Straights and Gays

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    Feb 05, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    i have a straight friend that i used to like. He knows im gay and we playfully flirt around. We have gotten close in our relationship but am starting to confuse our friendship for more. i wanna keep our friendship but dont know what to do.
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    Feb 05, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    luislalo3 saidi have a straight friend that i used to like. He knows im gay and we playfully flirt around. We have gotten close in our relationship but am starting to confuse our friendship for more. i wanna keep our friendship but dont know what to do.

    Set lines in your head where not to cross. I've been there it never ends well if you don't separate him in your mind from someone you see yourself with. You will ultimately hurt yourself.
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    Feb 05, 2012 1:58 AM GMT
    Well, friends forever, or date and never talk to each other again if things go wrong... do you want to secretly lose him? lol, j.k.. idk.
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    Feb 05, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    Eh I had a straight guy friend who turned out to be my best friend that I fell in love with. It was terrible for me, being that obsessed about somebody who would never look at you even close to the same way no matter what I did.

    I advise to set boundaries for your own good. Plus once you find someone else who is bi or gay, you'll pass on that romance torch to the other him.
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    Feb 05, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    Ckfeezy said
    luislalo3 saidi have a straight friend that i used to like. He knows im gay and we playfully flirt around. We have gotten close in our relationship but am starting to confuse our friendship for more. i wanna keep our friendship but dont know what to do.

    Set lines in your head where not to cross. I've been there it never ends well if you don't separate him in your mind from someone you see yourself with. You will ultimately hurt yourself.


    Pretty much says it all. Most of us have been there; take it from a dinosaur.

    You might appreciate "The Cranberry Hush," by Ben Monopoli, ebook you can download for Kindle or Nook. Deals with this situation, only it's a bi gay/straight guy.
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    Feb 05, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    RocknMike saidEh I had a straight guy friend who turned out to be my best friend that I fell in love with. It was terrible for me, being that obsessed about somebody who would never look at you even close to the same way no matter what I did.

    I advise to set boundaries for your own good. Plus once you find someone else who is bi or gay, you'll pass on that romance torch to the other him.


    sounds horrible... i really hope to stay close friends cuz i did think about not talking but then i know i cant go through with it lol
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    Feb 05, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    starboard5 said

    You might appreciate "The Cranberry Hush," by Ben Monopoli, ebook you can download for Kindle or Nook. Deals with this situation, only it's a bi gay/straight guy.


    Awesome book. I am getting set to read his next one.
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    Feb 05, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
    starboard5 said
    Ckfeezy said
    luislalo3 said ...

    Set lines in your head where not to cross. I've been there it never ends well if you don't separate him in your mind from someone you see yourself with. You will ultimately hurt yourself.


    Pretty much says it all. Most of us have been there; take it from a dinosaur.

    You might appreciate "The Cranberry Hush," by Ben Monopoli, ebook you can download for Kindle or Nook. Deals with this situation, only it's a bi gay/straight guy.


    thanks for the recommendation. ill definitely look for the book.
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    Feb 05, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    The other thing to keep in mind is that if he knows you are into him, he may get off on the attention. This is not to say he's an asshole for teasing you, but everybody likes to feel attractive, even if they are not planning to take the person up on it, they may still reward the behavior to get more of it. Unfortunately it falls on you to keep your feelings in check and don't read more into the flirting than is there.
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    Feb 05, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    You've gotta be emotionally tough, it's one of the toughest things to go through. Just remember he's straight and that things will never happen. Fantasizing and putting yourself through all that isn't worth it, I know that from experience. icon_sad.gif

    Good luck. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 05, 2012 6:16 AM GMT
    Get him to do something that'll turn you off. Have him poop on you while singing "this is the song that never ends..."
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    Feb 05, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    luislalo3 saidi have a straight friend that i used to like. He knows im gay and we playfully flirt around. We have gotten close in our relationship but am starting to confuse our friendship for more. i wanna keep our friendship but dont know what to do.

    The simple answer to your question is don't confuse the two. You say he's straight right? that's an important fact in all of this. He knows that you're gay and he flirts but that doesn't mean he wants to hook up with you, or any other guy. Straight guys often flirt. That's their nature because practicing their flirting, with males or females, will improve their chances of ultimately catching the female they want. Read Darwin man. I'm sorry to burst that potential nuclear fantasy bubble you've created in your head about you and him. Just remember you said that he's straight!! Now, yes you may be the one guy that could turn him towards boys, but most straight guys do not turn that quickly. He has a whole lot of other stuff playing in the background of his mind: family, potential future kids, future jobs, etc. So, keep the friendship first and formemost. Let him move you guys to a different place in your relationship, don't you try to do it. Just my advice. (from a formerly straight guy).
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    Feb 05, 2012 8:06 AM GMT
    I have a straight 23 year old friend who I've fucked and who's given bj's and likes me to nut on his face and take loads in his mouth.. He always stresses how straight he is. His name is Gary Duncan.
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    Feb 05, 2012 8:13 AM GMT
    TotalTopJock saidI have a straight 23 year old friend who I've fucked and who's given bj's and likes me to nut on his face and take loads in his mouth.. He always stresses how straight he is. His name is Gary Duncan.


    I think you just made my point. You say your freaky friend is straight right? But he likes for another guy, you in particular, to jizz on his face? Okay, straight right? lol. I'm curious, what do you think "straight" means?
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    Feb 05, 2012 1:46 PM GMT
    These guys just want the ego boost of being wanted. They usually will have no intention of going anywhere with you. And there's no responsibility for your feelings.

    Keep it real. He has no feelings for you. If he did, he wouldn't be able to hold back from telling you directly. Unless that happens, treat him like a friend.
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    Feb 05, 2012 1:47 PM GMT
    Next time you're out somewhere and he goes to the loo for a pee, go and stand beside him and reach out and touch.

    Then see how flirty he is.
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    Feb 05, 2012 2:04 PM GMT
    Dude, I say let it go if you can. Been in similar situation, didn't end well for me. I agree with an earlier post...people who really care about you don't fuck with your mind or emotions for their own pleasure. A lot of these dudes use bi or gay guys for attention and ego boosts. Then when its convenient for them they play the str8 card. Straight dudes don't flirt with other men, period. Why would they?