Standards keeping you single?

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    Feb 07, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
    Do you believe in guys who are respectful, don't play games and would never cheat? Have you cheated? If so, why...youth? He deserved it?

    I can't stand Rihanna, yet somehow I'm listening to this song icon_rolleyes.gif and wondering..

    If he looks, is it okay? As long as he comes back to you?

    Are your "unrealistic" standards keeping you single?

    Just thinking outloud.

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    Personally I have a very good BS meter and even though every guy starts off okay, I always seem to start noticing things...I give them the benefit of the doubt(oftentimes too many) and I end up wishing I had let it go earlier. So I'm fine staying single. Love isn't promised in this life.
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    Feb 07, 2012 4:58 AM GMT
    Yeah, they really are. icon_confused.gif But I would prefer to be single instead of compromising toooooo much. Compromise is good, don't get me wrong. It's just that I find very, very few people intriguing enough to really want to be with.
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    Feb 07, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    Living 2400 miles from my boyfriend(s) is keeping me single. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 07, 2012 5:46 AM GMT
    I don't meet the standards of the guys who meet my standards - it's a work in progress.
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    Feb 07, 2012 5:58 AM GMT
    GrownBoy saidDo you believe in guys who are respectful, don't play games and would never cheat? Have you cheated? If so, why...youth? He deserved it?

    I can't stand Rihanna, yet somehow I'm listening to this song icon_rolleyes.gif and wondering..

    If he looks, is it okay? As long as he comes back to you?

    Are your "unrealistic" standards keeping you single?

    Just thinking outloud.

    r

    Personally I have a very good BS meter and even though every guy starts off okay, I always seem to start noticing things...I give them the benefit of the doubt(oftentimes too many) and I end up wishing I had let it go earlier. So I'm fine staying single. Love isn't promised in this life.


    I love this song (it's on my profile haha) but yeah I'm single b/c I'm waiting to meet Mr. right, cuz if i ended up settling the relationship wouldn't last long cuz first off I would get bored & plus there is a difference between Mr. right now & Mr. Right I'm still waiting to truly experience the difference but fortunately I have time on my side. I rather be single & wait for Mr. right then be caught in a dumb ass relationship that feels like work/full time job just to break it off at the end
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    Feb 07, 2012 6:01 AM GMT
    Yes, or have someone around just cause you feel you "need" someone around; then they turn out to be emotionally corrupt, dramatic, and unfaithful. Forget that! I like to quote a Whitney "Crackhead" Houston song, "I'd rather be alone, than unhappy".
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    Feb 07, 2012 6:03 AM GMT
    Isnt it just about how you feel about someone regardless?
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    Feb 07, 2012 6:06 AM GMT
    its more the paranoia and fear my parents bred into me that's keeping me single unfortunately. It'd be wonderful if i was just waiting, my reality is far more complicating.
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    Feb 07, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidYeah, they really are. icon_confused.gif But I would prefer to be single instead of compromising toooooo much. Compromise is good, don't get me wrong. It's just that I find very, very few people intriguing enough to really want to be with.
    what you said. i think there is a difference in having standards and being unrealistic. i think a lot of people are unrealistic. i personally believe most want to be in a relationship because they do not want to be alone. then there are the ones who get in a relationship just so they can say they are in one. then there are the ones who have so many wants that they will never find anyone they want. then there are those who do have needs that they would like to met so they stay single until they find something close to what they want.
    the later describes me
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    Feb 07, 2012 6:10 AM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidYeah, they really are. icon_confused.gif But I would prefer to be single instead of compromising toooooo much. Compromise is good, don't get me wrong. It's just that I find very, very few people intriguing enough to really want to be with.



    This
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    Feb 07, 2012 6:13 AM GMT
    Yea, I'm the same way. I've been single for a while now. I keep thinking I should settle, but then I snap myself out of it. All you need is one. icon_smile.gif

    You should be listening to this song instead. "They falling like the rain so we ain't running out." haha.

