Creepy Guy Ruined My Night

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    Feb 11, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    *Edited reactionary post made right after this happened and missing info now added*

    Some creepy older man (no offense to any of the older RJ's here. All old guys aren't creepy to me- let me just to be clear about that) was leering at me on the subway tonight. Shut my eyes, changed seats, moved across the car- still leering and staring right at me with a creepy smile also.

    Then after a while he starts rubbing the empty seat and I think himself.icon_eek.gif I can't believe this! (I thought in included this important point in my OP, but I guess not based on the responses I got) The guy next to him gives him a weird look and get's stands in another part of the car for the rest of his ride. No one gives up their seat on a crowded subway in NYC unless a pregnant lady or senior needs it. That's kind of hint right there about whether or not this guy was being creepy for all who are doubting.

    The only person to sit next to him was a cute guy who had been flashing me non-creepy, flirty looks before I noticed the older man. Why he didn't notice all of this-I have no idea... maybe he was too busy looking at me to notice (I'm just average looking IMO so I could be wrong about this also- too many variables on a crowded subway train to really be sure of eye flirting)

    Kind of a complicated situation with the older and cute guy both now looking my way- though from what I could tell one of them had lewd intentions and the other did not. (Not because one was old and the other one young- but the type of look to clarify again)

    I know this isn't unusual for NYC or any big city but I had a kind of personal bad experience with a creeper a few years back when I lived in Chicago who let's just say got away with something he should been arrested for. This brought all of that back for me... possibly making it seem worse than it really was...idk. Worried something like what happened in Chicago might happen again after last night. Been thinking about what I would do if it ever since then.

    Hopefully people now have the whole story. A bit on the TMI side and kind of personal but I'm wondering if anyone can relate? I'm sure there's a few guys who can since even some male models are taken advantage of (which is a lot worse than what happened here), or you just get a stare in the bar or club that sends shivers up your spine and you don't know what to do... or maybe you do... I think things happen to guys more often than we think but no one really likes to talk about it since we associate sexual harassment with only happening to women.

    If you can't relate or don't care just post funny some GIF's or make a snarky comment and we'll hopefully will be able look back at this thread and laugh. Make lemons in lemonaid when you canicon_smile.gif
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    Feb 11, 2012 12:44 AM GMT
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  • dannyboy1101

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    Feb 11, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    Whoa. I agree. U seem way overly sensitive for NYC. Why are u giving that guy so much control over your life? So he's a creepy starer. That's no reason to abandon ur friend. Devils advocate: maybe cute guy thought u were a creepy starer. Who knows? We all put ourselves out there and r judged for better or worse. It's life (dating, job interviews, walking outside in clothes, etc). Just ignore and move on. Maybe subway isn't best place to husband shop for u...
  • Timbales

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    Feb 11, 2012 1:11 AM GMT
    You ruined your own night.
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    You may want to consider moving to South Jersey.

    This may not be the place for you.

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    Feb 11, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    Weren't you doing the same thing to that other guy that the old guy was doing to you?
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    Stan, the cute guy was actually staring at me; gave me a smile when I "felt" someone looking at me from his direction. I'm 99% sure it was a bit of a flirty look because he kept looking at me, but who knows. Could've read it wrong like someone said.

    Jersey? I'm not tan enough to move down there. icon_smile.gif

    Seriously though, I've never had a bad experience in the years I've been living here. Everyone has been alright so far. This is actually the worst that's happened to me which is a shock to a lot of NYer's.
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    He has probably googled your RJ profile by now and lined every wall of his squalid apartment with your pictures.
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:28 AM GMT
    Ex_Mil8 saidHe has probably googled your RJ profile by now and lined every wall of his squalid apartment with your pictures.
    With the eyes cut out, of course.
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:29 AM GMT
    I lost interest when I got to the "eye flirting" part of the story icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    If he were young and hot, he wouldn't seem creepy I bet. Funny how the more attractive a guy is, the less offensive the person seems. I've had old women flirt with me before and I winked back at them and smiled.
  • bigtallguy

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    Feb 11, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    Claystation saidI lost interest when I got to the "eye flirting" part of the story icon_neutral.gif


    Is this the reason you've been ignoring all my eye flirting, Clay?
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:35 AM GMT
    bigtallguy said

    Is this the reason you've been ignoring all my eye flirting, Clay?


