I'm Terrible In Bed

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    Feb 01, 2012 7:18 PM GMT
    I'm not very active in bed. I guess I'm a little self conscious about my body. I always bottom but I don't really do anything. I can't really take it when the guy goes really hard and fast because I feel like he's going to puncture through my stomach. I think I'm pretty decent with giving oral though.

    So basically I've been watching porn to try and pick up some tips but I struggle when applying it in real life.
  • Robby31

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    Feb 01, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    Porn is bullcrap. They take multiple shots, use drugs, editing, all all sorts of stuff to deceive you.

    You sound like me, except I get self conscious and cannot get hard easily.

    If I were you I'd consider topping if you like it. Otherwise, practice with a dildo to get use to penetration. Or get a smaller guy if too big makes you uncomfortable.

    As for activity, communicate with your top, see what movements he likes. Role playing, moving your hips, pushing back into the top as he thrusts, and clenching your ass can make things more exciting.

    My initial thoughts.
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    Feb 01, 2012 10:55 PM GMT
    Keep practicing.
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    Feb 02, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    try the kitchen table, wks 4 me. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:37 AM GMT
    tailgater_3 saidtry the kitchen table, wks 4 me. icon_wink.gif


    On it?
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    Feb 04, 2012 6:19 AM GMT
    Explore your limits and gain some confidence in private with some toys.
  • Melos

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    Feb 04, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidKeep practicing.


    Yup yup. When we first started dating, my boyfriend was 99.9% top. It was uncomfortable for him to bottom and hurt, and I am definitely not sporting a porn star dick. Over time he was able to take it for longer periods of time and started to enjoy it. Now there are times when he really wants to bottom.

    I also agree with Robby. Communicate with one another and don't be passive. If it doesn't fell good, tell him. Try different positions. When I first started, I could not take it while on my stomach, it hurt like hell, but after time it got better and is now one of my favorites.

    For a lot more detail, check out JMBDX82's post here:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2143630
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    Feb 04, 2012 6:05 PM GMT
    Anal never interested me , still a virgin when it comes to that kind of sex .
    There are so many things you can do during sex that are hot and pleasurable , don't get hang up on something that makes you miserable . But be upfront with your date about it ,so he knows what to expect .
    My best to you .
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    Feb 04, 2012 6:21 PM GMT
    Caius saidSo basically I've been watching porn to try and pick up some tips but I struggle when applying it in real life.

    Porn is the worst kind of "training film" to use for your own gay sex. Its purpose is to provide a visual stimulus to the camera lens, not to benefit the guys in the scene.

    For instance, the porn cum shot is almost always outside the body. Why? Because it's exciting for the porn audience to see that cum eruption as they're wanking off themselves. In reality, a guy topping will usually pop inside the bottom's ass, if he can. But that's not so exciting to see on screen, really nothing much to see at all.

    As for oral, shoot me an RJ email. I can give you some tips there. For most guys getting blown they're more pleased by strong suction than by lip sliding.
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    Feb 06, 2012 3:00 PM GMT
    Don't have sex with just any guy. Have sex with guys that really arouse you. Once you're with them, just let go and enjoy yoursel. I have to really be into a guy to enjoy sex with him, otherwise it gets mechanical and, eventually, boring.