I wanna get married so bad!

  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 02, 2012 2:32 PM GMT


    this is such a sweet couple! i wish i could find someone right to get married before I turned to 27 years old
  • runnin_stud

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    Feb 02, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    Yo.... your link doesn't work.
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 02, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    runnin_stud saidYo.... your link doesn't work.


    check it again man! it is a nice clip!
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 02, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    AAAV saidR u asian? U want tc ccme tc amerika?


    yeah..im asain..im at France..i would like to take another master degree at US but it's kinda hard. anyway, i will try it!
  • Rusty491

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    Feb 02, 2012 3:12 PM GMT
    Dude, I love that video. My husband and I eloped to Iowa to get married last summer. Even though we're in Texas, we're surrounded by a very supportive group of friends (since most people we know are liberal Jews) and we're going to have a Jewish wedding when we can afford it.
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 02, 2012 3:18 PM GMT
    Rusty491 saidDude, I love that video. My husband and I eloped to Iowa to get married last summer. Even though we're in Texas, we're surrounded by a very supportive group of friends (since most people we know are liberal Jews) and we're going to have a Jewish wedding when we can afford it.


    wow... congratulation to your family! i wish i could find someone to marry soon.
  • Fact

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    Feb 02, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    lol i so know the feeling
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 02, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    a guy date a girl only day then they get fuck. after that, they could get married legally

    a gay couple, they dated each other like 10 years but they coudnt get married legally.

    What The Fuck?
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    Feb 02, 2012 3:38 PM GMT
    When I posted that video here everyone told me that I shouldn't post anymore cuz there were 7371923732 threads about this video but I don't care, I'm still moved each time I see it :')
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 02, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    Ruskach saidWhen I posted that video here everyone told me that I shouldn't post anymore cuz there were 7371923732 threads about this video but I don't care, I'm still moved each time I see it :')


    I dont get the point! why 7371923732 threads? what wrong with those threads about this beautiful video? Madonna also posted it on her wall
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    Feb 02, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
    I'm 17 and I wanna get married too ..... SIGH
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    Feb 02, 2012 4:03 PM GMT

    If I may, I think some of you are putting the cart in front of the horse.

    Marriage comes AFTER you not only find the guy that fits, but after the relationship with such a man has reached a point where marriage is a formal validation/consummation of something that is ALREADY there.

    There are plenty of bad marriages out there, so be careful what you wish for. icon_wink.gif

    warmly,

    -Doug
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    Feb 02, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    And you want to get married why? That validates your connection and commitment to someone how? Or is it you just want it because all the straight people are doing it?

    Marriage is overrated, and honestly...it's quite pathetic that two people need a display of materialism to express that they love someone.

    That's just a personal opinion though.
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    Feb 02, 2012 4:18 PM GMT
    ... someday. If/When we get to that point together. Loving each other is what really matters.
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    Feb 02, 2012 4:21 PM GMT
    It's so great to hear men who want to get married. it gives value to what many of us who are from an older generation have struggled to get.
    The only thing I find dissapointing is how many men in my age bracket are afraid of marriage or don't believe in it. I certainly do. I believe it will give us a certain acceptance and understanding from the outside community. I happen to be a gay man that was married to a woman for a time...and I'm grateful for the experience...it was enjoyable in many ways. Now I look forward to being married to the right gender this time...lol.
    J
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    Feb 02, 2012 4:23 PM GMT
    Yeah...because vowing through thick and thin really only means until you decide to divorce.


    MuscleSage saidIt's so great to hear men who want to get married. it gives value to what many of us who are from an older generation have struggled to get.
    The only thing I find dissapointing is how many men in my age bracket are afraid of marriage or don't believe in it. I certainly do. I believe it will give us a certain acceptance and understanding from the outside community. I happen to be a gay man that was married to a woman for a time...and I'm grateful for the experience...it was enjoyable in many ways. Now I look forward to being married to the right gender this time...lol.
    J
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    Feb 02, 2012 4:26 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    If I may, I think some of you are putting the cart in front of the horse.

    Marriage comes AFTER you not only find the guy that fits, but after the relationship with such a man has reached a point where marriage is a formal validation/consummation of something that is ALREADY there.

    There are plenty of bad marriages out there, so be careful what you wish for. icon_wink.gif

    warmly,

    -Doug
    I agree wid u man. Kobe, trust me on this one, u will surely find ur right guy b4 u ar 27yrs if u take ur time. There ar so many great guys in RJ who can fill in the space left void. Yes i joined RJ not too long, but so far de guys i had de chance 2 conect wid ar great... How much more Kobe? Just relax nd hav fun selectn ur dream patner. Take care...
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    Feb 02, 2012 4:55 PM GMT
    jpBITCHva said
    meninlove said
    If I may, I think some of you are putting the cart in front of the horse.

