Snooping in phones

  • Ridiculance

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    Feb 07, 2012 7:29 PM GMT
    It's not ok. 0 Tolerance policy here. I really find it sad how people think that it's justifiable if they find some dirt on the person they're seeing... I don't care how frustrated I am, I will not go through your texts/ pics.

    Anyone else agree?
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    Feb 07, 2012 8:25 PM GMT
    Not sure what your point is. Are you talking BF or FB? My lover has all access to everything, email, phone, pics, Grindr, everything, no secrets, no mystery. I have all his passwords too. I trust him, he trusts me. I could care less if he ever picks up my phone and checks anything on it.

    When I had a FB, we hooked up for sex, he did not know what I did an hour before and never seemed to care. Nor did I care what he did.

    I am with Ronald Reagan on this one, at least with lovers, trust but verify.
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    Feb 07, 2012 9:33 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidNot sure what your point is. Are you talking BF or FB? My lover has all access to everything, email, phone, pics, Grindr, everything, no secrets, no mystery. I have all his passwords too. I trust him, he trusts me. I could care less if he ever picks up my phone and checks anything on it.

    When I had a FB, we hooked up for sex, he did not know what I did an hour before and never seemed to care. Nor did I care what he did.

    I am with Ronald Reagan on this one, at least with lovers, trust but verify.


    You each have each others passwords until either one of you choose to change them.

    So that's the beginning and end of that.

    I've never had the need to have another man give me his passwords, nor have I ever asked for them, because when I choose to be in a relationship, I trust the man I'm with.

    I'm secure in myself and my choices and my powers of discernment.

    Passwords just don't hold that much relevance to me.
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    Feb 07, 2012 9:35 PM GMT
    I've always liked the idea that if you decide to snoop, you should be prepared for what you find. And even though I'm not a fan of Ronald Reagan, per se, I am a fan of trust but verify.
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    Feb 07, 2012 9:39 PM GMT
    It shouldn't happen and if it does, you better hope you fucking find something.
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    Feb 07, 2012 9:59 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidNot sure what your point is. Are you talking BF or FB? My lover has all access to everything, email, phone, pics, Grindr, everything, no secrets, no mystery. I have all his passwords too. I trust him, he trusts me. I could care less if he ever picks up my phone and checks anything on it.


    This is how Bill and I are as well. We've been this way since we took up with each other.
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    Feb 07, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    smartmoney saidNot sure what your point is. Are you talking BF or FB? My lover has all access to everything, email, phone, pics, Grindr, everything, no secrets, no mystery. I have all his passwords too. I trust him, he trusts me. I could care less if he ever picks up my phone and checks anything on it.

    This is how Bill and I are as well. We've been this way since we took up with each other.

    Ditto here. As I've written before, my husband has gotten my old phones (not terribly old, he's using an iPhone 4 right now) as I've upgraded, and I erased nothing when I made the transfers.

    I left it up to him what he wanted to keep of mine or delete. Phone numbers, pics, emails, texts, he got everything. And I put his own info into the phone, too.

    We are partners (I've begun saying "husband" more often lately), meaning there are no secrets between us. I can't imagine how there could be. The situation with boyfriends may be different.

    And maybe that's part of the definition of what makes a husband/partner versus a boyfriend -- no secrets. Perhaps our smartphones are trying to tell us something. icon_idea.gif
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    Feb 07, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    Since both of my phones are used more for work communications than anything else, if someone snoops through my phone(s) they should be more afraid of the company than me.
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    Feb 12, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    I think we should all respect our partners "own space" and not be spying into there email, phones ect. However I have been guilty of this, and I did catch my bf on a number of things all at once. Somtimes you know your right in the back of your mind but in the front you think your going crazy and need to see actuall proof that your not.

    I do not try n see who is emailing or txting now though, if you can't trust eachother why be together???
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    Feb 12, 2012 7:50 AM GMT
    It depends on what point you two are in a relationship.
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    Feb 12, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    Crap I would never spy or look at or in anything that I wasnt supposed to look at... IE I never snoop around peoples Computers, Cell phones, bathroom cabinets etc. HAVE SOME RESPECT for yourself and Others is what I would say to those who do snoop. That said; if anyone looked at my phone and its texts/ pictures you would prob just laugh cause I say and take pictures of some dumb stuff......
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    Feb 12, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
    Well as long as you aren't doing anything that would give them a reason to snoop then there shouldn't be a problem.

