RIP: Continuous Tragedy

  • smitdw22

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    Feb 12, 2012 5:23 PM GMT
    I have come to new thoughts after a forum discussion of last night, and what could be seen as the slow destruction of human interaction through social networking sites. How have as people in general become like this? Like me or hate me for my opinion, but it is just that, my own. This may not be the most intelligent post to read, nor the most interesting, and who knows if anyone will comment at all, but I hope it does provide further thought and new perspectives in thinking.

    The story goes as follows:
    I commented on a thread about the death of Whitney Houston; A death is a death and never good. My problem with this is the idolization we create for people. This is not to say she did not contribute, inspire, influence, etc. the world we live in, it is the fact that we look past far more inspirational people that have contributed and influenced the world we live in. This was pretty much the basis of my post (To look at this this with a different perspective of who we honor), with a little more detail to it, so try not to get caught up in that. Ironically. no one decided to respond to my post; It wasn't until I agreed with someone that may have thought along the same lines as I did (Just without as much thought into it) that I was then "attacked" with words that I was disrespectful and a hater. I replied back with a very similar post to the original as I assumed the people had not read it; Again, after that, no one responded to that post that explained my reasoning further.

    But what I saw next is what astonished me. As I watched the thread to grow and people were commenting back and forth, arguing both sides, the conversation shifted away from what was being said to just arguing about what seemed to be almost anything and name calling back and forth. I looked at this and thought, "How does that become this?" This notion that we are to take a moment and honor someone become a playground for bickering against one another. Why has a minority culture turned on each other so fast, when so many before us banded together to work towards what we have achieved now? Our opinions are our own. And yes, there is a time and place to speak them, and the one I made last night, may have not been the right time. But to see how much someone can affect explode technologically, is quite amazing (Via FB, Twitter, etc.) I saw one post that someone had posted to the "haters," something along the lines of: "How can you say or feel that way about a person you don't even know?" My response wanted to be, "How can you?"

    I understand we can't all get along with each other, and it is so much easier to not when we are not face-to-face. But in that same idea, can the reverse be true as well. Is it not easier to band together? We begin to alienate from our own community through different ways (i.e. Microaggressions, etc.). Are we able to move forward? Why is it that when intelligence is shown, that it goes unrecognized? Why is it in times that the goal is to show respect and love, do we shift to anger and arguing about irrelevant things?

    I mean no disrespect to anyone, just my opinion and thought (That may or may not have needed to shared). I will respect your thoughts, and hope you will respect mine, thank you (And yes, I probably could continuously ramble on-and-on).

    -Deshon

    If you care to read/see what I am talking about, this is the original forum: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2173957
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    Feb 12, 2012 5:52 PM GMT
    She just died, there's nothing wrong with your opinion, just your timing.
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    Feb 12, 2012 7:04 PM GMT
    smitdw22 saidI have come to new thoughts after a forum discussion of last night, and what could be seen as the slow destruction of human interaction through social networking sites. How have as people in general become like this? Like me or hate me for my opinion, but it is just that, my own. This may not be the most intelligent post to read, nor the most interesting, and who knows if anyone will comment at all, but I hope it does provide further thought and new perspectives in thinking.

    The story goes as follows:
    I commented on a thread about the death of Whitney Houston; A death is a death and never good. My problem with this is the idolization we create for people. This is not to say she did not contribute, inspire, influence, etc. the world we live in, it is the fact that we look past far more inspirational people that have contributed and influenced the world we live in. This was pretty much the basis of my post (To look at this this with a different perspective of who we honor), with a little more detail to it, so try not to get caught up in that. Ironically. no one decided to respond to my post; It wasn't until I agreed with someone that may have thought along the same lines as I did (Just without as much thought into it) that I was then "attacked" with words that I was disrespectful and a hater. I replied back with a very similar post to the original as I assumed the people had not read it; Again, after that, no one responded to that post that explained my reasoning further.

    But what I saw next is what astonished me. As I watched the thread to grow and people were commenting back and forth, arguing both sides, the conversation shifted away from what was being said to just arguing about what seemed to be almost anything and name calling back and forth. I looked at this and thought, "How does that become this?" This notion that we are to take a moment and honor someone become a playground for bickering against one another. Why has a minority culture turned on each other so fast, when so many before us banded together to work towards what we have achieved now? Our opinions are our own. And yes, there is a time and place to speak them, and the one I made last night, may have not been the right time. But to see how much someone can affect explode technologically, is quite amazing (Via FB, Twitter, etc.) I saw one post that someone had posted to the "haters," something along the lines of: "How can you say or feel that way about a person you don't even know?" My response wanted to be, "How can you?"

    I understand we can't all get along with each other, and it is so much easier to not when we are not face-to-face. But in that same idea, can the reverse be true as well. Is it not easier to band together? We begin to alienate from our own community through different ways (i.e. Microaggressions, etc.). Are we able to move forward? Why is it that when intelligence is shown, that it goes unrecognized? Why is it in times that the goal is to show respect and love, do we shift to anger and arguing about irrelevant things?

    I mean no disrespect to anyone, just my opinion and thought (That may or may not have needed to shared). I will respect your thoughts, and hope you will respect mine, thank you (And yes, I probably could continuously ramble on-and-on).

    -Deshon

    If you care to read/see what I am talking about, this is the original forum: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2173957


    You're new here. You probably haven't learned yet that well thought out intelligent responses are generally ignored on RJ. You need to make them shiny and bright to garner attention. To do that try peppering them lightly at first with a few vulgarities. As well a novel GIF seems to work wonders.
    Lastly, know your audience.