Romance in a Realationship.

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    Jun 27, 2008 2:23 PM GMT
    How important is Romance in your relationship and do you try and keep up being Romantic most of the time?

    For me it's very important giving and receiving.


    Is your other half Romantic or not?
  • UncleverName

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    Jun 27, 2008 7:03 PM GMT
    It's pretty important to me, but being with my partner for 4 years, I don't really know what romantic means anymore.
    He's got different views on things, and I don't usually know what he likes.
    Same for him.

    An example is that for me, it's really romantic if he picks up a rose and is maybe waiting for me to get home with it in his mouth, and nothing else on. Ok, maybe that's sexy too. What's romantic again? Kidding aside, this isn't something he's likely to do, because he thinks flowers are a waste.

    We've gone to Paris and had big fancy romantic dinners. But I don't find stuff like that to actually feel super romantic.

    I guess for me, romance ends up being when we have a minute or two alone, maybe even at night when we're on the bed together cuddling, and I feel like I can be vulnerable and not be judged, followed with a kiss. Doesn't happen too often, but it's awesome when it does.
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    Jun 27, 2008 7:32 PM GMT
    My partner has always been more romantic then me, but I have certainly picked up some useful skills in the romance area since I started dating him in early 1998.
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Jun 27, 2008 7:35 PM GMT
    VERY IMPORTANT! I am a very romantic and sensitive guy and try to let my partner know how I feel about him all the time and expect or hope for the same in return.

    Sometimes, it's little things that will melt someone's heart like having roses on the table when he comes home, sending a text message saying only "thinking of you"

    or "love you"


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    Jun 27, 2008 8:00 PM GMT
    My partner and I are a little romantic. Needless to say 20 years ago we were a lot more romantic. We know each other so well. It is the simple little things we do for each other or the cute little things we do when the other least expects it. When we go on vacation it is usually to P-town or Puerto Vallarta Mexico, or Fort Lauderdale Fl. They are all places where we can be ourselves and are with or around gay men. I love P-town and just walking down the street hand in hand. To me just being able to do that is romantic.

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    Jun 27, 2008 8:48 PM GMT
    The definition of romance is different for everyone however I will take a WILD guess and presume it's important for EVERYONE!!!

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    Jun 27, 2008 8:52 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidThe definition of romance is different for everyone however I will take a WILD guess and presume it's important for EVERYONE!!!





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    Jun 27, 2008 8:55 PM GMT
    Sedative said[quote][cite]a1972guy said[/cite]The definition of romance is different for everyone however I will take a WILD guess and presume it's important for EVERYONE!!!





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  • GQjock

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    Jun 27, 2008 9:16 PM GMT
    Why the hell would you wanna go through all the hassles of having a relationship when romance and being held high in someone else's mind is clearly one of the benefits

    Without that ... a relationship is nothing but a drudge
  • zakariahzol

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    Jun 27, 2008 10:11 PM GMT
    Depend on what you mean is romantic. Personally I dont care for anyone treating me like a girl. Buy me a flowers, new cloths, send me love card and etc. One of the reason I start losing interst on my previous bf is because he treat me like one. He will talk effiminately to me, greet me with no cloth on/ or just underwear while talking seductively, bake some cakes or even washing my cloth like some housewife.

    My idea of being romantic is probably a cuddle in the night , some hard pounding sexual romp , a trip to the wood or some backpacking adventure. Nothing turn me off more, than a masculine man behaving effiminately.
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    Jun 28, 2008 4:29 AM GMT
    zakariahzol saidDepend on what you mean is romantic. Personally I dont care for anyone treating me like a girl. Buy me a flowers, new cloths, send me love card and etc. One of the reason I start losing interst on my previous bf is because he treat me like one. He will talk effiminately to me, greet me with no cloth on/ or just underwear while talking seductively, bake some cakes or even washing my cloth like some housewife.

    My idea of being romantic is probably a cuddle in the night , some hard pounding sexual romp , a trip to the wood or some backpacking adventure. Nothing turn me off more, than a masculine man behaving effiminately.


    We are not talking about treating your other half like a housewife! You are two men of course but its about thinking about the other one and wanting to show your romantic side for example booking a table at a nice eating place as a suprise or bringing home his favourite music on CD?
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    Jul 08, 2008 6:16 AM GMT

    Couldn't resist this one. Here's almost 20 years of romantic monogamous experience with the same guy. The sex has toned down some,( there whenever we need it, so we become laid back) and in between we court each other like we did when we first met. As in how you behave when you're all hung up on a guy and want to impress (and get him into the sack) without coming on too strong. We tell each other 'I love you' at least twice each day. We say things like, 'How'd you sleep?' and 'Hey, I gave you a fresh towel.' while the other is showering.

    Yeah we give each other flowers, take each other shopping for something and compliment the way each other looks before heading out to work.

    It's important stuff. You build each other up. And there's a million ways to do it and lots of time to figure out more. Sometimes I look at Bill and get a big lump in my throat when I realize how f-ing lucky I am, and sometimes I catch him looking at me with slightly red eyes I know he's been feeling the same. And that inspires me.
    -Doug
    PS a trick to sex and long term relationships. I love chocolate cake, but if you force fed it to me every day twice a day I'd probably start craving something else. But if you saved it as something special a couple times a week, building up to it, I'd likely never lose my taste for it.
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    Jul 08, 2008 9:12 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    ... As in how you behave when you're all hung up on a guy and want to impress (and get him into the sack) without coming on too strong. We tell each other 'I love you' at least twice each day. We say things like, 'How'd you sleep?' and 'Hey, I gave you a fresh towel.' while the other is showering....give each other flowers, take each other shopping for something and compliment the way each other looks before heading out to work...You build each other up. And there's a million ways to do it ... -Doug


    Thanks for that, Doug. I spent the better part of 19 years in a LTR without any kind of balance in this department and wondering why I so crazy as to want it back. Nice to know I'm not so crazy after all.
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    Jul 08, 2008 11:01 AM GMT
    meninlove said

    PS a trick to sex and long term relationships. I love chocolate cake, but if you force fed it to me every day twice a day I'd probably start craving something else. But if you saved it as something special a couple times a week, building up to it, I'd likely never lose my taste for it.


    This is GREAT advice man
    Thank you!