has anyone ever rented a room in someone's house?

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    Feb 10, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    So, like my other post says I'm planning on moving to San Diego from MA hopefully before summer and I am currently looking at apartments and such. I realized it's definitely up there in price and a roommate or two would be my best option if I wanted to get a new apartment. The tough part is actually finding a roommate while I'm still living in MA.

    I recently went on craigslist and clicked on the rooms/shares link and saw that people actually let others rent out their rooms in their house and it's actually a lot cheaper than me getting my own apartment with a roommate. The thing is, idk how safe that is? Or how that even works out? Have you guys ever experienced that kind of situation before because I would feel so awkward using their kitchen, bathroom, tv and all that stuff.

    What do you think my best option would be in finding a place and roommate? Thanks! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    Yes, I do right now. It is very common actually. Luckily for me it is another gay couple and we have become friends so it's not too bad. If you are renting with strangers it will take some getting used to, but if you pay them money they should have no problem letting you use their kitchen/bathroom etc. Just make sure you work out the details before you move in....
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    Feb 10, 2012 3:57 AM GMT
    I have lived with the roommates and had a good experience living with all of them.

    there is a site dedicated to finding roommates.it is called as easyroommate.com
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    Feb 10, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidYes, I do right now. It is very common actually. Luckily for me it is another gay couple and we have become friends so it's not too bad. If you are renting with strangers it will take some getting used to, but if you pay them money they should have no problem letting you use their kitchen/bathroom etc. Just make sure you work out the details before you move in....


    hmm maybe ill be lucky to find someone i can become friends with too and not just someone i'm living with
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    Feb 10, 2012 4:38 AM GMT
    No idea what it's called but a buddy of mine from a while back would go backpacking and used some site to both offer his place to backpackers + look for places to stay - reviews + etc so you know if someone's been axe murderin' folks icon_razz.gif

    Ofc i don't think it's meant for a long (or even temporary)-term solution but /shrug.
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    Feb 10, 2012 4:41 AM GMT
    when i lived near denver i rented out the basement of a young couples house and they had 2 kids. I felt like charles in charge.

    meet the people first and feel them out, see if you get a good feeling about them or uneasy. it will be weird but its fun.
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    Feb 10, 2012 4:49 AM GMT
    I used Craigslist once to find a room in someone's house.
    Worked great and ended up with a great friend and was in his wedding a few years later.

    I can bea really good experience and a way to save money.
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    Feb 10, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    Cobalt saidNo idea what it's called but a buddy of mine from a while back would go backpacking and used some site to both offer his place to backpackers + look for places to stay - reviews + etc so you know if someone's been axe murderin' folks icon_razz.gif

    Ofc i don't think it's meant for a long (or even temporary)-term solution but /shrug.


    That's couch surfing
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    Feb 10, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    I had a friend do this and he said it was cool. It was like a big manor on the beach and all the bedrooms were rented out to college students. He said he made a lot of friends that way and the homeowners were never around too much ansd they had a maid and all that. Your best bet would be to call the place. Schedule an appointment. Check it out. See if you vibe with them. Or if they have people come over all the time it would get akward. But if they're cool and the house is nice and cheap it could be a great option for you. Hope this helps, even slightly so icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 4:54 AM GMT
    Yes, yes, and yes. Hated it.
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    Feb 10, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    I did it, in fact the whole house was rented out that way, much like a boarding house. It worked alright, got along well enough with the roomates, but some people arent so lucky.
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    Feb 10, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    yes I have before... it really just depends on the situation.. sometimes you can be lucky and have great roommates.. sometimes it just doesn't work very well... But i will certainly do it again icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
    Personally, I wouldn't be able to do it. Virtual strangers sharing so much common space is just uncomfortable for me. Maybe because I grew up in a larg family, I value my independence and privacy so much.

    Make sure it's the right thing. Like others said, get to know the owners/occupants first and there's a clear agreement on what parts of the house you can freely use.
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    Renting out a room for an internship; the house owner is nice but very particular and a bit nagging on every aspect of living there. Unless you know the person before moving in, you never know what you're going to get. Just make sure they don't try to cheat you with rent.
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    I've lived with roommates since college. I am a roommate kind of a guy, would not like living by myself.

    Today I own a 4BR/2BA house and rent to three other guys. Their rent pays my mortgage (in full, with some left over building a cushion for repairs) and I live here rent-free.

