"The Gay Gym"

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    Jun 27, 2008 1:01 AM GMT
    Ok so if you are like me and live in a major metro (like NYC, Philly, Boston, LA, Miami, Chicago, Houston, Atl, ETC) you have a gym that is frequented by a mostly gay clientele....

    If you go to one of these gyms I am curious...:

    Why did you choose to go to the "Gay" one versus others around the city (maybe you have one closer to your office or place of work but prefer the "Gay" one)?

    Do you feel like you get a better workout in the "Gay" gym versus the less gay gym?

    Do you find yourself more motivated to go to the gym because people there are more like you? What has your experience been?

    The reason I ask is because I just switched from NYSC to David Barton in Chelsea NYC which has to be the gayest gym on the planet. I have seen all of 10 women there when I go. Super serious. Anyway, I find that I am WAY more motivated to go to the gym now that I do not go to NYSC even though that was considerably more convenient to where I live and work - as well as about 20 bucks less expensive than DB. But something about going to DB - I just feel more motivated to work out and work out harder than I would at NYSC. Maybe its because a certain "silver fox - Mole" happens to work out there when in the city AS WELL AS all of the insanely hot guys that work out there. Maybe its the atmosphere of being comfortable and knowing I am around "my kind"...maybe it just feels like a safe place. Maybe it's because everyone at my old gym was constantly ready to start a fight...who knows. Either way - at this point I wouldn't switch up for the world.
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    Jun 27, 2008 1:02 AM GMT
    I live in Hollywood and I have no choice. The nearest 6 gyms are mostly gay and I'm not homophobic enough to drive farther away. I just try to go to the less-trashy versions.
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    Jun 27, 2008 1:24 AM GMT
    my gym, except for the classes which are full of leering women who watch me in body pump as I do clean and presses is pretty much devoid of women, you find a few in the room with all the treadmills and what not, but the weights are all down stairs and at any one time theres like 10 men to 1 women and my gym is Straight

    Or at least I think it is, I've had two guys check me out but I'm not sure, they could have just been watching me do my workout or something.

    hmmm I don't know, personally I'm so focused on what I'm doing, that I'm pushing hard enough to notice anyone else, the only reason I noticed these two guys is because there reaction when I looked there way made it obvious that they where looking at me.
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    Jun 27, 2008 2:34 AM GMT
    The convenience of going to a gay gym is knowing in advance where everyone stands.

    If a guy repeatedly looks at you in a mainstream gym you can never really be sure what he's really about - and he never really knows what you're about. It's more awkward because it's far riskier to approach another guy - unless you really know his deal.

    Unless you enjoy the ambiguity and mental masturbation of not knowing - attending a gay gym certainly bypasses these unknowns.

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    Jun 27, 2008 2:39 AM GMT
    Oh God! I totally stay away from the gay gym. I'm there for a hardcore workout and usually look my worst, on the brink of death sometimes.

    The last thing I want to concern myself with is cruising and I'm very self conscious being cruised at the gym. Simply not the right time or place for me.
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    Jun 27, 2008 4:03 AM GMT
    I live in SF, they are ALL gay.

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    Jun 27, 2008 4:10 AM GMT
    crispro saidThe convenience of going to a gay gym is knowing in advance where everyone stands.


    This is my confusion I believe.

    Why do you need to know everyone is gay in a gym? is it more a hookup sight ??

    the more I hear about gyms in areas of higher homosexual populations the more grateful of my gym, mines comfortable, I've never run into anyone having sex there and no one pays much attention to each other unless they have droppd the bar on there chest and can't get up.

    I have nothing against that sorta stuff, so be it if thats what they want, but, really, when I'm at the gym I'm there to work out and not to be checked out.
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    Jun 27, 2008 5:32 AM GMT
    If you're attractive, you'll be checked-out anywhere you go whether you want to be or not.
    The gym is just another place to meet people, even if your primary purpose is to seriously workout.
    It is possible to do both.

    If you go to a gym regularly for months, you're bound to meet new people.
    Meeting new people is a consequence of being around people unless you're totally schizoid.
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    Jun 27, 2008 6:15 AM GMT
    I've used lots of gyms in the past but the one I use at the moment (YMCA) strikes a happy medium for me. It has plenty of gay men but there are also lots of straight men and women.

    The majority of people use it for fitness - they have exercise classes, squash and badminton courts and there's a good sized crowd of friendly(ish) gay men who don't just use the free weights like their lives depended on it.

    I think a gym that has lots of facilities rather than just weights brings in a more varied group of people not just the hardcore weight-lifters who can bring an aggressive, hostile air to the proceedings.