    ........yes
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    Cash saidYou may want to consider moving to South Jersey.

    This may not be the place for you.

    South Jersey (the Atlantic City boardwalk to be exact) was where an old creeper made a move on me in a men's restroom when I was about 14. I was so traumatized I began to become pee-shy in public restrooms, a problem that sometimes surfaces even today.
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
    So some guy looked at you and your day went to pieces?

    Sucks to be you.

    PS - You're no Matt Bomer. Get over yourself.
    PSS - I'm no Matt Bomer, either.
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:41 AM GMT
    feh, until you've been assaulted by a creeper...


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    Feb 11, 2012 1:41 AM GMT
    Ehanson saidOn the subway coming home tonight I got googled over by this creepy old guy in his 60's who also gave me creepo smiles as a follow up. Nasty! Must have seen a very good looking guy nearby, eat flirting with me who sat down next to this creep when the seat was available (why god?) Had to stop eye flirting at that point with this cute guy as I didn't want the perv to think I was directing it at him.

    Had to start shooting mean looks at the creep to try to get him to stop- nope. Probably a crazy pedo or something since I do look younger than my actual age. I had to get off a station early since I was so uncomfortable with him staring at me even when I moved to the other side of the car. The cute guy got off also- and so did the perv. Uh oh. icon_eek.gif

    I hurried up the stairs and looked behind me to make sure he wasn't following me, the cute guy was and I wanted to apologize if he thought I was giving him the death stare but was in such a bad mood at that point I didn't bother.

    I'm sure other RJer's can relate to this. Not uncommon for NYC but this really skeeved me out and made me cancel plans I had with a friend since I don't want to hop right back on the subway now. Nothing like that has happened in all my years of riding the subway actually, until now.

    I think the old guy was the lucky one to have missed you. What's wrong with just smiling at the old guy and shaking your head no. And the fact that you were in such a bad mood you dumped the good looking guy coming after you. Nobody can win with you! Hmmmm....come to think of it, maybe the good looking guy was lucky to miss you, too.
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
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    Cash saidYou may want to consider moving to South Jersey.

    This may not be the place for you.

    South Jersey (the Atlantic City boardwalk to be exact) was where an old creeper made a move on me in a men's restroom when I was about 14. I was so traumatized I began to become pee-shy in public restrooms, a problem that sometimes surfaces even today.


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  • jgymnast733

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    Feb 11, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    Dont let them get to you, just continue to ignore the creeps.....
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    Claystation saidI lost interest when I got to the "eye flirting" part of the story icon_neutral.gif
    You mean "eat flirting".
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    lol, I got on the subway last night and there was a rank homelessman with urine dripping out of his pants and the rest of the ride was avoiding his pee streams.

    Nobody ever died from being close to something gross.
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    lmaooo man your dramatic why ruined your own night cause i guy was looking at you, geesh talk about getting a titi attack lmfaoooicon_lol.gif
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    Anduru said
    Claystation saidI lost interest when I got to the "eye flirting" part of the story icon_neutral.gif
    You mean "eat flirting".


    Holy shit you're right, I did mean "eat flirting" icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    u guys are so mean, he's just looking for comfort, give it to him and move on
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    Feb 11, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    Ehanson said
    Seriously though, I've never had a bad experience in the years I've been living here. Everyone has been alright so far. This is actually the worst that's happened to me which is a shock to a lot of NYer's.



    Really? Some creepy guy looked at you and that is the worst thing that has happened to you in all your years living in NYC? You must really be living the easy life.