Is it too soon to go on a date?

  • BlueMoose

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    Feb 10, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    I just got out of a 6 month relationship a few weeks ago and I have a date this weekend. Do you guys think it is too soon or has it been enough time to start dating again?
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    Feb 10, 2012 1:40 AM GMT

    How do you feel? It's different for everyone, you know. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 1:53 AM GMT
    Its a question only you can answer.
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    Feb 10, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    Everyone takes a different amount of time to get over a relationship. So only you know if you are ready to get back out there.
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    Feb 10, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    It differs for everyone. For me, when I broke up with the guy I was seeing for about 3 months I wanted to go on as many dates as possible to get him out of my mind, as well as to try and have my faith restored that not all men are cunts.

    Also, I wanted to have me some sexing icon_biggrin.gif

    The first guy I ever dated broke up with me and a week later met a guy and they've now been together for 10 years. Just go with the flow and have a good time.
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    Feb 10, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    I would say, "If not now, when?"

    But if you think you can go on a date and not gripe about your ex, go for it.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Feb 10, 2012 2:19 AM GMT
    Nah, just go and do it and have fun while you're at it! Also, when you're on your date don't be talking about your ex all the time that makes for a bad date.
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    Feb 10, 2012 2:20 AM GMT
    Enjoy yourself, go have a little fun. But please, avoid talking about the ex if you want to go on a second date.
  • jarthon

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    Feb 10, 2012 2:43 AM GMT
    My rule on getting over a break up: that many drinks (if you drink) equal to how many dates you went on.
  • BlueMoose

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    Feb 10, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    jarthon saidMy rule on getting over a break up: that many drinks (if you drink) equal to how many dates you went on.


    If I did that I would die of alcohol poisoning lol. Thanks everyone for the responses. I feel I'm ready to date again. I cared for my ex a lot, but it didn't work out. He's now living in Colorado now so it's not like I'll be seeing him again. Also I will not talk about him at all on the date. That would be disastrous lol. Anyways wish me luck, because this new guy is really cute and smart and I dont want to screw it up.
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    Feb 10, 2012 12:56 PM GMT
    Go for it. 6 Months is really just not that big of a deal in the scheme of things as relationships go. Wait till you are married, sharing bank accounts and IRA's and home mortgage payments and phone plans and then you break up, then the question of how soon to date will be more valid. (that answer, the next day, cause you really need it then.)
  • BlueMoose

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    Feb 10, 2012 10:36 PM GMT
    Our date is set for tomorrow. I cant wait.
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    Feb 10, 2012 10:42 PM GMT
    6 months in gay time is like 3 weeks in normal time.
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    Feb 10, 2012 10:48 PM GMT
    Good for you!
    I'm a total advocate for putting yourself out there quickly.

    Getting to know someone new is a great way of also getting to know yourself, *for me* it's the best way to redefine where I am in your life. And it also keeps me from pining away for the lost love.
  • BlueMoose

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    Feb 11, 2012 7:58 AM GMT
    EasilyDistracted saidGood for you!
    I'm a total advocate for putting yourself out there quickly.

    Getting to know someone new is a great way of also getting to know yourself, *for me* it's the best way to redefine where I am in your life. And it also keeps me from pining away for the lost love.


    I definitely agree. I don't want to sit around thinking what could have been. I want to move on and have fun with a new guy. I love getting to know someone new.
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    Feb 11, 2012 9:07 AM GMT
    If it feels right then why not?


    A guy has to have his own time table.
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    Feb 11, 2012 9:44 AM GMT
    I'd say get out there and have fun as soon as you feel like it. I'd agree with others though who suggest that you say very little about your ex while on dates. Anything you have to say should be very brief and pleasant. (One dull date I suffered through was with a new guy who prattled on throughout our dinner telling me all about his ex and how he was a cheat, etc.) I'm sure you wouldn't make that mistake. Just turn the page and have fun!
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    Feb 11, 2012 10:34 AM GMT
    life is short.
  • BlueMoose

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    Feb 11, 2012 7:54 PM GMT
    Yes life is short and thanks everyone for the support. I cannot wait to meet this guy and hopefully we hit it off.