Some guy at the club question on how to deal with it? Or if I should even deal with it at all.

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    Jul 28, 2007 6:15 AM GMT
    Ok, last week I went to the club. I ended up saying hello to this guy that kept giving me the look. He said he didn't have a boyfriend and wanted to dance. We are dancing for a while, and like 3 of his friends come over while we are dancing. One says he seen me online before. And one said he seen me at the gym I goto and didn't know if he should say hi or not.

    His 3rd friend whos this guy I know a real shadey fucker, someone I doubt these people knew very well. Last year he basically tried hooking up with me multiple times, telling me he would buy me stuff and take me to places. I wasn't interested at all and I tried to be as nice as possible about it. I figured he was saying all kinds of shit about me cause friends told me , it didn't really bother me cause it just silly.

    Anyway I think I heard him say something to the kid and it was just awkward cause I was standing right there dancing with the kid. Anyway this past week I went up to say hello, and he kind of didn't even take recognition, barely said hello. Well I'm almost positive this kid talked shit on me to this other kid that I thought was cool. Anyway I'm not really sure how to deal with it. I don't know if I should try saying hello again to the kid or just let it go or what to do. Part of me thinks if hes gonna listen to someone like that I don't need anything to do with it. But also people don't always know what is bullshit and what is true and it can really ruin how you view a person. I guess it's possible that he lost interest, however it seemed pretty fast due to the fact the week before he was pretty excited.
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    Jul 28, 2007 4:24 PM GMT
    A man is known by the company he keeps. I never had any luck meeting up or hangin around with club kids.
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    Jul 28, 2007 4:48 PM GMT
    Hmm...well you are from allentown, so as someone formerly from the philly/allentown area...guess what, welcome to 'club life'.

    Now do not get me wrong, not everyone talks shit on everyone else - at all. Def not the case, however as big as the community is there, it's very compact and everyone knows everyone else as they all go to the same places (woody wednesday, bump/woodys/pure or bump/tavern/pure fridays...and so on) so you are bound to run into people who you hooked up with, tried to, they tried with you, etc.

    It's just the nature of the beast and that area.

    Again, I don't know if you went to clubs in philly or closer to you in allentown (I think there are a couple up there near Kutztown) but I would venture a guess that its one of the two tight knit communities and this is just a generalization of how things work in the area.

    I would move on from it. There are two possible scenarios here...one is that the other guy talked shit on you - probably said you were a lousy hookup, or a prude...whatever. The other is that the guy that you were interested in found out from his shady friend that he was originally interested in you and in turn the guy you like doesn't want to step on his friends toes.

    You really arent in a bad predicament as you don't truly know the guy you danced with or his friends - besides in a general sense. So I would just go on with your life as you normally would, say hi when you see them...but thats about it. Unless he comes up to you and lets you know that a situation has changed there is nothing else to see there.

    Good Luck.
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    Jul 28, 2007 7:01 PM GMT
    Yes you are correct about the area. I only goto the club in allentown currently. I used to go with a group of friends to woodys in philly, but we kind of stopped that. I guess it just annoys me cause this guy, constantly jumps on every new attractive guy that steps in that place. Oh well.