Does 'Gaydar' actually exist?...

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    Jan 29, 2012 3:06 PM GMT
    Occassionally I hear people say that it is impossible to tell if someone is gay/bi just by looking at them because you're basing it on stereotypes and because you can never judge a book by its cover.

    However, some people say that they "KNOW" when someone's gay/bi because they can just tell by looking at that particular person.

    So, do you believe in gaydar? Do you think there's such a thing?
    If you do, why? And when's it come in handy? And if you do have 'gaydar', is your gaydar good?...icon_biggrin.gif
  • araphael

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    Jan 30, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    You know, you ask a good question. I'm not sure if such a thing exists. When I meet guys that I think are attractive and I speak to them, I have no clue as to whether or not they are gay or straight. Sometimes guys are more deceptive than girls are, if they, guys, actually like you. However, I have actually had sex with guys and then, in retrospect when I think back about how we met each other, I kinda think may be gaydar does exist or how else would we have known to hook up with each other. I don't know. What do you think?
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    Jan 30, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    deeley1 saidOccassionally I hear people say that it is impossible to tell if someone is gay/bi just by looking at them because you're basing it on stereotypes and because you can never judge a book by its cover.

    However, some people say that they "KNOW" when someone's gay/bi because they can just tell by looking at that particular person.

    So, do you believe in gaydar? Do you think there's such a thing?
    If you do, why? And when's it come in handy? And if you do have 'gaydar', is your gaydar good?...icon_biggrin.gif


    My gaydar is broken. I think a tube is burned out. icon_cry.gif
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    Jan 30, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    Personally, I just put a dude in my position, particularly if I know the guy. I see if he has a girlfriend, responds with certain reactions, etc; things I would do
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    Jan 30, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    yes but it will not indentify all the gays, some are harder to register but I would say 60% of the time...another 30% you get that beeping but not totally sure but you are probably right...then 10% its just off and wishful thinking
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    Jan 30, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    The judgemental seem to think it does.

    What bugs me is when people find out someone's gay and say "I KNEW IT!" Like they knew more about the gay than the gay himself.
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    Jan 30, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    I actually have a pretty good 'gaydar'.

    Or at least I think I do. I can't necessarily walk up and ask a person if they are gay if my gaydar goes off.
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    Jan 30, 2012 5:27 AM GMT
    Does Gaydar exist: Yes
    It's biological and genetic. I can tell in the physical structure of a person's face, their movements, and their voice (obviously) that they are gay or not. It's not perfect, but you can train yourself icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 30, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
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  • tautomer

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    Jan 30, 2012 5:42 AM GMT
    jerseywoof saidyes but it will not indentify all the gays, some are harder to register but I would say 60% of the time...another 30% you get that beeping but not totally sure but you are probably right...then 10% its just off and wishful thinking


    This is pretty much how I am with gaydar. I can tell for most people, but not all. The annoying thing though is the ones that I can tell within 2 seconds flat are the ones I am not attracted to at all. If only it were the other way around, things would be so much easier!
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    Jan 30, 2012 4:52 PM GMT
    thats the thing...for those questionable ones which are usually hot and people are attracted to...is it gaydar or wishful thinking, trying to decipher that is the hard part
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    Jan 30, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    Yes it works for me, especially if the guy is showing a specific type of interest in me.

    it works a lot of the time, but not all the time.
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    Jan 30, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    deeley1 saidOccassionally I hear people say that it is impossible to tell if someone is gay/bi just by looking at them because you're basing it on stereotypes and because you can never judge a book by its cover.

    However, some people say that they "KNOW" when someone's gay/bi because they can just tell by looking at that particular person.

