My ex is dating a chick now

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    Feb 05, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    He always claimed to be "bisexual" but didn't think he was serious about it. I think he broke up with me because he couldn't being gay anymore and wanted to more "normal" I guess. We're still friends and all, but his girlfriend has no idea he used to fuck around with guys. I just feel like he's living a lie.
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    Feb 05, 2012 9:10 PM GMT
    You haven't moved on if you care what an ex is doing.
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    Feb 05, 2012 9:25 PM GMT
    It's probably true that a lot of gay guys pretend to be bisexual because they may not fully be able to deal with their sexuality. It's also true that there is a lot of backlash in the gay community against men who claim to be bisexual. I think we need to be more open to such matters. After all, if we aren't, then who will be?
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    Feb 05, 2012 9:27 PM GMT
    Boland92 saidI just feel like he's living a lie.

    Well, dear, it's him living it, not you.

    He's obviously over you, he's met someone else.

    Time for you to stop sticking your nose where it doesn't belong and let him go be happier without you.
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    Feb 05, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    Boland92 saidHe always claimed to be "bisexual" but didn't think he was serious about it. I think he broke up with me because he couldn't being gay anymore and wanted to more "normal" I guess. We're still friends and all, but his girlfriend has no idea he used to fuck around with guys. I just feel like he's living a lie.


    If he said he was bisexual, then how is this out of the ordinary for bisexual behavior?
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    Feb 05, 2012 10:57 PM GMT
    I can see why he left you. You sound clingy and nosy.
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    Feb 05, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    Oops.

    Don't worry I don't think you made him straight but sometimes people want different things at different times in their lives.

    Also, he's your ex-. So, don't worry about him icon_razz.gif He'll be fine
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    Feb 05, 2012 11:32 PM GMT
    He'd be living a lie if he never told you he was bisexual. You could've asked him why he wanted to break up with you. It may have been something else other than wanting to be "normal."
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    Feb 05, 2012 11:32 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou haven't moved on if you care what an ex is doing.
    This.
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    Feb 06, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
    Anduru said
    Ariodante saidYou haven't moved on if you care what an ex is doing.
    This.


    indeed, and if he is bisexual, he's allowed to date boys and girls at his choosing. Why can't you just be happy for him?
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    Feb 06, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    Bisexuality exists. This sounds a lot more like you're troubles in letting him go than worried about him "living a lie."
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    Feb 06, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    I'd hate to tell you what others used to tell me at your age, but you're only 19. And to quote Carrie Bradshaw on SATC: "Enjoy yourself. That's what your 20s are for. Your 30s are to learn the lessons; your 40s are to pay for the drinks."

    So kick your ass into gear and move on. I'd cease all communication with the guy. If this is meant to be a friendship, then it'll happen naturally in the future. He probably needs to figure himself out, as well. Your presence near him, won't help him out; but, most importantly help you.
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    Feb 06, 2012 4:04 AM GMT
    Don't encourage him, but keeping this thread going. What needs to be said, has been said. Let him take it in and learn. Hopefully even change that face pic.
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    Feb 06, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou haven't moved on if you care what an ex is doing.

    +1
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    Feb 06, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    SFYogi saidBisexuality exists. This sounds a lot more like you're troubles in letting him go than worried about him "living a lie."


    agreed