Do you think you picked your career cause you're gay?

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    Feb 02, 2012 10:48 AM GMT
    A year ago, I would have said no, but now I'm not so sure. The ability to eat what you kill and not be subject to a homophobic boss might have made me pick my path.
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    Feb 02, 2012 11:13 AM GMT
    I picked finance cause I (tacky as it sounds) like money, but rather than going into the uber lucrative world of investment banking, I decided to be a financial advisor (limiting my income to 1 tenth of what the top ibankers make). Now I'm pretty sure I did it so that if I come out of the closet at work, nobody can say boo.

    Did any of you also sacrifice income for independence?
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    Feb 02, 2012 1:30 PM GMT
    This would be a good question for drag queens.
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    Feb 02, 2012 1:39 PM GMT
    Besides sleeping with other guys, nothing I have done has been influenced by the fact I am gay.

    Pointless thread is pointless.
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    Feb 02, 2012 1:42 PM GMT
    Tidebeast saidBesides sleeping with other guys, nothing I have done has been influenced by the fact I am gay.

    Pointless thread is pointless.

    Jealous - I wish I had psychic powers that gave me the ability to perceive alternate realities.
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    Feb 02, 2012 1:43 PM GMT
    I'm trying to connect sexuality to career. Or are you talking about stereotypes?
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    Feb 02, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    Being gay I think helped pushed me in my initial direction: the Humanities, but i ultimately wound up in medicine. I think being gay influenced me more in terms of wanting to be a bodybuilder and in terms of wanting to do porn and the like--i escorted when i was in school and loved it...just for the sex, though the money was great too.
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    Feb 02, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    There are certainly careers I did not choose because of being gay. Too bad I didn't admit it to myself before finishing my first degree. On the other hand, if I had been free as a kid/teenager to express my sexuality, I would certainly be in the performing arts.
  • NYCAthlete

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    Feb 02, 2012 2:32 PM GMT
    I agree with kandsk. I didn't choose my career (in finance) to fit in bc I'm gay. I chose it partly to not fall into more stereotypical careers for gay men - the arts, fashion, design, etc. Not that there's anything wrong with that ;) (Seinfeld ref for those that don't know).
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    Feb 02, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    Not at all. There does not seem to be a larger or smaller amount of "us" in my field than the general population. However my employer's early adoption of non-discrimination policies both for employee conduct and its own benefits offerings has been a good incentive to stay put.
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    Feb 02, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
    I'm in the apparel and one would assume I chose it because of my sexuality..Truth of the matter is that I thought I was going to be a scientist but I realized that in my pursuit to dressing better and all my past doodles (I dressed terribly when i was younger) I wanted to get into the clothing field...It was later I kind figured there were a lot more gay guys around that field as well....

    Ah well...
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    Feb 02, 2012 2:46 PM GMT
    I'm a firearms instructor.

    Obviously I picked this career because I am a homosexual.
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    Feb 02, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    So nobody became an entrepenur so theyd never have to deal with a boss who was homophobic? Nobody became a hair dresser, etc.
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:15 PM GMT
    To be more specific, I didn't use my first degree because I didn't feel there was a place for me in the masculine/hetero real estate development firms that only hired frat boys and future family men.
  • masculumpedes

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    Feb 02, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    No....although the first electrician I worked with was gay....icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    I wouldn't say I picked my career path because of my sexuality. Rather, my sexuality influenced my career path indirectly...

    In college, I chose to major in molecular biology because I thought I wanted to go into medicine. Looking back, I wanted to go into medicine partly to become an example of a successful and financially well-off homosexual man. I think this came from my own insecurities in being gay and me trying to "compensate".

    By the time my last year as an undergrad rolled around, I was much more secure with my sexuality and I decided I really liked doing science, so I chose to go into basic research instead of med school. Right now, I'm finishing up a Master's, but I'm leaving the field of basic research to go into forensic DNA analysis, which my sexuality had absolutely no influence on.

