How do you feel when being pushed to use alcohols?

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    Feb 12, 2012 7:20 PM GMT
    I feel very annoyed. I'm also a party animal, i do drink, but i drink for fun, i don't drink to show off any bullshit, i stop drinking when it's crucial to take care of my health.

    It's weird in parties here, men force men to drink beers or strong wines, to see who will got dead drunk first. And in yesterday party, one of my uncles saw me drinking coke, and said something like 'only fags don't know how to drink'. I was not drinking beer or alcoholic drinks because i suffered from dizziness for a week, and wanted to say straight to his face that a drunk man is actually more useless and stupid than his so-called fag, and he must have been living a cave for too long. But there were many relatives and i needed to behave, i was small in the family anyway.

    Have you ever been forced to drink alcoholic drinks? And if you don't like drinking till drop dead, has anyone said such rude things to you when he finds out you don't like drinking?
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    Feb 12, 2012 7:33 PM GMT
    tyklong saidI feel very annoyed. I'm also a party animal, i do drink, but i drink for fun, i don't drink to show off any bullshit, i stop drinking when it's crucial to take care of my health.

    It's weird in parties here, men force men to drink beers or strong wines, to see who will got dead drunk first. And in yesterday party, one of my uncles saw me drinking coke, and said something like 'only fags don't know how to drink'. I was not drinking beer or alcoholic drinks because i suffered from dizziness for a week, and wanted to say straight to his face that a drunk man is actually more useless and stupid than his so-called fag, and he must have been living a cave for too long. But there were many relatives and i needed to behave, i was small in the family anyway.

    Have you ever been forced to drink alcoholic drinks? And if you don't like drinking till drop dead, has anyone said such rude things to you when he finds out you don't like drinking?


    I drink for fun too! No one ever forces me to drink cuz I'm always DOWN! Except if I have to drive right after, of course. icon_smile.gif
    As for people trying to force you to drink at parties, don't let them dictate what you want to do. If they mock you for it, just brush it off, tell them off, or leave.
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    Feb 12, 2012 7:46 PM GMT
    I know it's not easy, but you need to
    grow up
    grow a pair
    and
    emancipate yourself from your family

    Hopefully then, nobody will be able to make to drink, use derogatory speech without you complaining and make you feel small because of how it affects your family.
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    Feb 12, 2012 9:11 PM GMT
    u should encourage your uncle to drink himself to death
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    Feb 12, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    No one forces me to do anything I will not do!

    bhp91126 has it right.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:08 PM GMT
    How do you feel when being pushed to use alcohols?

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    No, no, no, j/k

    Actually I can't think of any situations where I was forced to drink, no initiation things or similar, and never by my family. Mostly it was more general peer pressure, where everyone else is drinking and stuff is being offered to you, but not with orders or threats.

    The closest was a whiskey chugging contest I was encouraged to enter, in 1971 in an Army 4-man squad room. Not sure we were allowed alcohol in the barracks at that time (later we were), but we were all Sergeants and not too concerned. We were using 6-ounce mess hall glasses we filled half-way, and I did pretty good until about the third or fourth.

    Then it suddenly hit me all at once, and I immediately said I was done and got up to head back to my own room. The last thing I remember is reaching out for the doorknob when it seemed like a freight train hit me.

    I awoke in my own bunk bed around 3 AM, hanging onto the mattress for dear life, because it was flying all around the room, trying to throw me off. I passed out again, and next time I woke it was after 6, and the mattress had won, because I was on the floor, the mattress on top of me, my face in a pool of vomit. First and only time in my life I ever got that drunk, and I learned a good lesson.

    But there's a postscript. I was finally functional by around noon (thank gawd it was a non-duty Sunday), when a buddy with a BSA motorcycle dropped by and invited me to join him for a ride. I agreed, and around 1 PM I was riding my Harley alongside him.

    Our route took us through a state park, where we saw the rather inviting Otter Creek. We parked our bikes a little off the road, then walked out of sight of the road and found a bank where we could enter the water. We stripped (not having brought suits) and jumped in. Big mistake.

    The water was colder than I expected, and the alcohol hit me all over again. Plus the water was swifter than I realized, and in my now weakened condition I couldn't fight the current, being swept along to what would become the Ohio river in about a half mile.

    My buddy had gotten himself onto a bank, keeping up with me and yelling for me to swim to him, but I just couldn't make any progress (he did look funny all panic stricken and double-timing along bare ass). Finally there was a bend with an overhanging tree, and with a last effort I managed to break free of the current and catch a branch. I worked myself to the bank and climbed up with his help. We collapsed into tall grass just laughing and laughing, despite my gasping for breath for minutes afterwards.