    I've used gay-heavy gyms in the past but I have found the cruising, gossiping and competitive atmosphere too stressful and counter-productive.
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    Jun 27, 2008 10:19 AM GMT
    I like eye candy when I work out

    not just because of the Obvious reason icon_wink.gif

    but also because hot men and men with great bodies get me going competitively too
    and gay gyms tend to have more and hotter guys
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    Jun 27, 2008 10:32 AM GMT
    HighVoltageGuy saidI live in SF, they are ALL gay.

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    LOL!!!!!
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    Jun 27, 2008 10:56 AM GMT
    crispro saidIf you're attractive, you'll be checked-out anywhere you go whether you want to be or not. The gym is just another place to meet people, even if your primary purpose is to seriously workout. It is possible to do both.

    If you go to a gym regularly for months, you're bound to meet new people. Meeting new people is a consequence of being around people unless you're totally schizoid.


    I agree, if your attractive you get checked out.

    I don't get it, I don't have time to check anyone out all that much, I'm way to busy doing my workout heh

    Hmm, perhaps this is why I'm part of the great unlaid hahahaha
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    Jun 27, 2008 11:23 AM GMT
    For about a century (and about a century ago) I used to frequent the Jim Morris Club - that was later the Athletic Club in West Hollywood.

    For all of its ridiculousness (and it was ridiculous) that experience was very important to my outlook on the world as a Gay man.

    The Gay Gym used to be a total refuge, and equipped in such a way that you could while away a day on the sundeck, in the gym, by the pool, getting a massage, having a healthy lunch, and so on.

    Lots more went on, obviously, but participation was optional.

    Then there was a shirts optional policy in the workout rooms of which I really did approve. As long as people where courteous and used a towel, it was sexy and fun.

    Now that I am back in London I am looking for a Gay gym but there only seems to be one, which is all the way in Vauxhall.

    Anyway, I am all for the Gay gym.

    Terry
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    Jun 27, 2008 11:49 AM GMT
    I 100% like the idea of Gay Gym,

    just one thing bothers me - old closeted guys.
    I hate them gogling and tracing me.

    So, i'm more concerned about younger open gay guys in Gay Gym. Yeah, i come to workout there but i'd like to meet some friends or gymbuddies too who won't shove me off abruptly knowing i'm gayguy.
    You know, to me conceptually - Gay gym it's like a club of busy gaymen.) It's very rare of course

    Or, if your gym isn't so gay but very friendly - i can spread word that is "gay-friendly" and it starts attracting nice people
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    Jun 27, 2008 12:21 PM GMT
    Having grown up in Palm Springs, where all the gyms are gay gyms, I thought that when I moved to New York I'd want to go to David Barton Gym or one of the more gay gyms. Instead, I joined NYSC mostly because it is way more convenient to my life. I'm always all around the city so it makes sense to be able to workout anywhere.

    Including at the 14th Street NYSC, which second to the NYSC on 8th, is probably the gayest NYSC. And I'm actually not that into it. I don't like feeling stared at, especially because when I workout, I workout. By the time I shower, my clothes are sweaty and gross and I probably look like death.

    That being said, I do see why someone might like a gay gym and I wouldn't want to go to a gym that was totally straight. I really enjoy the NYSC closest to my office at 34th and Park Ave South. It's just gay enough-- there are good number of gay men at the gym, but there are also lots of women and (hot) straight guys and everyone is really friendly. My experiences at the gayer gyms in New York (I tried Equinox for a while; homo-fascists) is that there tends to be a lot of unnecessary attitude. And there's just no reason for it, IMHO.
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    Jun 27, 2008 12:30 PM GMT
    I go to a "gay" gym, but its really about location. Its the closest gym to my house in walking distance. Also its the least expensive gym in the city.

    I completely ignore people at the gym. Therefore whatever other people are doing doesn't bother me. I do my thing and go. Because of that my motivation isn't affected. I workout the same no matter where I workout.

    I have actually had friends come up to me and ask why I always look so mean at the gym. I can't be bothered to be hit on or whatever at the gym. This is my time, leave me alone!
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    Jun 27, 2008 2:22 PM GMT
    On the second thought, i may add -

    for any club atmosphere energy - mix is the better and healthier solution. So, hot straights and even women are welcome too of course.)

    Matter of fact, in my gym i know only couple of guys and others maybe want to talk - but i'm always in earphones. I think it's better to be with myself while i'm gymming myself.) So, i enjoy concentration most of the time there.
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    Jun 27, 2008 5:51 PM GMT
    My Gym goes through cycles. Certian times of the day are more gay then others. I usually try to work out in the middle of the day when the least amount of people are there because i do not like working out whent there are too many gays around. They talk to much and take too much time on machines. I like to get through my workouts without having to be polite while waiting for a machine or weights.

