Telling someone your proud of them

  • comical44

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    Jan 29, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    One of the Kids I mentor had his last wrestling match today. It was an all day tournament. He Did great.

    In the last 6 monthes this Teen really changed his life around from getting into serious trouble and dealing with all the consequences that came from it to getting his grades up to honor roll...Completed a Whole Season Of a Sport without quiting or getting kicked off and basically handling his business.

    I went to his First Wrestling match back in november and have been to probably 12 through out the season. Not one other person came to support him.

    I guess im just extremely proud of not only how he has become like a little brother but especially how well he has done in wrestling,it was kind of a cool thing to look forward to between us two and a good way to bond..And im going to miss going and supporting him.

    Ive told him I was so Proud of him and I think it meant alot but I wanna somehow tell him in written form in a cool meaningful way.

    I need some cool ideas on how to do this? I mean obviously I could write it on a piece of paper but I want it to be better than that...could be on something wrestling related or something I could write on that could also symbolize this season of his accomplishment of wrestling ya know what I mean?

    I dont know thought I would see if I could get some cool ideas/

    Thanks guys
  • comical44

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    Jan 29, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    Help me Guys...Please
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    Jan 29, 2012 6:13 AM GMT
    Hmm, a letter writing is a good thing...But maybe do something else that interests him...

    Show that not only are you proud of him but you'll give him support long after. I know it'll give me joy knowing I've mentored someone for success. Continue to be that.
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    Jan 29, 2012 6:20 AM GMT
    Some kind of scrapbook... If you had pictures of him during his matches or during practice you could put the writing and pictures together in a book form.
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    Jan 29, 2012 6:31 AM GMT
    I struggled a lot my junior year with family issues. The one person that influenced me most was my psychology teacher and wrestling coach. On the mat, he would kick my ass, outside of the mat, he showed me compassion, empathy and guided me. The one thing that he said that has had the biggest impact on me so far was that he was proud of me and how he admired my struggle.

    I continued to try to win him over by buying him gifts to show him how much I appreciated his help. Throughout the years, I realized that no gift can measure a simple but thoughtful and meaningful "thank you."

    In your case, I think you telling the kid how proud of him you were, is the best present you could possibly give him. I would just get him some kind a small statue/model/figure/monument that symbolizes his struggle and to serve as a reminder of how far he has come.
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    Jan 29, 2012 6:56 AM GMT
    Take him fishin' and share a beer.

    That's normally how my dad showed me he was proud.
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    Jan 29, 2012 9:10 AM GMT
    you're proud of them.... not your
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    Jan 29, 2012 10:35 AM GMT
    I like the scrapbook idea. - Some photo printing websites now will take the photos and actually bind them into a little hardback book. - That would be a nice keepsake.

    Or - if you want to write something short - take a pic of him wrestling and have it made into a t-shirt that you can wear to his next wrestling match. - This might be a little cheesy - but that's the sort of thing a parent would do to embarrass a teen - and that may be something he's missing from his life.

    You could actually make a really cool t-shirt design that he would be cool with using a little creative photo editing.
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    Jan 29, 2012 11:35 AM GMT
    ULmatt saidSome kind of scrapbook... If you had pictures of him during his matches or during practice you could put the writing and pictures together in a book form.
    Great Idea! Let him know how his accomplishments have made a difference in your life.

    I once met a 60s jazz musician, Randy Weston, while traveling on a train outside the US. We talked for an hour before introducing ourselves. After that I told him how he had come to my elementary school 30 years earlier to teach the kids about jazz as music. He was totally blown away that someone would remember something he did that was merely a way of supporting his family because Black musicians were not getting work in the clubs at the time.
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    Jan 29, 2012 11:46 AM GMT
    Customize a trophy, a mug or something for him. Kids his age need not only verbal support, but trophies to display in their rooms.

    Something that says ''Best wrestler in the World'' or something hyperbolized like that
  • comical44

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    Jan 29, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    Wow...blown away by all the creative and thoughtful ideas you guys came up with.

    I was talking on the phone with him last week and he was telling me how he was looking at the one trophy and two medals he won this season sitting on his dresser and how they were basically his most prized possesions. I was thinking about getting some sort of wrestling trophy or statue and customizing something on it geared towards him.

    I only took one pic and recorded one video this season otherwise coming up with some sort of scrapbook would be a great idea...Theirs always next season.

    The main things that him and his brother need(I mentor him as well) are motivation,encouragement,guidance and basically someone to show each of them that someone is listening and cares. And I do my relationship with both of them is something I value very much

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    Jan 29, 2012 3:47 PM GMT


    Here's an idea;

    Giving him this:

    http://www.bikerringshop.com/servlet/the-155/Koi-Fish-Tattoo-Wallet/Detail



    ...and explaining this:

    http://koifishmeaning.net/

    "As legend has it, as koi fish swim boldly upstream against the adverse currents on the Yellow River, if it is successful in its attempt to swim up the falls at a certain point known as Dragon Gate, there within the mist of the waters of the falls it is magically transformed into a water dragon. Based upon this, the koi became a status symbol representing strong character, courage, and perseverance in achieving hard to reach goals. Also included within these traits is the drive to attain worldly success and advancement, even under trying conditions and against all odds. In Japan, these traits are considered masculin qualities and attributes, as a result, the status of the koi fish has become related with male masculinity. The symbol was said to represent the annual Boys’ Day Festival in Japan where multi-color koi flags were flown as a symbol of honor for each son in a family."

