Are you confrontational?

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    Feb 10, 2012 3:19 AM GMT
    As I grew up, I've been told numerous times by well-meaning people to "get over being offended," and I have often tried to take things in stride and not to waste my time over insults and other forms of verbal abuse. Somehow, many people are convinced that if you leave the abuser alone, he will hang himself sometime down the road. But I really don't believe that, because I am more than certain that indifference sometimes will reinforce bad behavior, and if there is no consequence, bad behavior will fester into something uglier.

    And most importantly, why do some people (be it gays, the disadvantaged, etc.) have to be told to "suck it up" when some prick decides to pick on them over something that they cannot change? What kind of message does that send?

    Let's say, hypothetically, someone starts to say a lot of offensive things against you -- not because of what you did, but because of what you are. Let's say he starts to insult you based on some ignorant assumptions or stereotypes about a group of people you happen to be in. What would be your typical reaction? Would you shrugged it off, or would you proceed to put him in his place?
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    Feb 10, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    I'm definitely confrontational.
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    Feb 10, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    Only when I have to be hahaha but most times I'm laid back...I don't bite unless provoked hahaha
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    Feb 10, 2012 3:28 AM GMT
    Well different people, different situations and different solutions.
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    Feb 10, 2012 3:29 AM GMT
    Love making people piss themselves.
    ...not so much, as I've grown older, finding it has kept me from promotions in the past.
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    Feb 10, 2012 3:40 AM GMT
    Psssh me?
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    Feb 10, 2012 3:42 AM GMT
    I guess I'm confrontational. But I never instigate.
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    Feb 10, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    Can you imagine what it's like to be someone like Madonna who has half the world hating her and saying the worst things?

    She recently said that she doesn't read reviews ("that's a slippery slope") and just focuses on what she has to do. But years back she said she could have a million people liking what she's done, but would obsess why that one person didn't.

    There are A LOT of people on RJ who spend most of their time purposely trying to shoot down others. They live for it. And you have to ask yourself, why is that? What is making them want to be so mean to others? That's where the Ignore button comes in handy.

    You really have to find a way to step away and know that it really is THEIR problem. There's something wrong upstairs to make them want to lash out and be like that. It's also true for like comments section, like on Youtube, etc. Man, to see what shit people are harboring inside is pretty scary.
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    Feb 10, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    I'm very confrontational. VERY.
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    Feb 10, 2012 4:58 AM GMT
    I am nonconfrontational by nature but Im constantly thrust into confrontation everyday
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN - HUH BUDDY?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!!?!?!!!!!?!!!?!!!!
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    Hmmmm I dunno..............
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:02 AM GMT
    When it comes to the the right thing, I'm confrontational. I'm all for justice.

    Other than that, fuck'em.
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    I used to not be, but I became more so as I came out more in the open... (used to be out only to family and friends really) .. they kind of coincided I think.. the coming out itself was kind of a confrontation to the world.. from there I just began to confront everything else I didnt like more and more
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    Usually let things slide, unless its a sore topic with me, or they started it. icon_twisted.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    Todaynewday saidAs I grew up, I've been told numerous times by well-meaning people to "get over being offended," and I have often tried to take things in stride and not to waste my time over insults and other forms of verbal abuse.


    Sometimes this is true.. sometimes they are just a waste of time and energy.. , for instance, the cranky drunk on the street that is just shouting offenses randomly... then, its a waste of time to be offended

    at other times, it is actually not necessary to be offended, we may just be acting out defensively while it is not necessary.... like if we feel put down by a lover, friend or family, when in fact they do not have ill intent, but we are taking it badly and feel hurt for no reason.... or even when a friend gets drunk and shouts angry curses... then, it is also not necessary to act out

