You think my mom took the hint? haha

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    Jan 31, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
    Ok so I took my mom for breakfast since it was kind of a long time since we haven't see each other, and one of the typicall mom questions' she made was "So have you met anyone?" and while chatting about this I told her that she's not going to have grandkids, she was kind of sad but told me that having me was way more than enough for her. You think she took the hint that I'm gay? haha I was about to say "I am gay" but i didnt want to make a scene in the restaurant of me crying hehe...
  • Generaleclect...

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    Jan 31, 2012 5:47 AM GMT
    As intuitive as mothers can be, they can also be quite oblivious to little hints. Whether she caught on or not, she seems pretty accepting.

    Maybe reinforce it with a less subtle hint just to make sure?
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    Jan 31, 2012 6:00 AM GMT
    Generaleclectic saidAs intuitive as mothers can be, they can also be quite oblivious to little hints. Whether she caught on or not, she seems pretty accepting.

    Maybe reinforce it with a less subtle hint just to make sure?


    Haha yeah, I know for sure she'll accept me but I dont know why it is so hard to tell her haha... But like you say, I'll figure out something else to tell her just to make sure...
    Thanks man!
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    Jan 31, 2012 6:01 AM GMT
    Next time, if you have a waiter..ask her what she thinks about him, and if she thinks he would be your type. It's even funnier if he's ugly.


    A_X91 said
    Generaleclectic saidAs intuitive as mothers can be, they can also be quite oblivious to little hints. Whether she caught on or not, she seems pretty accepting.

    Maybe reinforce it with a less subtle hint just to make sure?


    Haha yeah, I know for sure she'll accept me but I dont know why it is so hard to tell her haha... But like you say, I'll figure out something else to tell her just to make sure...
    Thanks man!
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    Jan 31, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    ConfederateGhost saidNext time, if you have a waiter..ask her what she thinks about him, and if she thinks he would be your type. It's even funnier if he's ugly.


    A_X91 said
    Generaleclectic saidAs intuitive as mothers can be, they can also be quite oblivious to little hints. Whether she caught on or not, she seems pretty accepting.

    Maybe reinforce it with a less subtle hint just to make sure?


    Haha yeah, I know for sure she'll accept me but I dont know why it is so hard to tell her haha... But like you say, I'll figure out something else to tell her just to make sure...
    Thanks man!


    Hahaha that wouldn't be subtle at all man... Funny tho...
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    Jan 31, 2012 6:24 AM GMT
    Why trying to be subtle when you're trying to tell someone you love something so important ?

    I know it's hard, but you won't get away with it with "I hope she took the hint, hehehe".

    Coming out cannot be that easy, so stop trying. I say grow some balls and tell her.
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    Jan 31, 2012 6:55 AM GMT
    A_X91 said
    Generaleclectic saidAs intuitive as mothers can be, they can also be quite oblivious to little hints. Whether she caught on or not, she seems pretty accepting.

    Maybe reinforce it with a less subtle hint just to make sure?


    Haha yeah, I know for sure she'll accept me but I dont know why it is so hard to tell her haha... But like you say, I'll figure out something else to tell her just to make sure...
    Thanks man!


    For most it's very hard to completely come out for the first time, especially to parents.

    My dad was the hardest to come out to even though I knew he would be accepting. After that, you start to build up a momentum and it gets easier.

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    Jan 31, 2012 7:28 AM GMT
    Yeah, I wouldn't have assumed that you were gay based on what you said. I'd think that maybe you were sterile, or had a vasectomy, or just didn't want any kids.
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    Jan 31, 2012 3:00 PM GMT
    Ive hinted at my mother and she yet to get the idea..... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 31, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    trying to hint at being gay isn't something you should do. :/ sadly it is hard to just be blunt about it. however, this is not a matter you want her being confused on do you? don't let her think that you're "just confused" or "it's a phase" because she will if you hint. tell her you are gay, you are fine this way, and you wont be changing.
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    Jan 31, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    Uh, you can still have kids if you're gay.

    You really should try to develop a more positive attitude about being gay. It will rub off on other people when you do come out to them. If you sit there crying and acting like it's such a horrible thing, they're going to cry and think it's a horrible thing too.
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    Jan 31, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    Why, when I was your age... lol, just be honest. Tell her calmly quietly and alone. Maybe when you're both not so busy. Even if she does freak out or lock up, it may only be temporary. Moms are usually better accepting their own kids sexuality. Reminisce on the good times, tell her you'll always love her, and "I want to tell you..." however you want to fill in the rest. I just told my siblings, "I'm gay" during a lunch one day. Thankfully, I've got an older brother who is mostly gay- to bi. So all initial shock was gone. They're took it like I quit my job, but not like I died or started some new drama.
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    Jan 31, 2012 4:02 PM GMT
    One way to tell a parent about your sexuality is to begin talking about your new s.o. (or someone special you're beginning to date). Just bring his name up a time or two - - mention his good qualities - - and let her know you'll be introducing him to her one day at an upcoming dinner - lunch - whatever. That's what I did - - - a long time ago. Once they met the guy and liked him, all was well. They might have been a bit stunned - - but seeing what a nice guy you're spending time with helps them realize you're okay and doing just fine.
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    Jan 31, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    A_X91 saidOk so I took my mom for breakfast since it was kind of a long time since we haven't see each other, and one of the typicall mom questions' she made was "So have you met anyone?" and while chatting about this I told her that she's not going to have grandkids, she was kind of sad but told me that having me was way more than enough for her. You think she took the hint that I'm gay? haha I was about to say "I am gay" but i didnt want to make a scene in the restaurant of me crying hehe...


    There's a good chance that she already knows buddy. Moms are smarter than people think. When I told mom, she's like yeah I know lol. Unless you're absolutely sure that she's in the dark, I'd just tell her icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 31, 2012 4:33 PM GMT
    A_X91 said
    Haha yeah, I know for sure she'll accept me but I dont know why it is so hard to tell her haha... But like you say, I'll figure out something else to tell her just to make sure...
    Thanks man!



    I suspect it's cause you don't want to hurt her and good for you.

    (Since you don't want to hurt her, slip her a Valium in about two weeks and tell her then.)
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    Jan 31, 2012 5:04 PM GMT
    Thanks for the advices guys! Hope to just tell her directly soon icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 31, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    A_X91 saidThanks for the advices guys! Hope to just tell her directly soon icon_smile.gif


    Be gentle!
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    Feb 01, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    Haha of course I will icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 01, 2012 5:56 PM GMT
    i cant count the number of awkward times my mom asked me about women. its gotten to the point were i just want to scream WAKE UP MOM, IM GAY! but she would probably go into denial mode anyway

    best of luck to you sir



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    Feb 01, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
    Generaleclectic saidAs intuitive as mothers can be, they can also be quite oblivious to little hints. Whether she caught on or not, she seems pretty accepting.

    Maybe reinforce it with a less subtle hint just to make sure?



    Sooo true; when I finally decided to tell mom I showed her a picture of the guy I was dating. She says, " Ohhh, he's cute ( long pause , then looks up at me ) are you gay or something?? " icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 01, 2012 6:05 PM GMT
    mark92028 said
    Generaleclectic saidAs intuitive as mothers can be, they can also be quite oblivious to little hints. Whether she caught on or not, she seems pretty accepting.

    Maybe reinforce it with a less subtle hint just to make sure?



    Sooo true; when I finally decided to tell mom I showed her a picture of the guy I was dating. She says, " Ohhh, he's cute ( long pause , then looks up at me ) are you gay or something?? " icon_rolleyes.gif


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