    I highly recommend it! icon_biggrin.gif

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  • masculumpedes

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    Feb 10, 2012 5:35 AM GMT
    Yes, I have a wonderful roommate.... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:36 AM GMT
    It's the preferably way to live in SF. Craigslist works well.
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:37 AM GMT
    i rented a room in a young couple's house right after college. they were very cool. found them on craigslist.
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:40 AM GMT
    Pride roommates should work for you guys...
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    Feb 10, 2012 6:22 AM GMT
    I do. However, I met my housemate through a professional relationship first. We knew we were fairly compatible before the topic of sharing the house came up.
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    Feb 10, 2012 7:46 AM GMT
    I actually rent out a room in my house. Just like you the person renting out the room will have your same anxieties, fear, etc, the owner does as well. Just remember to talk about the terms of your agreement. It will be a professional relationship at first. If things go well, it def can developed into a friendship. I've made some very good friends this way. Your experience will what you make of it. Just don't rush into things and keep things professional.

    Good luck!
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    Feb 10, 2012 8:18 AM GMT
    It's usually the pesky details that makes it uncomfortable. At least that's my experience. Cleaning/Cooking rosters. Shift workers. People who don't work/study and freeload your food icon_smile.gif I live in an amazing household with 4 other dudes, one guy studied but all he'd do was cook. We ate like kings. No one wanted to clean the toilet or shower though!
  • calibro

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    Feb 10, 2012 8:29 AM GMT
    yes, and i had a pleasant experience.
  • Hoodiestud

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    Feb 10, 2012 10:55 AM GMT
    I am renting a room in a house with two other dudes. Just a word of caution: try to get to know them before you move in, even if its checking out the place or hanging out with them a little before moving in. I have lived in this house for only 3 months and they are both out of their minds psychotic, and i am getting out of here asap!!

    Hope this helps?? hahahaha
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    Feb 10, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    NakedBudd saidI've lived with roommates since college. I am a roommate kind of a guy, would not like living by myself.

    Today I own a 4BR/2BA house and rent to three other guys. Their rent pays my mortgage (in full, with some left over building a cushion for repairs) and I live here rent-free.

    I highly recommend it!


    A friend of mine back in my mid 30s did that. I thought it brilliant. Also he was into twinks so rented to them. He had a five bedroom house, pretty much a nonstop party. It was pretty fun.

    I've been living on my own for too long now and am tiring of it. So I'm setting up the master bedroom with its own bath to rent out. To the OP's question of being comfortable, I'll absolutely assure my housemate feels that "mi casa es su casa".

    The room will come furnished with desk and extremely comfy pillowtop mattress. All house privileges of course. I've got a murphy bed and a sofa bed for his out of town company and about an acre (intown, love it) for his dog if he cleans up droppings every day (I do the same when I have a dog) and keeps the pup bathed.

    I'm a natural for having a housemate, having spent most all my summers growing up from when I was a little kid sleeping in bunks at summercamp, having lived with parents who enjoyed having my friends sleep over frequently, whether they were home or not (and sometimes every bed in the house was filled with them), having been used to entertaining guests overnight, aboard while boating with my parents or my partner, and having done a lot of entertaining in my homes, particularly in my 20s-40s. My best bud and I used to go up and down the Intracoastal picking up strangers off the seawall to entertain them for the day. They're only strangers until you start talking.

    Treating guests as family was very important to my family. We've rarely had less than 20 at our Thanksgiving tables and now my sister-in-law has taken up that tradition. My stepdad felt the same. He had a saying whenever an unexpected guest stopped by during dinner time "Family Hold Back". You make sure the guest has what they want to eat before you satisfy your own desires.

    So in the right situation the OP shouldn't feel awkward at all about living with another person. And as far as it being a stranger, man, I've been so much more screwed in life by people I thought I knew well and loved deeply than by people I've just met. And I have mostly nice family and friends.

    My only concern these days is that I don't think I'd be crazy about someone bringing a lot of unknown tricks into the house. I have no problem with someone entertaining their friends overnght but I'd rather they treat this place as their sanctuary as do I. So my interview process will probably include some questions I'd rather not ask but that I feel I need to clarify before committing.

    Generally I'm pretty easy going. My brother always joked with his kids. If you don't like it, why don't you just go over to your uncle's house. There are no rules at your uncle's house.

    Well, there's one rule: make yourself at home. Which is just another way of saying: you want something to drink? You know where the fridge is. Oh, and while you're in there, grab me a beer.