    but there are times when it is definitely necessary to act out, namely when it gets to the point of endangering your rights.. such as in the anti-gay marriage camp.. i will confront them quite happily.. because their anti-gay slurs are encroaching on my rights as a human being.. so then yes.. confront them, I say, over and over, and dont back down or give up, lest you need to 'regroup" so to speak.. that is one battle I am not prepared to stop fighting, shall we say
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    GreenHopper saidI used to not be, but I became more so as I came out more in the open... (used to be out only to family and friends really) .. they kind of coincided I think.. the coming out itself was kind of a confrontation to the world.. from there I just began to confront everything else I didnt like more and more


    but you're a gentle grasshopper icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:08 AM GMT
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    GreenHopper saidI used to not be, but I became more so as I came out more in the open... (used to be out only to family and friends really) .. they kind of coincided I think.. the coming out itself was kind of a confrontation to the world.. from there I just began to confront everything else I didnt like more and more


    but you're a gentle grasshopper icon_sad.gif


    lol, you've obviously not yet seen me angry icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:09 AM GMT
    Anduru saidHmmmm I dunno..............
    GOD, NOBODY IMMEDIATELY REPLIED TO THIS?
    FUCK Y'ALL
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    GreenHopper said
    Ruskach said
    GreenHopper saidI used to not be, but I became more so as I came out more in the open... (used to be out only to family and friends really) .. they kind of coincided I think.. the coming out itself was kind of a confrontation to the world.. from there I just began to confront everything else I didnt like more and more


    but you're a gentle grasshopper icon_sad.gif


    lol, you've obviously not yet seen me angry icon_razz.gif


    Month -? until u come over and i'll witness that the day you won't be able to go to work cuz your car will be frozen in winter icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    Ruskach said
    GreenHopper said
    Ruskach said
    GreenHopper saidI used to not be, but I became more so as I came out more in the open... (used to be out only to family and friends really) .. they kind of coincided I think.. the coming out itself was kind of a confrontation to the world.. from there I just began to confront everything else I didnt like more and more


    but you're a gentle grasshopper icon_sad.gif


    lol, you've obviously not yet seen me angry icon_razz.gif


    Month -? until u come over and i'll witness that the day you won't be able to go to work cuz your car will be frozen in winter icon_smile.gif


    NO that doesnt get me angry... thats just a day to day annoyance... what makes me angry for example, is Iran's hangings of gay men,.. or the lynching of innocent black people in the american south.... or the stoning of women in Pakistan... or the torture of people for sadistic purposes... that makes me angry.. seething.. hateful... loathing.. murderous.. raging... and wrathful like the god of anger himself
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    If someone insulted me for stereotypes I'd help him out and insult myself with those same stereotypes. If he's joking it goes over well. If he's trying to be offensive, it leaves him with nothing to say. It's also important to be able to laugh at yourself. And if someone is a good friend I fully expect them to (jokingly) insult me with as many stereotypes as possible, or try to poke at as many of my imperfections or perceived insecurities as possible. Otherwise what's the point? icon_razz.gif

    In general, I'm fairly confrontational but in a non-drama sense. I basically tell people who piss me off, in private, "I don't like this X you're doing. You should cut it out if you want to continue interacting with me." If they don't and X is really bothering me, I stop interacting with them. It's fairly simple.
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    GreenHopper said
    Ruskach said
    GreenHopper said
    Ruskach said
    GreenHopper saidI used to not be, but I became more so as I came out more in the open... (used to be out only to family and friends really) .. they kind of coincided I think.. the coming out itself was kind of a confrontation to the world.. from there I just began to confront everything else I didnt like more and more


    but you're a gentle grasshopper icon_sad.gif


    lol, you've obviously not yet seen me angry icon_razz.gif


    Month -? until u come over and i'll witness that the day you won't be able to go to work cuz your car will be frozen in winter icon_smile.gif


    NO that doesnt get me angry... thats just a day to day annoyance... what makes me angry for example, is Iran's hangings of gay men,.. or the lynching of innocent black people in the american south.... or the stoning of women in Pakistan... or the torture of people for sadistic purposes... that makes me angry.. seething.. hateful... loathing.. and wrathful like the god of anger himself


    no i definitely agrree..
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    Yes. I make no attempts to sugar coat it.
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    Depends on how much sleep I've had.