    -Doug

    PS this is the Year of the Water Dragon, 2012.
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    Jan 29, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    Open an RRSP for him. (or equivalent where you are)
    tax deferred retirement savings plan. and teach him to add to it steadily.


    when the day comes that he does not remember , that RRSP will grow into a substantial asset for him that could make the difference between owning and renting his own house.
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    Jan 29, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    gentlemanhood saidCustomize a trophy, a mug or something for him. Kids his age need not only verbal support, but trophies to display in their rooms.

    Something that says ''Best wrestler in the World'' or something hyperbolized like that



    I like this idea better... it looks a little less suspect than a scrapbook which could be interpreted in the wrong way by a parent with the wrong idea about it.
  • comical44

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    Jan 29, 2012 3:56 PM GMT
    @meninlove

    That is such a creative idea and has a great meaning behind it. Ill def. consider something to do with Koi fish and i like that wallet a lot.
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    Jan 29, 2012 3:58 PM GMT
    It's Doug - Bill's upstairs with the little doggies.

    If you go with the scrapbook you could incorporate a Koi symbol into the cover with a small explanation. icon_wink.gif

    The wallet is 66 bucks. You could, if feeling flashy, put a gift card in it for sports equipment.

    Nice to speak with you, comical!
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    Jan 29, 2012 4:14 PM GMT
    ULmatt saidSome kind of scrapbook... If you had pictures of him during his matches or during practice you could put the writing and pictures together in a book form.

    I like the scrapbook idea, if the OP is good with a camera, or can call upon someone else who is, though it may have to wait until next season. Or perhaps the OP can locate pics others took of this season, like from the school or whatever group held these matches.

    I actually did this with a couple of my BFs. One loved flowers, and had extensive outdoor gardens, and made gorgeous indoor floral arrangements. I photographed them and put the pics in gift albums to surprise him.

    Another BF had a restored classic car he worshipped. I likewise photographed it, but I made a big enlargement and had it framed.

    Each guy was delighted, because they'd never had anything like that done for them before. Perhaps it would boost this teen's self-esteem to be featured in an album and/or framed images, and become keepsakes in years to come.

    And BTW, I think it's a wonderful thing the OP is doing. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Import

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    Jan 29, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
    wtf? icon_confused.gif

    a letter??? scrapbooking?? are u fucking serious? That's gay as fuck. . fuck that shit.

    give him some booze, a loose woman, and a pat on the back..... not a fucking scrapbook. .

    like seriously, the letter is cute and all, but i think it's very inappropriate. Like, do u have a man-crush on this teen? Are u guys bonding?? Do u like the way the teen looks in his singlet..... perhaps the sight of him wrestling other dudes really gets u going, so u wanna express to him, in a poetically written letter ur admiration for this kid??

    lol ridic....
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 29, 2012 5:22 PM GMT
    wow buddy, that is great. why don't you just treat him to dinner or take him to a college wrestling event. i think that would be a great gesture.
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    Jan 29, 2012 8:14 PM GMT
    ^^^

    This.
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    Jan 29, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidAnd of course, ignore 'import'....his words continually show he's as douchey as he looks. He has absolutely no concept of what you're doing, lol....you'd have better luck teaching a chip calculus than explain the rewards of mentoring to an ass like him. icon_biggrin.gif
    Isnt 'import' a jailbird too?
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    Jan 29, 2012 8:25 PM GMT
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    Jan 29, 2012 8:49 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said lol....you'd have better luck teaching a chip calculus than explain the rewards of mentoring to an ass like him. icon_biggrin.gif



    I lol'd

    But in seriously, I think you should go for a plaque
  • Import

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    Jan 29, 2012 10:59 PM GMT
    c'mon people....... a scrapbook?? for a teenage guy? a nicely written letter??

    like wtf?? it's all so stereotypically gay....

    im really not trying to be an asshole, I just think it's a inappropriate way to show him that you're proud of him.


    a fucking scrapbook?? lolol

    sorry, but im actually laughing at that ridiculous idea.

    why dont u just say to him that ur proud of him. I dont think a letter is the right medium to communicate ur pride....

    put urself in his shoes?...he's obviously been through a lot.... had a tough upbringing...wrestles on the wrestling team, i dont think he gives a fuck about a scrapbook or a letter, but i could be wrong.

    if u do decide to give him a scrapbook I would love to see the look on the kid's face lol
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    Jan 29, 2012 11:04 PM GMT
    Yeah, smartass, I have to agree with you. A wallet, a scrapbook.... nice but..........

    You have to consider this kid and where he has come from.

    Continued mentorship is the best gift of all....