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Alright, so I come from a large, small town famliy. I recently moved out of my parents house and have begun to spread my wings. I have always been attracted to both guys and girls. But I have'nt come out of the closet or anything. How will I ever know ho I feel if I don't act on my feelings for a guy. don't want to come out of the closet just to find out I'm not really interested. I wish there was just a way to experience it in a safe environment where I'm not going to get kidnapped or worse. Any suggestions?

Get kidnapped?

Welllll looookyyyy here. I walked in just at the right time. ;)

Let me tell ya what ya need to do OP. Ya need to make you a fly guy account on that there Grindr thing and then find you a hook up and see if you like it.

If not...you only broke that poor twinks heart who was desperately trying to find someone to marry and make him, his bitch.

Two very good options. Maybe not the right ones for me, but very vaild :-p

You'll know; trust us.

Claystation saidGet kidnapped?

LOL i was thinking the exact same thing. WTF lol.

explain the kidnapped part please!

beachtrippin saidTwo very good options. Maybe not the right ones for me, but very vaild :-p

Hopefully you weren't referring my post as an "option". I was questioning the idea that you think you would be kidnapped.

All I meant by that is that meeting people over the internet is'nt always the safest way to go about things. I am not actually afraid that I will be kidnapped.

You could always try that horse in your picture and see if you are into beastiality? I mean...that's a little sick but whatever.

beachtrippin saidAll I meant by that is that meeting people over the internet is'nt always the safest way to go about things. I am not actually afraid that I will be kidnapped.

Find yourself a nice gay bar and remember its okay to say no. Some guy want you to go home with him but you dont feel comfortable, say no.

Everyone gets kidnapped when they first come out... it's normal. Get it over with and you'll be just fine.

ConfederateGhost saidYou could always try that horse in your picture and see if you are into beastiality? I mean...that's a little sick but whatever.

lol WIN!

JoeB1986 saidEveryone gets kidnapped when they first come out... it's normal. Get it over with and you'll be just fine.

OK. That's not funny...

manboynyc said

JoeB1986 saidEveryone gets kidnapped when they first come out... it's normal. Get it over with and you'll be just fine.

OK. That's not funny...

Everytime I get kidnapped the kidnappers end up paying the ransom to get someone to take me back...

Just remember: there's a host of options (like this site, for example) that don't necessarily involve gay bars or kidnapping (LOVE that, btw!). There are actual dating sites now - not just for hookups. You could (gasp!) get to know someone first and then consider if you wanna fool around with them. That said - I think one should learn to feel comfortable in any gay-friendly environment. Gay bars should not be intimidating - but it takes practice. Sure did for me - and I grew up in Manhattan with super-liberal parents!

I know...I've made alot of cash off you. Once I was your brother, once I was your father...once I was even your son...paid in hundreds too.

Cash said

manboynyc said

JoeB1986 saidEveryone gets kidnapped when they first come out... it's normal. Get it over with and you'll be just fine.

OK. That's not funny...

Everytime I get kidnapped the kidnappers end up paying the ransom to get someone to take me back...

Two words: Hook. Up. Works everytime.

It's difficult the joy you get of blowjobs with or from a guy and the ecstasy of giving and receiving anal sex correctly. Find a man with lots of experience and hot Adonis good looks sometime, you'll know.

It's OK to continue to be attracted to both guys and gals (careful when you say girls and boys, even though we know what you mean).

Without coming out you can still visit a bar. Very few kidnappings from what I'm told. Go with a girlfriend, and tell her what you intend: you'd like to buy a few drinks, dance a little and see if any cute guys catch your eye. Do not tell strangers too much about yourself (there's always some asshole in the bar who will try to make you his mission).

If you espy someone who you fancy, buy him a drink. If nobody catches your eye at least you walked in, looked around and got a lay of the land.

Cash saidEverytime I get kidnapped the kidnappers end up paying the ransom to get someone to take me back.

Oh, Henry.....

Gay hot oiled wrestling is also a good way to find out if you're gay... hope you don't mind a camera?

First do what you are doing chat with guys on here or on some other social media site. Take your time and chat for a while. Maybe even try camming with someone you find attractive and see if you get more turned on when you both play alittle-it is safe can't get hurt through the air.

If you do think about a live hook up-just meet for a beer in a place you feel safe. Again go have the beer, talk, get to know the person, but make it just for the beer. If you get all disappointed in the head when you are driving home, make another date and move a little closer to touching.

because no one has asked this yet, i'll bite the bullet. when you say act on your feelings, what do you mean? i say that only because grindr is only going to do so much if you're looking for something sexual... but it's a kinda a moot option if you're looking for a nonsexual encounter with a guy. so what is it that you're looking for?

I'll never forget my second sexual experience with another guy, I've been with the neighbor guy for quite some time for just hook-ups, but he was the only guy I had sex with. So just barely being over 21, I tried the gay bar scene. I was really naive, and didn't know what to expect, and of course scared. I became someone's conquest, of all people the bartender. He took me home and and I was so scared I couldn't even get it up. I thought, maybe I'm not gay (or bi) after all. But I found that I was drawn to guys as well. It was just a lousy sexual experience. So I went back,laid low, and was choosy about responding to who hit on me. So joxguy is right, go for the beer first, if you feel the chemistry is right and you feel safe, go ahead try and enjoy!

Uploaded an underwear pic,yep ur gay. Problem solved.