Should I get a hold of him? Or should I wait?

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    Feb 09, 2012 10:22 AM GMT
    So, I went on a speed dating event last Saturday, and to my surprise, someone (a cute one, I may add) gave me their number!
    So two days after, I texted him asking if he would like to go get some Starbucks or something, and he immediately texted back saying yea, sometime this week. So we shared our schedules and we both are pretty busy. So he told me that he will let me know Wednesday when we can meet.
    Thing is, Wednesday already passed. I haven't heard from him (but I haven't texted him either so there's that).
    I dunno if I should try to reach out or if I should just wait it out or even if I should just drop him and move on. I recently just gone through a breakup, so my insecurity is amplified to some extent...
    I just wanna know how you guys see it from your point of view.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Feb 09, 2012 10:38 AM GMT
    was this communication all through texting? Or did you actually speak sharing schedules and he said "call you Wed.?" If it's only been text, then text him. If he said he would call I would wait.
    For all you know he might be texting others from that same night. Is that part of his busy schedule?. Just one reason I prefer to talk instead of texting when making initial plans, but I have never speed dated, or internet dated. Too many fish in the city for that BS. I would lose interest in someone with lousy follow-up fast.icon_idea.gif
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    Feb 09, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidwas this communication all through texting? Or did you actually speak sharing schedules and he said "call you Wed.?" If it's only been text, then text him. If he said he would call I would wait.
    For all you know he might be texting others from that same night. Is that part of his busy schedule?. Just one reason I prefer to talk instead of texting when making initial plans, but I have never speed dated, or internet dated. Too many fish in the city for that BS. I would lose interest in someone with lousy follow-up fast.icon_idea.gif

    Yep. All through texting. Before we separated, he told me to call or text him. I thought texting was more convenient, so that's how we've been communicating.
    He said, "I'm not sure if I'll be free Wed. that's why I was saying lets decide the day and time on Wed. icon_smile.gif"
    So I guess I'll just follow-up, but I was thinking - he probably did get other people's numbers from the same night. I don't really like thinking of myself as an option...
  • tuffguyndc

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    Feb 09, 2012 4:52 PM GMT
    will just contact the guy already. jeeze, its not rocket science.
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    Feb 09, 2012 6:09 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidwill just contact the guy already. jeeze, its not rocket science.

    OK...
    It's just that I'm new to things like this and I'm trying to be more cautious this time around.
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    Feb 09, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    You have his schedule? CALL him. Texting isn't sufficient in this situation. If you think he's a catch, don't let him get away. And the longer the wait, the higher chance that he has already moved on. BUT maybe not, so don't sell yourself short.

    Good luck
  • pchoc8

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    Feb 09, 2012 7:19 PM GMT
    ry77 saidSo, I went on a speed dating event last Saturday, and to my surprise, someone (a cute one, I may add) gave me their number!
    So two days after, I texted him asking if he would like to go get some Starbucks or something, and he immediately texted back saying yea, sometime this week. So we shared our schedules and we both are pretty busy. So he told me that he will let me know Wednesday when we can meet.
    Thing is, Wednesday already passed. I haven't heard from him (but I haven't texted him either so there's that).
    I dunno if I should try to reach out or if I should just wait it out or even if I should just drop him and move on. I recently just gone through a breakup, so my insecurity is amplified to some extent...
    I just wanna know how you guys see it from your point of view.


    Just contact him anytime. If it's a good match, it's actually better to contact him sooner than later. If you have to play games with someone, it's probably not a good match to begin with.
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    Feb 09, 2012 9:12 PM GMT
    He knows your #. If he wants to go to Starbucks with you, he'll text you.