Feb 02, 2012 2:32 PM GMT
this is such a sweet couple! i wish i could find someone right to get married before I turned to 27 years old
runnin_stud saidYo.... your link doesn't work.
AAAV saidR u asian? U want tc ccme tc amerika?
Rusty491 saidDude, I love that video. My husband and I eloped to Iowa to get married last summer. Even though we're in Texas, we're surrounded by a very supportive group of friends (since most people we know are liberal Jews) and we're going to have a Jewish wedding when we can afford it.
Ruskach saidWhen I posted that video here everyone told me that I shouldn't post anymore cuz there were 7371923732 threads about this video but I don't care, I'm still moved each time I see it :')
MuscleSage saidIt's so great to hear men who want to get married. it gives value to what many of us who are from an older generation have struggled to get.
The only thing I find dissapointing is how many men in my age bracket are afraid of marriage or don't believe in it. I certainly do. I believe it will give us a certain acceptance and understanding from the outside community. I happen to be a gay man that was married to a woman for a time...and I'm grateful for the experience...it was enjoyable in many ways. Now I look forward to being married to the right gender this time...lol.
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meninlove saidI agree wid u man. Kobe, trust me on this one, u will surely find ur right guy b4 u ar 27yrs if u take ur time. There ar so many great guys in RJ who can fill in the space left void. Yes i joined RJ not too long, but so far de guys i had de chance 2 conect wid ar great... How much more Kobe? Just relax nd hav fun selectn ur dream patner. Take care...
If I may, I think some of you are putting the cart in front of the horse.
Marriage comes AFTER you not only find the guy that fits, but after the relationship with such a man has reached a point where marriage is a formal validation/consummation of something that is ALREADY there.
There are plenty of bad marriages out there, so be careful what you wish for.
warmly,
-Doug
jpBITCHva saidmeninlove said
If I may, I think some of you are putting the cart in front of the horse.
Okay, Doug, if wanting to be married is a case of incorrectly-placed priorities, what do you say about NOT wanting to be married? Or specifically, wanting to not (and never) be married?
I suppose for sake of symmetry that you first have to find a guy to NOT want to be married to...?
ConfederateGhost saidAnd you want to get married why? That validates your connection and commitment to someone how? Or is it you just want it because all the straight people are doing it?In my 20s I felt the same way. Then I found out how great love, commitment, companionship and compromise, mutual sharing and caring really can be, and how it can be far more powerful and reliable than that experienced between good friends. For many, as they get older, these qualities become more important.
Marriage is overrated, and honestly...it's quite pathetic that two people need a display of materialism to express that they love someone.
That's just a personal opinion though.
Nivek saidConfederateGhost saidAnd you want to get married why? That validates your connection and commitment to someone how? Or is it you just want it because all the straight people are doing it?In my 20s I felt the same way. Then I found out how great love, commitment, companionship and compromise, mutual sharing and caring really can be, and how it can be far more powerful and reliable than that experienced between good friends. For many, as they get older, these qualities become more important.
Marriage is overrated, and honestly...it's quite pathetic that two people need a display of materialism to express that they love someone.
That's just a personal opinion though.
If you chose to raise children or to retire, the full legal and financial benefits start to kick in as well. Those benefits can be huge, and can even mean the difference between a reasonable existence and poverty.
Marriage agrees with a lot of people. But perhaps for now, it is just not for you.
Rusty491 saidI certainly never thought marriage was a useless institution, though I do believe it's overrated. I never thought I'd meet a guy that I would actually want to marry. The problem is that so many people want to get MARRIED, instead of focusing on meeting someone WORTH marrying. The "marriage" itself is meaningless, it's the love and commitment that makes a relationship worth it.
That being said, I am happily married, and wanted to do it so badly that I drove 1,000 miles in 14 hours to a state that would let me. Marriage is more for other people than it is for you. What I mean is, I don't love him any more now that we're married, but when I introduce my "husband" instead of my "partner", people interpret our relationship for what it really is.
Ariodante saidYou're in love with the idea of being in love and married. This is useless and potentially harmful. You have to be in love with an individual and THEN you think about long term commitments.