep connection.

    I had a lack of this kind of relationship in my early life. The closest I came was with my younger brother who died young just as I started to make a connection with him. I just didn't realize how much we could have connected until he was dead. Ever since and before then I have always been compelled by and drawn to those kinds of relationships, close friends, brothers, comrades, and amigos. It almost makes other kinds of relationships shallow in comparison.

    I think it is possible to make these kinds of relationships more than we think. It requires great transparency, openness, and a kind soul.
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    Jun 26, 2008 5:13 AM GMT
    Well said, Babi. icon_smile.gif We should all be so fortunate.
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    Jun 26, 2008 8:51 AM GMT
    Darn idealism! Tie him up, gag him, and... icon_redface.gif

    Okay, not really. LOL
  • TexanMan82

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    Jun 26, 2008 3:53 PM GMT
    I agree with you. My best friend is straight. We consider each other brothers and truly love each other. There's a line that is never crossed, though. He's straight, I'm gay. But, that has no bearing on our relationship.

    Girlfriends and boyfriends come and go. But, we will always have each other as brothers. Not many others can claim to have this kind of relationship.

    We truly feel lucky.