Scared of going back to school because I might have to face my biggest fear!

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    Feb 05, 2012 1:19 AM GMT
    There is injections... There is spiders... There is even heights...

    Then there is... Public toilets.

    I'm going back to school next week after like a 3 year hiatus. I'm scared because it over an hour away from where I live. I live close to work, and if I ever need to go to the toilet THAT bad I'll just say I don't feel well and go home, I usually eat and drink light the day before as well. I'm so scared because... If it gets urgent, I won't know what to do. I could never bring myself to go into a public toilet... I'm hoping I can train my body to go in the mornings or something so I won't need to but when I wake up it's like my all inner organs just stop moving or something :S I usually have to go for a run and be awake for an hour before I can make anything happen :/

    Anyone else have this problem? It's not even a sanitary issue either, just social embarrassment.

    Can anyone help haha? I'm freaking the FUCK out, I suffer from anxiety... So, that's not helping either.
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    Feb 05, 2012 1:20 AM GMT



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    Feb 05, 2012 1:21 AM GMT
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    Feb 05, 2012 1:29 AM GMT
    As an aside, you live in Australia, quite possibly the continent with the most astounding array of extremely nasty and toxic creepy crawlies and ill-tempered bugs known to man.

    And don't forget the spider lurking under the dunny seat.

    You should be used to that sort of fucked upped-ness.

    Kidding aside, just try and adapt. Get some bleach-impregnated wipes and wipe down the seat; dry it off with toilet paper and flush; make a paper nest on the seat to separate your tushie from the seat.

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    Feb 05, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    It's not sanitary... It's social, like if someone comes in haha.
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    Feb 05, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    Kristoff saidIt's not sanitary... It's social, like if someone comes in haha.

    I don't know about you, but I'm not very social while in a public toilet.

    And if I walked in and you started talking to me, You'd get a stunningly cold shoulder.

    And if you didn't get the hint then you'd get a few choice words to shut you up completely.

    The toilet is accessible to the public, it's not a social venue.

    But, here is some advice.

    tough shit sweet heart.

    Either learn to use one or spend the rest of your life letting some silly little phobia control you.
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    Feb 05, 2012 1:55 AM GMT
    That hot tub your sitting in in you lil picture....

    It's a stew of other peoples bodily secretions that I guarantee at least one person has pissed in... your bathing in a public toilet and your squeemish about peeing in one
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    Feb 05, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    Kristoff saidIt's not sanitary... It's social, like if someone comes in haha.
    Dude...face your fear head on....the first day of school...arrive an hour early...go directly to a restroom...go through the motions...after you complete your business once...the fear subsides...try it...you got nothing to lose...
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    Feb 05, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    If it's the embarrassment of someone hearing you fart, then this is what you should do:

    1. If possible, use a restroom on a different floor than the one where you have class. That way, you keep your noises from being heard by people in your class.

    2. Don't pee in the urinals. Always pee in the private toilet stall because you can close the door for privacy.

    3. When you shit, try to flush the toilet at the exact moment it comes out so the sound of the flushing water will disguise the sound of your shitting. It also keeps the odor down. This is known as a "courtesy flush."

    4. If you have to fart, let it out a little at a time and try spreading your ass cheeks to make a larger hole for the air to come out. This should make it sound like a whisper than a trumpet.

    5. Never carry reading material into the toilet because you shouldn't have to wait so long to shit.

    6. ALWAYS make sure you don't pee on the toilet. If you make a mess, clean it up so it will be clean for the next person. Also, by keeping the toilet clean, you let people know that you're a very neat person.

    7. ALWAYS wash your hands. Never be seen leaving a restroom without washing your hands.

    DRINK PLENTY OF WATER AND EAT FIBER.
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    Feb 05, 2012 2:46 AM GMT
    Drink a lot of coffee or other hot liquid when you first get up in the morning and nature will summarily take its course. That way you should be able to make it through the day without cramping up or worse.
  • disasterpiece

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    Feb 05, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    I'm public-pee shy as well, I know what you mean. It has nothing to do with anything, I can show my penis to people no problem, and I'm very comfortable socially, but when it comes to piss, I need to be totally alone, or it just won't come out. I guess it's something about intimacy, I don't know... but there's solutions !