    Had it not been for being gay and the insecurities that came with it, I probably wouldn't be in the natural sciences field at all.
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    I don't find wanting to work in the Digital Design/Game Design area gay. I have a long time to go, but being gay doesn't define everything that I am. I'm more than just gay, I'm a brother, a son, a butler (or at least, sometimes it seems that way), a philosopher, a nature junkie, etc...

    I just don't think being gay should be prominent in every aspect of your life. Being gay is just a small portion of who I am. But...that's just my opinion. The way you live your own life is your business.
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:46 PM GMT
    Yeah, I like to pretend I'm a magical gay unicorn that pukes rainbows when I skydive icon_lol.gif

    In all seriousness, my sexuality really has no reflection on any aspect of my life except who I fall in love with.
  • kolkii

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    Feb 02, 2012 5:50 PM GMT
    there was a report done on the "Myth of Gay Wealth"... (will try to find/google later)...

    ..in that Advertisers initially clamored to spend millions to cater to the Gay Male Demographic as they perceived us as "wealthy."

    After some digging/auditing the opposite was actually found, in that gay men were indeed not as wealthy as once thought since we apparently choose creative/service professions that don't pay as much.

    The surprise was that they found lesbians (initially perceived as lower-middle income) to be much more wealthy than their straight counterparts since they chose more "traditional" and male dominated professions.

    caveats abound of course.
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidUh... Kind of?

    Used to be a music major. Then my hot geography professor convinced me to become a geography major. His attractiveness was heavily weighted in my decision to do that.


    OK, well that's honest!
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    Do you think you picked your career cause you're gay?

    Perhaps, in indirect and reactionary ways. I joined the US Army at 20 for reasons too complex to go into here. But once I was in, I found living in an all-male world absolutely wonderful. (There were few women soldiers in 1969, mostly in admin positions whom I seldom saw)

    Plus I was surprisingly good at it, a big boost to my self-esteem, after a childhood of being mocked by my male peers for not being masculine enough. Even my parents thought I should be more manly, and here I was running circles around all the former jocks now in uniform with me.

    After I took an Officer's commission (another thing enlisted Privates didn't often do with only a high school diploma), I realized any long-term career ambitions would end without a college degree. So I arranged to attend college during a break in my regular service, graduating just as I was promoted to Captain.

    After of couple of uncommitted semesters I was drawn to the majors of Speech, and Theatre, with a minor in TV & Radio Broadcasting. And soon found that half the male students in the department were gay. What a coincidence!

    Even after I returned to service I continued to do theatre and voice work on the side, even getting permission to be a non-paid radio DJ on weekends. I even did voice work for the Army itself, recording enlistment promos.

    So I dunno, I think being gay, even in denial but still gay inside me, was directing some of this. And I realize the Army may also have been my subconscious way of continuing to delude myself that I wasn't gay, since who could have a successful Army career and also be suspected of being a stereotypical gay back then? icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    Certainly not, I do what I do because I enjoy doing it.
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    mine picked me
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    I'm working towards my MA in Latin American and Hemispheric Studies because I love latino guys and mexican food......
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    kolkii saidthere was a report done on the "Myth of Gay Wealth"... (will try to find/google later)...

    ..in that Advertisers initially clamored to spend millions to cater to the Gay Male Demographic as they perceived us as "wealthy."

    After some digging/auditing the opposite was actually found, in that gay men were indeed not as wealthy as once thought since we apparently choose creative/service professions that don't pay as much.

    The surprise was that they found lesbians (initially perceived as lower-middle income) to be much more wealthy than their straight counterparts since they chose more "traditional" and male dominated professions.

    caveats abound of course.



    ...the last I heard is that gays make less than straights even they are doing the same job, presumably because of discrimination, but that gays have more disposable income because they don't have kids (everything else being equal). When you hear things like that, and the post about the guy getting sacked for being gay, the OP's point about being your own boss has a certain logic to it.