    So, do you believe in gaydar? Do you think there's such a thing?
    If you do, why? And when's it come in handy? And if you do have 'gaydar', is your gaydar good?...icon_biggrin.gif


    i thought it did when i was in my 20s now i am just as positive that it doesn't.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 30, 2012 5:28 PM GMT
    i do not have gaydar and do not believe it exist. i think it is more of people wanting someone to be gay rather than it being that way. i mean never really care anyway therefore i never get it right
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 30, 2012 9:51 PM GMT
    Yes..and as handsome as you are...you just have to be gay! icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 30, 2012 9:54 PM GMT
    The ones that get me going, I can never tell........icon_cry.gif
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    Jan 30, 2012 10:07 PM GMT
    check this out

    http://jezebel.com/5878336/science-unlocks-the-key-to-gaydar
  • ac416

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    Jan 30, 2012 10:08 PM GMT
    Yes. Once you've been around enough gay people including yourself, your brain is smart enough to recognize patterns and behaviours. It's the same developed instinct that helps you figure out if someone is from the same race, culture or going through the same life experiences you might have. And of course if you both notice each other noticing each other.
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    Jan 30, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
    I personally find that I can pick up if a man is gay. Its not necessarily the way he looks, perhaps it is the way he carries himself. Irrelevant of whether your masculine/feminine or straight-acting or not, a gay man definitely carries himself differently to other men. If this theory is bullshit then I in fact will live a life of loneliness... haha!
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    Jan 30, 2012 10:20 PM GMT
    if there is, i didn't get it when they where handing it out! unless you are painfully obvious i would have no clue..
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    Jan 30, 2012 10:28 PM GMT
    Does 'Gaydar' actually exist?...

    Yes, it exists and I have it. Even had it before I realized I was gay myself and came out. Suggesting to me that it's as genetic as being gay itself.

    When my gay "mentor" told me about gaydar for the first time, I replied: "What's so special about that? I've always been able to tell who's gay."

    "DUH!" he said. "Most straight people can't do that, unless the guy's a total flamer."

    And I was delighted by this surprising "gift" I didn't know I had, and we talked about it quite a bit. At one point, I forget the exact conversation from 17 years ago, of course, I do remember him saying:

    "You were born gay, and some people think we are also born with this ability. Most gay guys I know have some gaydar, and you're having it only proves that you've always been gay, even if you didn't accept it."

    I know that pleased him, because he still had some lingering doubts, shortly after meeting me following a 6-month email friendship, that he might have "recruited" me into wrongfully thinking I was gay. These little things reassured him that I was truly gay before we ever met. That, and my gay porn collection going back 20 years. icon_redface.gif

    In any case, gaydar is real. And my gaydar is deadly accurate, except, curiously, with men my own age (60+). And when I was single & dating I used it to great advantage.
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    Jan 30, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    Yes, I do exist. I have pictures to prove it.
  • commoncoll

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    Jan 31, 2012 12:00 AM GMT
    Deeley, what is called gaydar is actually just some people are more observant than others.

    They're like Sherlock Holmes. They pay attention to demeanor, clothing, the walk, the way they carry themselves, the way they look at others, etc. Men who are attracted to another man will stand closer, will look into their eyes, will smile more, will be more attentive.

    It's like how you can tell by looking at a person if they are more successful in life than others or if they are rich, not because they spend more, but because they are more self-aware and more self-confident.

    It also has to do with stereotypes. If you see a cross dresser or an effeminate man, they are more likely to be gay than heterosexual.
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    Jan 31, 2012 12:20 AM GMT
    deeley1 saidOccassionally I hear people say that it is impossible to tell if someone is gay/bi just by looking at them because you're basing it on stereotypes and because you can never judge a book by its cover.

    However, some people say that they "KNOW" when someone's gay/bi because they can just tell by looking at that particular person.

    So, do you believe in gaydar? Do you think there's such a thing?
    If you do, why? And when's it come in handy? And if you do have 'gaydar', is your gaydar good?...icon_biggrin.gif


    You know how you "feel" someone's presence and turn around or know somebody is watching and look up?

    You can figure out if a guy is hitting on you....difficult, but not impossible
  • Montague

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    Jan 31, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    kscott6671 said

    My gaydar is broken. I think a tube is burned out. icon_cry.gif



    Still have tubes? @@