    Also, and of course this is just me, i get intimidated when the gym is full of muscle heads. It's harder for me to get a good work out when the gym is full of big muscular guys because i can't concentrate on my workout.
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    Jun 27, 2008 6:02 PM GMT
    Like HighVoltageGuy living in San Francisco it's kind of a challenge to get away from being in a "Gay" gym or a gym that is frequented by the Gays. However there are several that have a stronger Gay clientele than others; the 24Hour that I frequent is one on the lower end of the Gay clientele.

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    Jun 27, 2008 6:15 PM GMT
    LaSalle04 said

    Why did you choose to go to the "Gay" one versus others around the city (maybe you have one closer to your office or place of work but prefer the "Gay" one)?

    Do you feel like you get a better workout in the "Gay" gym versus the less gay gym?

    Do you find yourself more motivated to go to the gym because people there are more like you? What has your experience been?


    I would NEVER go to a predominantly gay gym! I have heard -- and on some occasions when having a free membership to one years and years ago, seen -- that most gay gyms are usually bath houses with lifting equipment, especially some of those here in San Francisco. It's amazing how shameless those gym members can be. To me, there's nothing more deplorable than a bunch of guys intentionally distracting themselves cruising and working-out toward hooking-up in either the sauna or steamroom while spreading their seed. Do I really need to step on "that" if I were to use those rooms for the legitimate purposes of what they're meant for?! I DON'T care what anyone says, but hitting up a gay gym isn't a motivator for having a better work-out, but for eventually making time to go to the doctor and getting a shot.

    When I go to the gym, I go to work-out!! To me, it's about my routine, controlling the weights, executing proper form and movement, sticking to my timely regiment, and knowing I pushed myself with a respective work-out. Why in the hell would I feel I would get a "better" work-out at a homo-gym?? Sure, if I see another well-built guy, that motivates me to push myself over my common limits. Seeing two guys ostensibly cruise one another -- that's just wasting time and space!

    Not to mention, I already have a great set of friends with whom I feel "are more like me." I don't think I need to feel an extension of that "comraderie" at a gay gym. No thanks!
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    Jun 27, 2008 6:22 PM GMT
    I am more likely to avoid a gym defined as gay. I'm there to work out and don't want to be bothered. However, if I hire a personal trainer for some new challenges I usually find a gay one.
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    Jun 27, 2008 6:31 PM GMT
    Eek! People actually having fun at the gym. Get me out of here I wanna go back to the no-fun zone.
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    Jun 27, 2008 6:37 PM GMT
    The predominantly gay gym I go to has more space, cardio equipment, and parking than the straight ones that are close to me. It's not really near my house, but easy to get to on the freeway and with very little traffic in between. The predominantly straight gym near me is extremely crowded and it's tough to get a cardio machine (even stairs!) without a wait before 10pm or so. The people are also quite rude.

    I would agree entirely with crispro; the negative impact of socializing at a gay gym is often way overdramatized. It's a really slow method of meeting people; it may take me months to exchange names, let alone numbers. I shower at home and don't use the sauna, so I wouldn't know/care if people are having sex at my gym or not.

    Personally I rarely have a conversation at the gym that lasts more than two minutes. On the other hand, if you already have a social network that involves a lot of chat and gossip, then yeah you can expect more of the same when you run into those same people at your gym. As for why there and not a club, I personally don't care much for clubs or bars, so I'm not that keen on meeting people who are there every day/week. I do want to meet someone who goes to the gym on a regular basis and may not be seen much elsewhere (like me).

    As GQJock mentioned though, the possibility of seeing or meeting someone actually gay and attractive is often just the extra push I need to actually go. And the prevalence of gay men in SF (outside of the Castro) seems to be greatly exaggerated here as well. I run into FAR more straights than gays in a day, and a "gay" gym is a nice oasis from that.
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    Jun 27, 2008 6:38 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidEek! People actually having fun at the gym. Get me out of here I wanna go back to the no-fun zone.



    THANK YOU!!!!! Some people need to relax already....
    It's just a gym!

    And frankly, I don't think every single "gay" gym is what people perceive it to be. I belong to Results The Gym here in DC and it's owned by a notorious gay queen. The original and flagship location in Dupont Circle has a very large gay male clientele. Whenever I use that gym, I've never run into any sex going on in the open shower or in the sauna. Yes, there's been cruising and a few men with hard-ons, but no one (to my knowledge) was sprawled all over the shower floor getting their ass pounded.

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    Jun 27, 2008 6:54 PM GMT
    bigbluefanindc saidbut no one (to my knowledge) was sprawled all over the shower floor getting their ass pounded.


    LOL too funny icon_smile.gif

    It's always funny to hear folks use the following pattern here in RJ:

    "While I've never XXX, I've HEARD that YYY!! And I just think that's DISGUSTING!!!"

    Sounds like little old Midwestern church ladies talking about "gay people" or "black people" or "people from New York", none of whom they've ever met, or ever will meet, and therefore, in their minds, can embody the sum of all their fears.