porn...bad for mental health?

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    Feb 09, 2012 7:50 AM GMT
    my only exposure to gay media (not to mention gay people) was porn for a long time. i grew up religious, and i barely acknowledged that i was homosexual until after years of therapy. i feel like it's engrained in me the idea that my sexuality is meant strictly for a pornesque lifestyle. i wonder if it's disconnected me from being a real person.

    anybody else share these thoughts or feelings, or have you wondered something similar?
  • starboard5

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    Feb 09, 2012 1:31 PM GMT
    If you were my age and writing this then I'd say, yes, you may have a problem. But you're 23! Don't worry about it. What's important is this: are you actively engaged in a social life? Are you meeting guys and dating? You're a good looking guy and should have no problem there.

    Porn can be exciting, but it is no substitute for the satisfaction that can come from real human interaction and intimacy. Let yourself experience more of that and porn won't seem like a problem.
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    Feb 09, 2012 1:38 PM GMT
    Has your therapist raised the idea that you might be addicted to porn or are you just anxious cause youre 23?
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    Feb 09, 2012 1:43 PM GMT
    Emesis54 saidmy only exposure to gay media (not to mention gay people) was porn for a long time. i grew up religious, and i barely acknowledged that i was homosexual until after years of therapy. i feel like it's engrained in me the idea that my sexuality is meant strictly for a pornesque lifestyle. i wonder if it's disconnected me from being a real person.

    anybody else share these thoughts or feelings, or have you wondered something similar?
    Was your therapist religious? If so they FAILED you.. if NOT, They FAILED you.

    Your issues need professional attention and NOT from some religious fucktard.

    And PS.. get the hell out of alabama... the world is not what they think it is there.
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    Feb 09, 2012 1:47 PM GMT
    starboard5 saidIf you were my age and writing this then I'd say, yes, you may have a problem. But you're 23! Don't worry about it. What's important is this: are you actively engaged in a social life? Are you meeting guys and dating? You're a good looking guy and should have no problem there.

    Porn can be exciting, but it is no substitute for the satisfaction that can come from real human interaction and intimacy. Let yourself experience more of that and porn won't seem like a problem.


    Agreed. You just need some time to find your footing and learn. You'll learn quickly that being gay isn't about a pornesque lifestyle (unless you make that your reality). Especially when you fall in love with a guy for the first time.
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    Feb 09, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidHas your therapist raised the idea that you might be addicted to porn or are you just anxious cause youre 23?


    That's not at all what he's implying. He's wondering if gay life is strictly sex, sex, sex with little to no substance behind it due to gay porn being the only facet into gay life he has had. Just stop. Go make a random topic where you ask guys to post pics of themselves or something.

    To OP - Just like heterosexuals, gay/bi guys have all kinds of lifestyles. You'll find some guy just looking for hookups, that "pornesque" lifestyle, and some guys who want more than that. Ultimately, it's up to you to find someone who complements your life and what you want from a boyfriend/partner. There's a variety of ways to meet guys, just contact some and go from there. Good luck.
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    Feb 09, 2012 3:18 PM GMT
    Porn is not bad for mental health, but irrattionally religion imposed guilt and shame is.
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    Feb 09, 2012 3:33 PM GMT
    Haaretz saidPorn is not bad for mental health, but irrattionally religion imposed guilt and shame is.


    IDK, depends on your relationship with it. In the absence of any other experience, I can see how it would definitely skew your expectations about sex, attraction, intimacy, etc. However, being aware of that and taking steps to get out into the real world sounds like a good plan.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Feb 09, 2012 6:18 PM GMT
    Chill the fuck out, kid.

    Porn is a wonderful outlet to release your sexual tension in a safe environment. I grew up almost the same way as you, HOWEVER, I started to work part time at a gay porn store at age 23 and now at 34, I still part time there. Porn didn't make me a sexual deviant at all. It broaden my horizons and try new things I wouldn't fathomed trying years ago.

    Emesis54 saidmy only exposure to gay media (not to mention gay people) was porn for a long time. i grew up religious, and i barely acknowledged that i was homosexual until after years of therapy. i feel like it's engrained in me the idea that my sexuality is meant strictly for a pornesque lifestyle. i wonder if it's disconnected me from being a real person.

    anybody else share these thoughts or feelings, or have you wondered something similar?