Guys who WONT top.

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    Feb 03, 2012 11:28 PM GMT
    So theres this guy that i was kind of dating. He's super awesome and everything and just as a disclaimer before my post: I am a verse top, I prefer to top and i rarely bttm unless i truss the guy, but I do once in a great while get in a bottomy mood.

    Anways, one day i joked something like "just wait until u top me" and he said "I can't". I asked why not? and he said its just not something he's into

    I'm very confused about his inability to top someone. I can understand not being able to bottom, you have to know what you're doing, but who doesnt want their junk in something warm and awesome?! Usually when i think of strict bttms theyre big ol girly men but he's not.

    I'm just asking those of you that dont top.... how on earth do u not like it?
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    Feb 03, 2012 11:33 PM GMT
    Sounds like a bossy bottom icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 03, 2012 11:37 PM GMT
    GaymerMikey saidI'm very confused about his inability to top someone.


    His inability to top? Is that like your inability to eat pussy?

    Not everyone gets off on anal sex.
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    Feb 03, 2012 11:57 PM GMT
    Buy a two way dildo, or just let him play with ur butt. Nothing more to do then just talking to him.maybe you'll change his mind....then again.
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    Feb 04, 2012 12:13 AM GMT
    theantijock said
    GaymerMikey saidI'm very confused about his inability to top someone.


    His inability to top? Is that like your inability to eat pussy?

    Not everyone gets off on anal sex.


    Who said I wouldnt eat pussy? thats actually my favorite sex act for straight sex thanks....

    And its hard to say he's not into anal sex when he loves bottoming. I just dont get why a guy wouldnt want to get off
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    Feb 04, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    Strict bottoms are my favourite by far... no tensions at all.

    He wants my cock in his ass, and I plow his ass till he is good and loosened up.

    Total win-win.

    And I know quite a few guys who are wired that way, and they are quite masculine.
  • stratavos

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    Feb 04, 2012 12:21 AM GMT
    GaymerMikey said
    theantijock said
    GaymerMikey saidI'm very confused about his inability to top someone.


    His inability to top? Is that like your inability to eat pussy?

    Not everyone gets off on anal sex.


    Who said I wouldnt eat pussy? thats actually my favorite sex act for straight sex thanks....

    And its hard to say he's not into anal sex when he loves bottoming. I just dont get why a guy wouldnt want to get off


    some guys just don't look forward to topping (performance anxiety/prefer being penetrated) anyways... the double ended dildo sounds like the closest answer to this situation

    psst thanks alphatrigger, it's definitely true that not all bottoms are "feminine".
  • DrewT

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    Feb 04, 2012 12:24 AM GMT
    I don't understand lesbian sex or straight sex, and yet it still exists........


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  • NerdLifter

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    Feb 04, 2012 12:26 AM GMT
    stratavos saidpsst thanks alphatrigger, it's definitely true that not all bottoms are "feminine".

    Shh, you might devastate some gay-man's hyper-simplistic world view.
  • stratavos

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    Feb 04, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    Studinprogress said
    stratavos saidpsst thanks alphatrigger, it's definitely true that not all bottoms are "feminine".

    Shh, you might devastate some gay-man's hyper-simplistic world view.

    but what if by shattering said man's world view, his quality of life becomes "greater"?

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    Feb 04, 2012 12:30 AM GMT
    I don't get it either. You have a dick, fucking feels good—what's not to like?! If it feels good and it's safe I'm game.
  • NerdLifter

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    Feb 04, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
    stratavos said
    Studinprogress said
    stratavos saidpsst thanks alphatrigger, it's definitely true that not all bottoms are "feminine".

    Shh, you might devastate some gay-man's hyper-simplistic world view.

    but what if by shattering said man's world view, his quality of life becomes "greater"?

    This is a possibility.
  • stratavos

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    Feb 04, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    Studinprogress said
    stratavos said
    Studinprogress said
    stratavos saidpsst thanks alphatrigger, it's definitely true that not all bottoms are "feminine".

    Shh, you might devastate some gay-man's hyper-simplistic world view.

    but what if by shattering said man's world view, his quality of life becomes "greater"?

