heavier young guys

  • unjaded

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    Jan 30, 2012 8:42 PM GMT
    why do heavier out of shape younger guys always get offended that i am not attracted to them . somehow they think because i am older i will jump at any younger dude . BTW boys 30lbs overweight isnt average . this seems to be a trend around my city .
  • mizu5

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    Jan 30, 2012 8:46 PM GMT
    unjaded saidwhy do heavier out of shape younger guys always get offended that i am not attracted to them . somehow they think because i am older i will jump at any younger dude . BTW boys 30lbs overweight isnt average . this seems to be a trend around my city .


    I like heavier young guys.

    I like muscular, beefy, chubby with muscle. I'm down for it.

    But I whole heartedly agree. 30 pounds over is not average. Nor is 20. Particularly on shorter guys lol.

    I also hate when guys put athletic or muscular when they are just trim and fit.
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    Jan 30, 2012 10:44 PM GMT
    ^^ Weight Police icon_lol.gif

  • Jan 30, 2012 10:51 PM GMT
    I weigh in around 210 and am 5' 10". Some consider me beefy and muscled. In all honesty, its the belly fat I cant seem to kick off. By no means is 30 over mean average.
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    Jan 30, 2012 10:57 PM GMT
    unjaded saidwhy do heavier out of shape younger guys always get offended that i am not attracted to them . somehow they think because i am older i will jump at any younger dude . BTW boys 30lbs overweight isnt average . this seems to be a trend around my city .
    tell them to go on a diet and hit the gym. it'll do them a world of good
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    Jan 30, 2012 10:58 PM GMT
    Why does it matter if they call themselves Average? Obviously you don't have to accept anyone's advances, but you shouldn't tell them how they can define themselves. Average for someone 30 lbs overweight is not that irrational. Now if it was an overweight guy calling himself athletic then it would be silly.
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    Jan 30, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    When you consider that 2/3 of Americans are overweight or obese, it's actually not incorrect to say that an 'average' body is an overweight body.

  • Jan 30, 2012 11:27 PM GMT
    Stan904 saidWhy does it matter if they call themselves Average? Obviously you don't have to accept anyone's advances, but you shouldn't tell them how they can define themselves. Average for someone 30 lbs overweight is not that irrational. Now if it was an overweight guy calling himself athletic then it would be silly.


    agreed
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    Jan 31, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    unjaded saidwhy do heavier out of shape younger guys always get offended that i am not attracted to them . somehow they think because i am older i will jump at any younger dude . BTW boys 30lbs overweight isnt average . this seems to be a trend around my city .


    Maybe you accidently gave off vibes that you're a nice and mature guy who didn't care completely about physical appearance?
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jan 31, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    ouch
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    Jan 31, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    Fahrenheit saidWhen you consider that 2/3 of Americans are overweight or obese, it's actually not incorrect to say that an 'average' body is an overweight body.


    Even though that's true, when you break it up even farther, chances are that a guy might be "obese" even if he's got a six pack. I know because I remember seeing skinny twigs from my old high school's wrestling team photos from the 50s and 60s and comparing them to guys from the previous year. Believe me, I graduated with some beefcakes.
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    Jan 31, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    unjaded saidwhy do heavier out of shape younger guys always get offended that i am not attracted to them . somehow they think because i am older i will jump at any younger dude . BTW boys 30lbs overweight isnt average . this seems to be a trend around my city .
    Just be glad the younger guys are into you, you old fart.
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    Jan 31, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    unjaded saidwhy do heavier out of shape younger guys always get offended that i am not attracted to them . somehow they think because i am older i will jump at any younger dude . BTW boys 30lbs overweight isnt average . this seems to be a trend around my city .


    Unfortunately it's not just your city, or just young guys . . . the definition of average seems to have changed. I'm ok with a few extra pounds on a guy and an average build guy is cool - average meaning no big muscle, ripped or even toned - just a guy within his height/weight proportion...if I've got to move your belly to find your dick...your not average build.
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    Jan 31, 2012 2:14 AM GMT
    Some guys wear their weight really well. A belly could be cute on the right guy and with a little confidence. And if they're really cool and sweet, I'd take a chubby guy any day over a ripped one.
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    Jan 31, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    Well, I'm overweight (5'9" and 207 lbs.), and I don't have a boyfriend or anything of the sort and to be honest, I kind of don't want one really.

    Narcissism is the way to go.
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    Jan 31, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    I know exactly what you mean. I have had 18-20 year old guys hit me and they are overweight and when you say no, they flip and send back a big hate message. One them called me fat and shallow.
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    Jan 31, 2012 2:29 AM GMT
    asnextdoor saidI know exactly what you mean. I have had 18-20 year old guys hit me and they are overweight and when you say no, they flip and send back a big hate message. One them called me fat and shallow.


    You know, there was a thread here about ummmm...something to do with "You think it's attractive in another person by your flaws." The problem is that, they have control over their weight. Truly, if you're big, you have control over that, but for whatever reason they just choose to not work on that.

    I dunno, if it was me, I'd be flattered, even if they send me hate messages.
  • dcmacguy

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    Jan 31, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    I don't think anyone should be passing judgement on anyone. Especially if you don't know where they came from. Unless you've been there and turned yourself around - it's not your place.

    If you turn someone down in a classy manner and they get offended - that's on them. If you're an ass about it, you're the one that looks like a dick.

    I'm probably about 30 lbs overweight, but I wouldn't call myself fat anymore. I happily call myself average and look it.

    I started at 6'2 and 284 6 months ago, and I am now 247 and dropping and am fucking ecstatic.