    I'm glad no one saw us, lying there together in the grass, 2 stark naked guys just laughing & giggling. In Kentucky we would have been shot and thrown back in the water.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    Why the big hesitancy to drink? You're young, enjoy yourself. Just don't get too fucked up.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:23 PM GMT
    Alcohol tastes bad, and like House said on that one episode, people don't drink it for the taste, they drink it to get drunk...and that's the only reason people ever want to drink, to get drunk or to get buzzed
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:27 PM GMT
    Forced to drink alcohol?

    What is this...appletini rape?

    If you can't say no, then YOU have a problem.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:36 PM GMT
    Yeah, I don't understand families where alcohol is the center of socializing/bonding. I'm guessing they're borderline alcoholics or they're all incredibly horrible people and alcohol is needed to make everyone tolerate each other.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:37 PM GMT
    its only happened once but I was a decent sport about it. I have a good tolerance of alcohol and i process it faster than most people so if a friend wants me to try a shot of something I'll usually do it as long as its not tequila. Of course, then I don't drink anything else after that because i don't feel like having to spring my car from the impound lot the next day.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:53 PM GMT
    *hiccup*

    Uh, what was the question?
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    Feb 13, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    I feel ya. I like to drink to have a good time sometimes, but what's the point of showing off how much you can you handle? I prefer to just drink to get buzzed and when I'm buzzed I feel thats enough I'm already having a good time why jeopardize my health even more or make myself feel sick? I don't care if u can kill an entire bottle, what have you got to prove by drinking yourself to death? I just drink to get buzzed I also think it's dumb that ppl think you're less of a man if you can't drink much or refuse to drink.icon_rolleyes.gif WTF? I feel you're more of a man if you can do whatever you feel is right and resist peer pressure to go overboard.
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    Feb 13, 2012 12:44 AM GMT
    Stop drinking when you no longer want to, other people's thoughts on the matter be damned. If I don't want even another sip from a drink I'm drinking then I won't drink it and that's that. A firm "no thanks" is a good response to someone who wants you to drink more than you care to.

    That, or you can baby the same drink for an hour or more and hope people will be too drunk to notice.
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    paulflexes said*hiccup*

    Uh, what was the question?

    Be careful, Paul. Having a little light-hearted fun about drinking might earn you the attention of a stalker, like I have with "southbeach" (see his post above).

    I don't recall anyone on this site being so methodically stalked & persecuted by another member as I have suffered with "southbeach", who follows me around the forums bashing me with unrelated crap, telling lies about me, and tries to hijack and derail almost every thread I start. Fortunately his unbalanced obsession is more to his own discredit than any harm he thinks he does to me.

    BTW, I was emailing another RJer about going down to South Beach (the real one), and we discussed Lords, which I know you like. Do you have any thoughts about best days & times? I'd invite you but I know you're still under contract for months yet. Thanks.
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    Feb 13, 2012 4:03 AM GMT
    Total flashback to the first time someone tried pushing booze on me. I was probably 11 or 12 in temple. After shabbot services there was almost always an extravagant kiddush (tables of food platters, cakes, liquors), probably hosted by whomever got barmitzvah'd that day, though I seem to remember having one every Saturday and it was a well-funded temple (one of the members was comedian Buddy Hacket).

    I had no idea who the guy was. I just remember grabbing for a soda when this old man tried to embarrass me into having a scotch or something. It was really weird. I seem to remember escaping from him and into the crowd. Thinking about it now--haven't thought about this in years--probably the guy was just kidding with me. Maybe your uncle was just kidding.

    Anyway, I finally learned to drink at summercamp where my mother sent me to keep me out of trouble.
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    Feb 13, 2012 4:04 AM GMT
    Half the time I end up leaving the party when people start getting stupid or just not going out.... sorry nothing I can't stand more is people who lose control (from drinking too much) and those push booze on you.
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    Feb 13, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    Seems like it's a local problem.

    Here in Vietnam a man is considered a man when he knows how to drink. So every boy and man thinks they look cool when being the one who drinks best. My uncle was obviously not joking, he was always trying to insult other young boys in a party with his sarcastic comments, because his son was always the best drinker. It's just not fun drinking with those people when u have to drink half the bottle of beer every 5 minutes. It makes me feel gross when eating the food with so much beer. An average person in such party will consume around 5 to 10 bottles of beers. A group of 10men will consume around 2-3 bottles of strong alcohols such as Chivas. I was always like 'what's the point?'.