    If I had a BF, he could snoop all he wanted because he wouldn't find anything and being the kind of person I am I'd probably take some delight in knowing that it drives my BF crazy that he can't find anything. I'd probably start fucking with him at that point and play mean tricks. Bwahahahaha.
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    Feb 12, 2012 2:50 PM GMT
    trust=transparency
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    Feb 12, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    Guy101 saidWell as long as you aren't doing anything that would give them a reason to snoop then they're shouldn't be a problem.

    If I had a Bf he could snoop all he wanted because he wouldn't find anything and being the kind of person I am I'd probably take some delight in knowing that it drives my BF crazy that can't find anything. I'd probably start fucking with at that point and playing mean tricks. Bwahahahaha.



    Good Point, Photoshop his mom in some sort of bestiality situation, that would shock the system... ahahahahah
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    Feb 12, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    Being an EXPERT at relationships, I must weigh in.

    I think it's important that people in a couple retain their own lives and individuality, and don't become completely consumed with the "we". Healthy and better for the relationship.

    I would keep my passwords and not want his.
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    Feb 13, 2012 11:38 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch said, "I think it's important that people in a couple retain their own lives and individuality, and don't become completely consumed with the "we". Healthy and better for the relationship."

    I agree, but transparency and sharing to build trust doesn't equal giving up our own lives or individuality.
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  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Feb 13, 2012 12:34 PM GMT
    Snooping just leads to the end of the relationship quicker. Either he will find out you are snooping and quit trusting you or you will find something.

    Snooping says more about your trustworthiness than his no matter what you might find.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Feb 13, 2012 12:51 PM GMT
    I don't think being in a relationship should mean you have to give up every last bit of your privacy. I don't want anyone snooping in on my phone, computer, whatever...I don't care who it is. It's creepy and feels sneaky. I try to trust people until they give me a reason not to. Someone snooping in my stuff would raise a red flag for me that they may not be trustworthy.
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    Feb 13, 2012 12:57 PM GMT
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    Guy101 saidWell as long as you aren't doing anything that would give them a reason to snoop then they're shouldn't be a problem.

    If I had a Bf he could snoop all he wanted because he wouldn't find anything and being the kind of person I am I'd probably take some delight in knowing that it drives my BF crazy that can't find anything. I'd probably start fucking with at that point and playing mean tricks. Bwahahahaha.



    Good Point, Photoshop his mom in some sort of bestiality situation, that would shock the system... ahahahahah


    I'd take it further then that. I'd take a pic of me dry humping some ladies (yes, ladies as in more then one) and see how he reacts knowing (thinking) I'm playing both sides. Bwahahahahaha. I'd just feed his paranoia and teach him a lesson. He thinks I'm doing dirty deeds behind his back then ok. I'll give him a reason to assume such a thing. One of two things will happen: We'll either break up because his paranoia gets the better of him which would eventually push me away because I lack the patience to tolerate craziness for awhile or he'll come to realize that he's dating a good guy and know that if I wanted to cheat on him I wouldn't waste my time being with him in the first place or even bother hiding it. I'd be like "I'm fucking somebody else....PEACE (throws them deuces up)".

    LOL.
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    Feb 13, 2012 1:02 PM GMT
    i'm a very giving person, but it really bothers me when someone is snooping thru my stuff including texts. Those texts were meant for me and in confidence. Maybe this attitude isn't right, but i never snooped on my parents or anybody, so i haven't got that weakness.
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    Feb 13, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    Guy101 said
    lookinforcars1 said
    Guy101 saidWell as long as you aren't doing anything that would give them a reason to snoop then they're shouldn't be a problem.

    If I had a Bf he could snoop all he wanted because he wouldn't find anything and being the kind of person I am I'd probably take some delight in knowing that it drives my BF crazy that can't find anything. I'd probably start fucking with at that point and playing mean tricks. Bwahahahaha.



    Good Point, Photoshop his mom in some sort of bestiality situation, that would shock the system... ahahahahah


    I'd take it further then that. I'd take a pic of me dry humping some ladies (yes, ladies as in more then one) and see how he reacts knowing (thinking) I'm playing both sides. Bwahahahahaha. I'd just feed his paranoia and teach him a lesson. He thinks I'm doing dirty deeds behind his back then ok. I'll give him a reason to assume such a thing. One of two things will happen: We'll either break up because his paranoia gets the better of him which would eventually push me away because I lack the patience to tolerate craziness for awhile or he'll come to realize that he's dating a good guy and know that if I wanted to cheat on him I wouldn't waste my time being with him in the first place or even bother hiding it. I'd be like "I'm fucking somebody else....PEACE (throws them deuces up)".

    LOL.


    THAT'S healthy.