Confessions...

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    Feb 10, 2012 7:56 AM GMT
    Is there something you've always wanted to tell somebody, but were afraid that people would judge you for it?

    I would like this thread to be a non-judgmental discussion thread for people to talk about things that they have never been able to talk about before with anybody.

    I know I'm the last person who should be saying this but
    Please be respectful of other people's confessions.

    I will only write out a confession if this thread gets off to a good start, especially because the one confession I have is something that is looked down upon by many people regardless of age, gender, ethnicity, sexuality, etc.


    edit:
    My confession,
    Anduru saidI'm at the point where I couldn't care less if I'm humiliated by people's judgements on here soooo...

    I'm totally into furry porn, especially musclefurs.
    This does not mean that I want to fuck animals, although many people put the two together but animals are totally fucking gross and it's the art that turns me on.

    If people don't know what I'm referencing, here is a non-porn example:
    r7u9vd.jpg
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    Feb 10, 2012 9:14 AM GMT
    Fine. I'll post it. I know it's cliche but I'm actually afraid I will end up with someone who doesn't love me as much I love them in every way.

    People fascinate me to such a ridiculous extent that even when I am severely annoyed with whomever I'm involved with, that the hole they've dug into me is so deep, that I can find it very easy to forgive them for almost anything they've done. The hole is immediately dug when I become infatuated and grow close which can be very fast since I'm such a warm and open person. All it really takes is an "I'm sorry". I'm afraid I'll change who I am just to accommodate them and lose pieces of myself or scratch the mundane everyday Trevor thoughts into something transformed. I don't consciously do it and it feels natural, therein lies the issue.

    I guess I'm truthfully afraid that I'll lose myself, end up in something that doesn't deserve my head, heart, and that I'll tear myself up or look at it as wasted time once again.

    Once it gets to a point where for some reason I feel betrayed in any relationship, I become afraid that I've opened my heart up to person so I come off cold, callus and tyrannous rather than compassionate and forgiving.

    After that, I turn into an actor almost and I'm not even me, I'll do things just to make them tick, or test them in a way to find out if I'm right. More than likely I usually am and I just stick it out observing their behavior while becoming more and more worn down or disconnected.


    You might be thinking, "That's not all that bad... people do crazy shit for people they love all the time." and maybe I'm not that crazy as I think I am for that... but holy fuck. I am a slave to "love" disguised by romanticism.
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    Feb 10, 2012 9:48 AM GMT
    Aw, Trev. *hug*

    I can definitely relate. When I was single I always thought "how could somebody possibly treat me as well as I always treat the guys I date?"
    When I was dating someone, I would compliment them sometimes, and in private be really snuggly and intimate and caring, but if they dicked around and didn't return enough of the feeling I would lose interest and move on. I just always figured if I'm going to be giving so much, I need to get just as much out of it. Relationships are a two-way street.
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    Feb 10, 2012 10:24 AM GMT
    Either everybody is asleep or people are afraid of choosing the path of love.
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  • briz

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    Feb 10, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    I fear you're gonna find it hard getting this thread off the ground.

    Most guys here are just bullshiting their way through life.

    This is not a safe place to open up.

    Top marks for giving it a go.

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    Feb 10, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    I'll post something if I can think of the most appropriate thing to post. I confess stuff here and there in other threads. I don't know what I haven't posted yet that I could confess. Thinkin...
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:30 PM GMT
    spud82 saidI fear you're gonna find it hard getting this thread off the ground.

    Most guys here are just bullshiting their way through life.

    This is not a safe place to open up.

    Top marks for giving it a go.



    It is perfectly understandable that someone should not want to bear their soul on a public forum. How does that make them a bullshitter?
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    i confess that i'm just here bullshitting my way through life, sorry, horseshitting
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    Ex_Mil8 said
    spud82 saidMost guys here are just bullshiting their way through life.
    It is perfectly understandable that someone would not want to bear their soul on a public forum. How does that make them a bullshitter?

    I think he means that as a separate thought. "guys are going through their life without thinking, without having worries or burdens" So nothing to confess. But I've been wrong before.

    Fuck every time i think of something to confess I realize I've already kind of said it, although not everyone would have read about them. I don't want to go on and on about things and be accused of trying to get attention for saying them in 2-3 places.

    I feel anxious until I make the confession so I do it right away. I guess the two that went over the worst were my topics about sympathy for non-crime-committing pedophiles, and about a dark fantasy for a (mostly verbally) abusive boyfriend. They weren't met with respectfulness or open ears, but it wasn't regrettable.
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:47 PM GMT
    I've got many things that have been weighing heavily on my heart and soul as of late...

    But I'm ain't sayin shit cause these confessions belong on the dancefloor!
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:49 PM GMT
    knowwonder saidI've got many things that have been weighing heavily on my heart and soul as of late...

    But I'm ain't sayin shit cause these confessions belong on the dancefloor!


    OMG - last night a DJ saved my life!!!!
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:49 PM GMT
    "I would like this thread to be a non-judgmental discussion thread for people to talk about things that they have never been able to talk about before with anybody."


    That's a nice sentiment, and I appreciate it, but given what you know about RJ and have experienced here, including the acidic trolling that goes on, do you really think others won't judge others?



    Update Feb13th - so Anduru, you took a confession I posted, changed the wording slightly, and put in on the RJ Meme topic.

    So much for your "I know I'm the last person who should be saying this but
    Please be respectful of other people's confessions."