  • waccamatt

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    Feb 07, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    Of course, if we had no standards then we'd only be single if we had no interest in a relationship. One of the reasons I joined this site was the (unfortunately mistaken) notion that it would be significantly populated by gay guys who like sports. Silly me.
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    Feb 07, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    unfortunately yeah, id like to not have sex on our first date, thanks.
    sometimes i feel like i should give up, and do what the rest do, sleep with each other then start a relationship.. which just seems odd to me.
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    Feb 07, 2012 6:44 AM GMT
    Yep.


    I had some hope for the smart phone apps.

    Why do they think its a good idea to send cock pictures on the second or third reply?

    Dates first please.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 07, 2012 9:01 AM GMT
    what was it Ann Landers said? "It's better 2 be alone, than wish u were."

    i've met some spectacular guys who exceeded my "standards." (and, yeah, some who are w/i range, haha) sometimes it's just not meant 2 be though. or at least not rt now. i keep thinking that when i'm ready (done w/ school, stable career, more mature), these guys will still be available (mainly b/c they are in my same position).

    in the mean time, i'm having some fun. nothing majorly slutty, but slutty enough so i don't look back and think that i missed anything. maybe this is part of the becoming "more mature?" efff, idk.
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    Feb 07, 2012 9:03 AM GMT
    Remember! There is no situation that cannot be improved by lowering your expectations!
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    Feb 07, 2012 3:47 PM GMT
    Yes.

    But I'm okay with this...for now.
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    Feb 07, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    I'm not single but I used to be be,

    Are we talking about personality, looks or both?
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    Feb 07, 2012 4:17 PM GMT
    I hardly know what I'm looking for, just someone that can be my better half. One of my friends told me I have high standards, but I don't see how anybody else could date someone you don't really see yourself with for a long time. I look at people and I just feel a vibe or not. My standards are simple; look good naked, and be interesting.
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    Feb 07, 2012 4:23 PM GMT
    Yes on both fronts. There are some other factors that play into it too, but the way I see it is that if he (or for the bi guys here- even she) is a good one, he/she is worth waiting for.
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    Feb 07, 2012 4:38 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    Soulasphyxi saidYeah, they really are. icon_confused.gif But I would prefer to be single instead of compromising toooooo much. Compromise is good, don't get me wrong. It's just that I find very, very few people intriguing enough to really want to be with.
    what you said. i think there is a difference in having standards and being unrealistic. i think a lot of people are unrealistic. i personally believe most want to be in a relationship because they do not want to be alone. then there are the ones who get in a relationship just so they can say they are in one. then there are the ones who have so many wants that they will never find anyone they want. then there are those who do have needs that they would like to met so they stay single until they find something close to what they want.
    the later describes me


    This. I think a lot of people tend to confuse requirements with preferences, or they fail to consider the big picture. For my part, I certainly wouldn't complain if my next BF was an underwear model, but I also wouldn't turn down an otherwise-wonderful guy just because he has more than 6% body fat.
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    Feb 07, 2012 10:30 PM GMT
    Never been in a real relationship, and though I keep finding myself desiring one, I`m not actually sure how much I`d like it if I were in one- even with a guy I adore. There`s definitely something to be said for "wanting what you can`t have" and "the grass being greener on the other side".
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    Feb 07, 2012 10:35 PM GMT
    Dunno, my high expectations of what a relationship should be, plus my shyness and willingness to stray away from my college campus are all reasons that keep me single. I've only asked one guy out - and that was a crash a burn pretty much. Just got to keep getting by I guess icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    WOW. icon_eek.gif

    All these responses were awesome, great to know I'm not alone icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidYeah, they really are. icon_confused.gif But I would prefer to be single instead of compromising toooooo much. Compromise is good, don't get me wrong. It's just that I find very, very few people intriguing enough to really want to be with.


    I hear ya!