Does anyone else feel their academic career was hurt by being gay?

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    Feb 01, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
    I'm sure I would have done better in both HS and college without the stress.
  • masculumpedes

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    Feb 01, 2012 2:24 AM GMT
    Never had any stress in school or college.....but have had a few clients go elsewhere when they found out and it didn't do my position as church pianist any good either....icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:25 AM GMT
    I'm a painter and visual artist, I'm required to be gay.
  • masculumpedes

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    Feb 01, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI'm a painter and visual artist, I'm required to be gay.


    Gotta love those gay jobs.....and the men who perform them...icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    malefeet said
    Ariodante saidI'm a painter and visual artist, I'm required to be gay.


    Gotta love those gay jobs.....and the men who perform them...icon_biggrin.gif


    It's difficult fabulous work but someone has to do it!
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI'm a painter and visual artist, I'm required to be gay.


    HAHAHAHAHAHA....

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    Well for me it wasn't and isn't that big of a problem, fortunately never bullied or anything like it. For me problem was alcohol and parties in HS :S
  • vintovka

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    Feb 01, 2012 2:31 AM GMT
    I don't know--the stress sucked but academia was also a place that was relatively tolerant (compared with other spheres of society) and also being a bookworm is a good way to avoid life, dating and sexuality. Maybe some of us would have done worse in school if we had been straight.
  • masculumpedes

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    Feb 01, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    malefeet said
    Ariodante saidI'm a painter and visual artist, I'm required to be gay.


    Gotta love those gay jobs.....and the men who perform them...icon_biggrin.gif


    It's difficult fabulous work but someone has to do it!


    So...in other words you are an esthetician...? icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    Yes - have been fired for being gay - indirectly and the principal would never admit - but there was no other viable reason. She just did not like gay men. It shocked the school of my departure.
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    How about Computer Science?
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:43 AM GMT
    I kept it bottled in during HS. It wasn't a problem, it's just that I didn't want to be distracted by it. When I went to University, I was out. And this was to a huge group of Engineers. I'm really outgoing and I knew everyone, so when I came out, everyone was like "whaaaaat?! icon_eek.gif"
    I thought it was funny. Nothing really changed, just the guys changed their jokes to include me.

    Every "That's what she said" joke was usually followed up with , "Or what he said,".

    I think it depends on the individual. I'm very good at being focused on a task and not letting personal things affect my work.
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:43 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI'm a painter and visual artist, I'm required to be gay.


    I thought you ran a rather racy internet biz..
  • danisnotstr8

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    Feb 01, 2012 2:47 AM GMT
    malefeet said
    Ariodante said
    malefeet said
    Ariodante saidI'm a painter and visual artist, I'm required to be gay.


    Gotta love those gay jobs.....and the men who perform them...icon_biggrin.gif


    It's difficult fabulous work but someone has to do it!


    So...in other words you are an esthetician...? icon_wink.gif


    No, dear. He's a faggot. ;)
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    Although I haven't been out to people (i.e. faculty, fellow classmates, etc.) at any school I've attended, I'm sure some people suspected that I was gay. However, this has never been an issue in my academic life. I'm going back to grad school after 8 years of post-secondary education (i.e. undergrad, grad school, post-grad), so I've had some experience with academia.
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    Feb 01, 2012 2:57 AM GMT
    It definitely hurt mine. My parents found out my first semester in college. It was hell for a year and a half. Nothing but runaway plans, suicide and trying to find out what to do with my life. Once I visited a friend from UVA, it opened my eyes. Moving away to college helps you learn to live independently and I dont have to deal with my parents constantly bothering me. Once I came back home, I focused really hard on school and transferred to an out of state university from my local community college. I got accepted at WVU and graduated last year with an Economics degree. When I was by myself, it helped me learn to be independent and I was able to do what I wanted and when I wanted without my parents on my ass 24/7. Of course I had to move back home to find a decent job but my parents are so proud of me, they never mention about me being gay. I basically have to tell them that it was just a phase I was going through but I'm straight lol. Life is better now and I'm getting interviews for better positions so I can move out as soon as I land one that pays a decent amount of money.

    If they never caught me, my life would've been ALOT better. Sometimes they suspect that I'm still gay and they get worried. They give me a lecture every 3 months to find out if everything is ok with me. It gets annoying and I just really want to move out but they have done so much for me, I know they will still love me if they knew the official truth.
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    Feb 01, 2012 3:00 AM GMT
    tanlejos said
    Ariodante saidI'm a painter and visual artist, I'm required to be gay.


    I thought you ran a rather racy internet biz..


    That just pays my student loan bills and allows me time to follow my true passion of art icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 01, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    swimguychicago saidI'm sure I would have done better in both HS and college without the stress.


    Me too. I've often thought about it as a matter of fact. It was so damned distracting and scary, especially being in an anti-gay environment. Nice to finally know it wasn't just me.
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    Feb 01, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    danisnotstr8 said
    malefeet said
    Ariodante said
    malefeet said
    Ariodante saidI'm a painter and visual artist, I'm required to be gay.


    Gotta love those gay jobs.....and the men who perform them...icon_biggrin.gif


    It's difficult fabulous work but someone has to do it!


    So...in other words you are an esthetician...? icon_wink.gif


    No, dear. He's a faggot. ;)


    Well at least I don't like PENIS like you do...

    ..oh wait
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    Feb 01, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    malefeet said
    Ariodante saidI'm a painter and visual artist, I'm required to be gay.


    Gotta love those gay jobs.....and the men who perform them...icon_biggrin.gif


    It's difficult fabulous work but someone has to do it!

    Fabulous
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  • araphael

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    Feb 01, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI'm a painter and visual artist, I'm required to be gay.


    That's funny, "required to be gay."
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    Feb 01, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    Being chunky and unpopular kept my mind of being gay.
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    Feb 01, 2012 3:42 AM GMT
    In the sense that I was hiding this big secret yes. I never felt discriminated against or anything. It didn't help that I was 100 pounds overweight either. I had plenty of friends in college and had an amazing time but deep down I was lonely and hated myself and it definitely was taking its toll by the end.
  • Kairr

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    Feb 01, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    No stress until I got caught in a terrible relationship and have less time for school.
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    Feb 01, 2012 4:08 AM GMT
    The opposite for me actually.... I definitely got picked on all the time, called faggot, etc, but I don't think it was so much that people thought I was gay as it was that they thought I was a big nerd (or maybe it was both -- I don't know). LOL. So yeah... I was definitely really depressed most of the time as a kid because I never felt like I fit in, but I think I ended up being an over-achiever to compensate for it (great high school GPA, went to a great college, graduated magna cum laude, have a great job now, etc).
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    Feb 01, 2012 4:16 AM GMT
    Not my academic career, but my actual career a few years back. An ass I was working for found out about my sexuality and I was pushed out the very next day. Of course he called it something else............ and he wasn't stupid enough to admit the real reason. What did I learn from this? NOT to work for homophobic, undereducated, louts who are beneath contempt. Next time I find myself working for someone like that, I will leave on my own as fast as I can get the Hell out.