    The easiest and more efficient one is to get drunk, but that may not be the best solution for school icon_lol.gif

    Otherwise, just go into a stall and have some headphones on. That way, you can tell when you get in the stall that there's no one in the place, and as the music is loud and you can't hear shit, you won't realize if someone comes in. Hence, just let the pee flow away.

    It really is something you need to fight, not flee, because it won't change. When you cannot change something, work harder and change yourself. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 05, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    Disasterpiece saidI
    It really is something you need to fight, not flee, because it won't change. When you cannot change something, work harder and change yourself. icon_smile.gif


    Ugh, thats exactly what I have to do right now.. :/
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    Feb 05, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    If you want something to work, then you'll find a way to make it work. If you can't do something, then don't bother with it. You can always just shit in a cup, then find 2 girls to give it to?
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    Feb 05, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    come on... really? icon_rolleyes.gif that is your biggest fear.. so is it just toilets that you are afraid of, how about shopping car handles, or door handles. Seems more likely that you would catch something on those.

    I would like to suggest keeping cottonelle wet wipes in your cart.. cleanliness is next to godliness cause nobody likes a skank ass.


    Edit: thats right, sanitation isn't the issue, you just don't want people hear you take a shit. My suggestion is put in your earbuds, turn the music up so you can't hear anything. And since you didn't hear anything, You don't know what other people heard or even if there are any other people even in there. I do this at the gym and it works for me. Not that I really care though.

    but def wet wipes are a must.
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    Feb 05, 2012 3:00 AM GMT
    Kristoff saidIt's not sanitary... It's social, like if someone comes in haha.


    Always use a stall, then. No one is going to walk in on you then. Seriously, you need to overcome this fear and anxiety because you're doing more damage to you on a personal and social level.
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    Feb 05, 2012 3:00 AM GMT

    How to Poop at Work
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    Feb 05, 2012 3:08 AM GMT
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    Feb 05, 2012 3:28 AM GMT
    I have an ex who was molested by his "Big Brother" in a public restroom in a park when he was 10. 35 years later he still won't use a public bathroom. When we went out he would go into the parking lot and pee by the dumpsters rather than in a public restroom.
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    Feb 05, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    I used to have it but then I started counting numbers, doing multiplication tables, etc and it seemed to briefly take my mind off of not peeing so I was able to

    now I really have no problem at all even in crowded environments
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    Feb 05, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    got one of those noise canceling head phones and an ipod and just through on some tunes when you go into a public toilet. Maybe bring a psp and play some games or watch a movie to make yourself feel more at home.
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    Feb 05, 2012 5:02 AM GMT
    at least ur making the effort to improve. good for you.
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    Feb 05, 2012 5:50 AM GMT

    http://youtu.be/iJSt65oUkRU

    from the movie "Waiting"
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    Feb 05, 2012 6:40 AM GMT
    I have this problem too. But if I really have to go at school and don't have time to find a washroom that isn't really busy, then I just man up, turn my Ipod on full blast and pretend like no one's listening. Haha

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    Feb 05, 2012 7:05 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidA little word to the wise.. there is one thing that is the MOST germ effected place we humans go.. It's not a public restroom, nor Dr's Office.




    It's the Gas Pump! Yes.. it's true. They say the handle at your local Gas pump carries more germs than anywhere! All I know is at 52,, I've filled my car up a trillion times and never got sick once from doing so. Fear not my friend.. the germs out there in the real world are not going to kill you!

    Like I've said a million times before on RJ.. You'll put a guy's cock in your mouth and go bobbin' for your Adams Apple,, but you're scared to sit on a plastic seat in private..
    I just don't get it.

    Just sayin'


    He said it's not about sanitation, but the social (public) aspect of it.
  • araphael

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    Feb 05, 2012 7:23 AM GMT
    There are no worries man for you. Going back to school is like riding a bike. You spent your whole childhood doing it before and you can learn to do it again. You will shine I have no doubts.