    Okay, Doug, if wanting to be married is a case of incorrectly-placed priorities, what do you say about NOT wanting to be married? Or specifically, wanting to not (and never) be married?



    I suppose for sake of symmetry that you first have to find a guy to NOT want to be married to...?



    lol, alright, let's see if I understand you.

    Not wanting to be married; is there something wrong with that? No.

    Should you make that clear when you start a relationship? Yes.

    For many years Bill did not want to get married, even after it was legalized.
    It was a non-issue, we'd already made everything joint tenants with full rights of survivorship, living wills etc. Then about 2 years ago he decided he did indeed want to. So we did.

    What I'm trying to tell these fellows is that love doesn't have a schedule (like being married by 27) and that marriage will not make a relationship work. icon_wink.gif

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    Feb 02, 2012 5:03 PM GMT
    ConfederateGhost saidAnd you want to get married why? That validates your connection and commitment to someone how? Or is it you just want it because all the straight people are doing it?

    Marriage is overrated, and honestly...it's quite pathetic that two people need a display of materialism to express that they love someone.

    That's just a personal opinion though.
    In my 20s I felt the same way. Then I found out how great love, commitment, companionship and compromise, mutual sharing and caring really can be, and how it can be far more powerful and reliable than that experienced between good friends. For many, as they get older, these qualities become more important.

    If you chose to raise children or to retire, the full legal and financial benefits start to kick in as well. Those benefits can be huge, and can even mean the difference between a reasonable existence and poverty.

    Marriage agrees with a lot of people. But perhaps for now, it is just not for you.
  • Rusty491

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    Feb 02, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    I certainly never thought marriage was a useless institution, though I do believe it's overrated. I never thought I'd meet a guy that I would actually want to marry. The problem is that so many people want to get MARRIED, instead of focusing on meeting someone WORTH marrying. The "marriage" itself is meaningless, it's the love and commitment that makes a relationship worth it.

    That being said, I am happily married, and wanted to do it so badly that I drove 1,000 miles in 14 hours to a state that would let me. Marriage is more for other people than it is for you. What I mean is, I don't love him any more now that we're married, but when I introduce my "husband" instead of my "partner", people interpret our relationship for what it really is.
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    Marriage is all about the fantasy of fiction.... Think
    about it. You are falling for the fiction of talented writers and filmmakers. No one needs to be married and that goes double for gay men. The divorce rate is proof of it.
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    You can have all those things without marriage.

    So what real purpose does marriage serve? Let's talk about where "marriage" came from for a moment....in ancient times, if a man fucked a woman, they were married. In more recent ancient times...you could marry your daughter off as a bartering tool. In more recent recent times, you can get married for 24hours then call it quits.

    Yeah...I can now see why y'all are lining up at the door for marriage. Because obviously you can't truly commit or love someone unless you have a piece of paper that says so.


    Nivek said
    ConfederateGhost saidAnd you want to get married why? That validates your connection and commitment to someone how? Or is it you just want it because all the straight people are doing it?

    Marriage is overrated, and honestly...it's quite pathetic that two people need a display of materialism to express that they love someone.

    That's just a personal opinion though.
    In my 20s I felt the same way. Then I found out how great love, commitment, companionship and compromise, mutual sharing and caring really can be, and how it can be far more powerful and reliable than that experienced between good friends. For many, as they get older, these qualities become more important.

    If you chose to raise children or to retire, the full legal and financial benefits start to kick in as well. Those benefits can be huge, and can even mean the difference between a reasonable existence and poverty.

    Marriage agrees with a lot of people. But perhaps for now, it is just not for you.
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    Feb 02, 2012 5:29 PM GMT
    Rusty491 saidI certainly never thought marriage was a useless institution, though I do believe it's overrated. I never thought I'd meet a guy that I would actually want to marry. The problem is that so many people want to get MARRIED, instead of focusing on meeting someone WORTH marrying. The "marriage" itself is meaningless, it's the love and commitment that makes a relationship worth it.

    That being said, I am happily married, and wanted to do it so badly that I drove 1,000 miles in 14 hours to a state that would let me. Marriage is more for other people than it is for you. What I mean is, I don't love him any more now that we're married, but when I introduce my "husband" instead of my "partner", people interpret our relationship for what it really is.



    This is a GREAT post and says what I was trying to say better than the way I said it.

    -Doug
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    Feb 02, 2012 6:16 PM GMT
    You're in love with the idea of being in love and married. This is useless and potentially harmful. You have to be in love with an individual and THEN you think about long term commitments.
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    Feb 02, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou're in love with the idea of being in love and married. This is useless and potentially harmful. You have to be in love with an individual and THEN you think about long term commitments.


    like us, right?