Do u talk to people you are not attracted to?

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    Feb 12, 2012 9:37 PM GMT
    For practice do u talk to other gay dudes to build attraction as a skill?

    Do you believe attraction is a science?

    I've noticed that people that normally would not give me the time of day get jealous when I hit on their friends .

    It makes me think that attraction can be built with anyone so long as you make them feel a certain way.

    Is this true in the gay community , or is attraction in the gay community mostly in part due to looks?
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    Feb 12, 2012 9:45 PM GMT
    By the way I think I saw kent Larson in person last night. If it was, he looks amazing inperson
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    I talk to lots of people who approach/message me. It really just depends if I feel talkative, but inevitably I get flamed if I'm not interested to hook up. That's why sometimes "no reply" is the best policy, given people's deteriorating social skills.

    In one way you can attract people based on the way you act -- warm, accepting, open-minded, smiling -- but this type doesn't depend on looks and doesn't have to be a sexual attraction. To me, a sexual attraction requires chemistry. You might notice looks first, but chemistry can override it and you just end up falling for someone unexpectedly.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:18 PM GMT
    I went to a straight club last night with this guy I'm talking to...straight men will talk to another guy regardless if there is an attraction. I think I got more hugs from straight men in 1 night than I do at a gay bar in an entire year. I mean obviously?

    Other than that...I can't really understand quite what you're asking here LOL. Are you asking about attraction or about whether people talk to people they aren't attracted to?
  • tautomer

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    Feb 12, 2012 10:19 PM GMT
    If I'll never meet them in person I will talk to them or at the very least be friendly. If however there is someone I am not attracted to that wants to meet me, I will generally say I am not interested and stop talking there. It comes down to the fact that when it comes to gay guys, I am looking for something more then just a frienship. If they go into it being attracted, but then want to be friends after I say no, then it's tainted and I don't want to feel that pressure.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:20 PM GMT
    no I shun them... e_e
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:20 PM GMT
    sometimes i do. other times no. gut vibe i guess. it's taken me a year in the gay community to realize that being nice/responsive even if you're not interested is apparently leading someone on.

    i will, however, talk to someone if there's a chance i could be attracted. and i mean, usually i'm immediately attracted to someone, whether it be for looks/intelligence/some combo or both.

    shrug.
  • dancedancekj

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    Feb 12, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    Yup, they're called women.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:25 PM GMT
    Only if they have money.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:26 PM GMT
    Most of the time. I think
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:26 PM GMT
    Something I've learned from this site: Not all hot guys are jackasses! lol

    Talk to whoever you please.
  • Art2D2x

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    Feb 12, 2012 10:28 PM GMT
    tautomer4314 saidIf I'll never meet them in person I will talk to them or at the very least be friendly. If however there is someone I am not attracted to that wants to meet me, I will generally say I am not interested and stop talking there. It comes down to the fact that when it comes to gay guys, I am looking for something more then just a frienship. If they go into it being attracted, but then want to be friends after I say no, then it's tainted and I don't want to feel that pressure.


    Best answer on here. I second this.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    If it's online, I'll chat with anyone until it gets weird.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:34 PM GMT
    huhwhat saidIf it's online, I'll chat with anyone until it gets weird.


    This*
  • starboard5

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    Feb 12, 2012 10:56 PM GMT
    LikeTallJock, I'm a little confused by your post. You write, "It makes me think that attraction can be built with anyone so long as you make them feel a certain way."
    Sounds more like you're talking about manipulation. Not a sound way to enter into any kind of potential friendship, etc. Maybe I misunderstand you.
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    Feb 12, 2012 10:56 PM GMT
    conscienti1984 said

    Talk to whoever you please.


    People are people...

    People talk to people...

    As far as attraction goes... people are shallow. If they don't want to talk to you, you wouldn't want to talk to them anyway.

    Golden Rule: Treat others how you would want to be treated.

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    Feb 12, 2012 10:58 PM GMT
    Absolutely not! It's stupid to talk to ugly people. All the people I talk to could be fitness models and porn stars.
  • zenmonkie

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    Feb 12, 2012 11:03 PM GMT
    You know how they say there are no dumb questions only dumb answers?
    It's not true, this is one of them.
  • He_Man

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    Feb 13, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    Hell, I only talk to people i'm not attracted to! If i'm attracted to you, then i will more than likely be shy and avoid interaction with you, until I get to know you and then be warned - you won't get me to shut up! icon_lol.gif

    Basically, you'll know if I like someone or don't like someone by how I approach them -- that is, the more I like you, the less I tend to acknowledge you. I know it's bad for my dating life - it sucks to be shy!
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    Feb 13, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    I should've clarified

    Question pertains to the most superficial venue

    The club

    ....

    assuming that people get off the net and socialize in real life
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    Feb 13, 2012 12:44 AM GMT
    i love everyone!!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 13, 2012 12:45 AM GMT
    archon saidi love everyone!!icon_biggrin.gif


    It's true. He does.
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    Feb 13, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
    Jhazz said
    archon saidi love everyone!!icon_biggrin.gif


    It's true. He does.


    i know i do!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 13, 2012 12:55 AM GMT
    Attraction is an alchemy at best, not even close to understandable, quantifiable science.

    Meanwhile, it seems wise to have friends you're not attracted to, so as to avoiding mucking through fucking.
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    Feb 13, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    What does any of this mean??

    RunintheCity saidAttraction is an alchemy at best, not even close to understandable, quantifiable science.

    Meanwhile, it seems wise to have friends you're not attracted to, so as to avoiding mucking through fucking.