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    Feb 10, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    "I would like this thread to be a non-judgmental discussion thread for people to talk about things that they have never been able to talk about before with anybody."


    That's a nice sentiment, and I appreciate it, but given what you know about RJ and have experienced here, including the acidic trolling that goes on, do you really think others won't judge others?






    If that were the sole criteria for creating/not creating new threads - there would never be a new thread again.
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:56 PM GMT
    I don't think you can expect this thread to get off to a good start when the OP won't even lead off with a confession. I'm sure most people would feel that their confessions are things they would be judged on and looked down upon for so if the guy with the idea doesn't make the leap why would anyone else?
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    Cash said
    knowwonder saidI've got many things that have been weighing heavily on my heart and soul as of late...

    But I'm ain't sayin shit cause these confessions belong on the dancefloor!


    OMG - last night a DJ saved my life!!!!


    Did you find eternal happiness? Did you life a lifetime in an hour?
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    Feb 10, 2012 5:58 PM GMT
    I'll confess a few things:

    I've gone over all of the worst and best case scenarios about finally coming out to my parents. Some of my friends know...that's about it. Everytime I work up some never I cower away. I'm sure this is a normal coming out process. The simple answer would be: "Just do it!". But just try to think back to when you were about to make this momentous decision. It's just terrifying!

    On a different note, I'm pretty unsure of myself. I dunno really what to say to a guy, how to gauge their interest in me or if I should even go for it at all. I guess I could attribute this to never having pursued a dude before. But I really don't know how icon_redface.gif

    When I get out of college..I'm going to owe alot of money. This scares me beyond belief. I work really hard and pray everyday that there will be a job for me. If I go bankrupt at age 22...I dunno what I'd do.
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    Feb 10, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    I have a friend staying with me right now. He's going through some rough times and needed a place to stay til he got back on his feet.

    Confession: I don't want him to leave icon_neutral.gif He respects the home, he cooks (fucking amazing food), he picks up after himself AND he likes the same shit I do. (he's straight)

    BUT I know he will want to leave once he gets back on his feet because one day he's going to want a family, kids, all that good stuff and I am not about to ask him to revolve his life around my likes and dislikes. That shiz don't mix.

    FAK!!icon_mad.gif

    Still though, so glad I have a great person like him in my life.
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    Feb 10, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    Claystation saidI have a friend staying with me right now. He's going through some rough times and needed a place to stay til he got back on his feet.

    Confession: I don't want him to leave icon_neutral.gif He respects the home, he cooks (fucking amazing food), he picks up after himself AND he likes the same shit I do. (he's straight)

    BUT I know he will want to leave once he gets back on his feet because one day he's going to want a family, kids, all that good stuff and I am not about to ask him to revolve his life around my likes and dislikes. That shiz don't mix.

    FAK!!icon_mad.gif

    Still though, so glad I have a great person like him in my life.


    DANG it, Clay - ya been a'sippin' at that jug too much again!!!!

    I done told ya - ain't no sheep or hogs allowed in the shack!!!!

    Y' all a'wanna play yer little "games" y'all a'go an a'play 'em in the barn like I done told ya!!!!!!!

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    Feb 10, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    OK, I'll bite.

    I'm not remotely physically attracted to any the men on RJ, except my Bill.

    I find the men here often nice to look at, the same as looking at works of fine art. Esthetically pleasing, but that's about it.

    -Doug

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    Feb 10, 2012 6:41 PM GMT
    Cash said

    DANG it, Clay - ya been a'sippin' at that jug too much again!!!!

    I done told ya - ain't no sheep or hogs allowed in the shack!!!!

    Y' all a'wanna play yer little "games" y'all a'go an a'play 'em in the barn like I done told ya!!!!!!!

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    Feb 10, 2012 6:44 PM GMT
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    Cash said

    DANG it, Clay - ya been a'sippin' at that jug too much again!!!!

    I done told ya - ain't no sheep or hogs allowed in the shack!!!!

    Y' all a'wanna play yer little "games" y'all a'go an a'play 'em in the barn like I done told ya!!!!!!!

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    I never get to do what I want! icon_mad.gif


    Tell that to the sheep...
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    Feb 10, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    Cash said

    Tell that to the sheep...


    YOU'RE A SHEEP! icon_mad.gif
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    Feb 10, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    I know this sounds lame but sometimes I'm genuinely afraid that I'll never find my person. . .

    Sometimes I find that I am such an idealist in love and romance that I wear my heart on my sleeve and open myself up to being hurt. I am not good at playing the dating games, or even really at playing hard to get. I just feel like if two people like each other, that should be enough - no waiting four days to text/call, or whatever.

    Maybe it's just because I've been on a slew of less than successful dates lately but it's super frustrating.
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    Feb 10, 2012 6:47 PM GMT
    Here's another: occasionally I'm up most of the night lying in bed worrying about some of the men on here and what they're going through.
    I tend to ache when others ache. Some judge that as weak. So be it.

    -Doug


    PS I also think vulnerability is a powerful and wonderful trait to have.
    PPS I also think OCD is not an illness but an unexercised mental muscle that is spasming out of control.

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    Feb 10, 2012 6:49 PM GMT
    Cakelion saidI'm sure most people would feel that their confessions are things they would be judged on and looked down upon for so if the guy with the idea doesn't make the leap why would anyone else?


    Because we have balls! Because we don't need a precedent to determine our actions. Because it's a good topic and we want to take part and encourage others to do the same.

    You've seen some already, let's keep it going.