Feb 10, 2012 9:52 PM GMT
I have a straight guy friend who is SO cool, ridiculously smart, fantastically logical, a truly great conversationalist, funny and who I really, REALLY enjoy hanging out with. Initially I thought he was gay and was actually kinda attracted to him but when I found out he was straight it turned off like a light switch.
We've been friends for a few years and he has always been very flattering and generous with praise and compliments because he knows I'm an attention whore and love it.
He has a wonderful girlfriend who bakes and sends it with him to work for me. He and I have very candid talks about any and all relationship issues from emotional availability, having kids, marriage, my voracious dating and we conversationally talk about our respective sex lives with more detail than would make most people comfortable.
He's my buddy and I've already put him in the "pal" category any attraction truly died long ago. That, and I don't do "two point conversions", I have no patience for "curious" straight guys even if I like them as people.
So lately, I've noticed the compliments are getting more frequent and more lavish, with awkward silences afterward that leave me looking like a dog who is trying to understand what it's drunk master just rambled... it sure sounded a lot like "walk". I think he might have a crush on me.
Initially I was actually mad at him because I felt like he was compromising our friendship and potentially jeopardizing it by creeping out on me, but I can't say anything because I've contributed to the dynamic of him flattering me all the time, I can't be sore with him.
I have a feeling an awkward moment is in the making, I feel like he and I are good enough friends where we can talk about it when it comes up and I can say no without it being a conventional rejection and think our friendship will be fine.
Has anyone else had an experience like this?
I don't need to hear the "he doesn't sound straight to me" his orientation or proclivities are not the issue. Navigating a successful friendship through the uncomfortably awkward is.
We've been friends for a few years and he has always been very flattering and generous with praise and compliments because he knows I'm an attention whore and love it.
He has a wonderful girlfriend who bakes and sends it with him to work for me. He and I have very candid talks about any and all relationship issues from emotional availability, having kids, marriage, my voracious dating and we conversationally talk about our respective sex lives with more detail than would make most people comfortable.
He's my buddy and I've already put him in the "pal" category any attraction truly died long ago. That, and I don't do "two point conversions", I have no patience for "curious" straight guys even if I like them as people.
So lately, I've noticed the compliments are getting more frequent and more lavish, with awkward silences afterward that leave me looking like a dog who is trying to understand what it's drunk master just rambled... it sure sounded a lot like "walk". I think he might have a crush on me.
Initially I was actually mad at him because I felt like he was compromising our friendship and potentially jeopardizing it by creeping out on me, but I can't say anything because I've contributed to the dynamic of him flattering me all the time, I can't be sore with him.
I have a feeling an awkward moment is in the making, I feel like he and I are good enough friends where we can talk about it when it comes up and I can say no without it being a conventional rejection and think our friendship will be fine.
Has anyone else had an experience like this?
I don't need to hear the "he doesn't sound straight to me" his orientation or proclivities are not the issue. Navigating a successful friendship through the uncomfortably awkward is.