Everything I am not has made me everything I am

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    Jan 31, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    Some negative threads triggered this thought. What are some things in your life that have shaped you to becoming the person you are today. Was it a negative or positive experience?
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    Jan 31, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    I value my inquisitive nature and cognitive perspective in exchange for a more ideal person. Makes me different I guess.
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    Jan 31, 2012 7:44 AM GMT
    the negatives are the most obvious things that affect you. But things like "parents being nice people" are inherited and affect you without you noticing.
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    Jan 31, 2012 9:20 AM GMT
    A lot more negative than possitive for the most part in my life... but I see that trend turning.. Im seeing how the negative is turning to a strenght in my favor. Maybe it was a mixed blessing that has yet to show it's full colors.
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    Jan 31, 2012 10:32 AM GMT
    I used to be very trusting. I used to believe a stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet. Now, not so much...and it is a shame.

    I never cease to be amazed at how ridiculously horrible some people are.



    And then, every once in a while, you meet someone who helps to restore your faith in humanity......icon_wink.gif

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    Jan 31, 2012 10:37 AM GMT
    Nickrolled saidSome negative threads triggered this thought. What are some things in your life that have shaped you to becoming the person you are today. Was it a negative or positive experience?


    I think a lot of my insecurities stem from the way I was treated as a child. I don't know if I will ever totally get past them. However, I think it has made me a more caring, patient, and sympathetic person - which translates well into my career as a teacher.

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    Jan 31, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    Both. My negative experiences have shown me the person that I don't want to be, and the positive experiences have taught me how to trust. Cautious optimism.
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    jpBITCHva saidI knew I'd read that somewhere!.....It was here:Photobucket


    That's a blank fortune, what are you... psychic??
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    turbobilly saidI used to be very trusting. I used to believe a stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet. Now, not so much...and it is a shame.

    I never cease to be amazed at how ridiculously horrible some people are.



    And then, every once in a while, you meet someone who helps to restore your faith in humanity......icon_wink.gif



    I'd say I am in your previous position, but I hope I will never approach the situation which has changed your view on things icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    Pain is guaranteed. Misery is optional.
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    Feb 01, 2012 6:49 AM GMT
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    jpBITCHva saidI knew I'd read that somewhere!.....It was here:Photobucket


    That's a blank fortune, what are you... psychic??


    A blank fortune means you're going to die! You have no future! Make out a living will NOW, jpBITCHva!! And be very very cautious on the drive to the notary.
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    Feb 01, 2012 7:30 PM GMT
    This is a focus of contemporary psychodynamic theory... called object-relational theory.

    The attachments we form (or do not form) affect our personality greatly and for some cause problems. ("I never want to be like my ____" statements)

    It can be good and bad. My parents were largely unavailable for most of my life and later in life afraid that I was gay, so we ended up becoming very detached.

    Luckily, I was able to meet some good friends and develop very close relationships. But, as a result of loose family ties I'm very independent and occasionally mature for my age icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 01, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    I think most lives are filled with a mix of positive and negative events that help us to form who we are today. I think more of the same will help form who we are tomorrow.

    For me personally, growing up not understanding I was gay but recalling many signs that should have convinced me left me with a self esteem that feel has always been low.

    When I got older, became independent, married and a family man, I was faced with some serious family issues of illness and death that molded my adult life in many ways.

    Coming out and being recognized by the ones that I felt I disappointed molded me even more and left me with the desire to reach out to others going through the same process.

    Some good, some bad...some positive, some negative. It's an ever changing world.