    This is a possibility.


    indeed *strokes his tiny beard with his index finger and thumb on his left hand*
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    Feb 04, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    AlphaTrigger saidStrict bottoms are my favourite by far... no tensions at all.

    He wants my cock in his ass, and I plow his ass till he is good and loosened up.

    Total win-win.

    And I know quite a few guys who are wired that way, and they are quite masculine.


    Amen brotha.
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    Feb 04, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    Maybe you should ask him about the times hes done it before? Usually people try something once and then assume they can never like it. Maybe he just had a bad experience.
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    Feb 04, 2012 12:53 AM GMT
    adam228 saidMaybe you should ask him about the times hes done it before? Usually people try something once and then assume they can never like it. Maybe he just had a bad experience.


    That's my reason I don't top. I will fuck a dude in the mouth though.

    just sayin'
  • Kale93

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    Feb 04, 2012 12:58 AM GMT
    A person can't really help what does and doesn't turn them on. Me for example, I couldn't imagine being a bottom. Maybe he'll do you with a dildo?
  • LJay

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    Feb 04, 2012 12:59 AM GMT
    Truss him or trust him? There is a bit of difference.

    Is he unable to top or does he simply not want to top? We can't assume that everybody wants to top.

    Frustrating for you because you sound like you would really like to have him top you. Give him time and work with him, but whatever happens you have to respect his choice.
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    Feb 04, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    You have to understand that the brain and not the cock is the greatest device one's sexual arsenal.
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    Feb 04, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    Maybe he really CAN'T because he has ED or something. Have him get Viagra.
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    Feb 04, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    Have encountered this a few times before in different ways.

    One of my friends get's soft whenever he fucks a guy but he will be rock hard the rest of the time and can get hard again soon after he is out of the guy. He loves to get fucked and sucked and there are plenty of total tops out there or guys who enjoy a dildo when they need to btm.

    Another guy I've had fun with can not lay down and have a guy ride him, he will get soft but that his is favorite way to jack off. Any other position his cock is rock hard and he can fuck for as long as u can take it, the moment he lies down though it will go soft inside you. (miss those sweaty fuck sessions)

    Some guys have mental blocks about topping, others just get no sensation out of it and therefore no pleasure. The same goes for bottoming, some guys just can't. They find each other and everyone is happy!
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    Feb 04, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    OP is the guy uncut? If so then he physically can't top. some guys that are uncut experience pain when he inserts so maybe that is why. Just don't pressure him to do..
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    Feb 04, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    Aggieboy saidOP is the guy uncut? If so then he physically can't top. some guys that are uncut experience pain when he inserts so maybe that is why. Just don't pressure him to do..


    I wouldnt pressure someone into doing what they dont want to do, it was just kind of a bummer when ifound out he just wants to bottom all the time. im not a huge bottom myself but i guess its one of those u dont want it till its not an option anyomre situations
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    Feb 04, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    GaymerMikey saidSo theres this guy that i was kind of dating. He's super awesome and everything and just as a disclaimer before my post: I am a verse top, I prefer to top and i rarely bttm unless i truss the guy, but I do once in a great while get in a bottomy mood.

    Anways, one day i joked something like "just wait until u top me" and he said "I can't". I asked why not? and he said its just not something he's into

    I'm very confused about his inability to top someone. I can understand not being able to bottom, you have to know what you're doing, but who doesnt want their junk in something warm and awesome?! Usually when i think of strict bttms theyre big ol girly men but he's not.

    I'm just asking those of you that dont top.... how on earth do u not like it?


    Per this study: http://www.nickyee.com/ponder/topbottom.pdf, sounds like the norm: most gay men are exclusive bottoms. Noticably less are exclusive tops, and even less are versatile. Despite what they claim to be, in order to win over the masses... getting acquainted isn't always what it turns out to be, eh? icon_neutral.gif
  • Delivis

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    Feb 04, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    Maybe he just doesnt like anal? Not everyone does. Hard to do anal if you`re not aroused and not using a strap on or something that stays hard even when you are not aroused.