What is your relationship with your mothers like?

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    Feb 13, 2012 8:14 AM GMT
    And also: do you feel she has affected you in what kinds of mates you are attracted to? Do you recognize traits you liked in your mother in your mate? Even physical traits? I have heard that this is a common factor in the male's choice of mate..


    My mom is pretty much like the standard they say about gay men.. overbearing and domineering lol, but that could have to do with how she was raised... tigre mom culture.... I always thought the reason gay men had overbearing mothers is because moms get more protective seeing that their sons weren't "standard boys"
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    Non existent..
    She lives her life.. I live mine.

    We have no communication and I Love it that way!
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:27 PM GMT
    Freaking awesome with mine.
    Same as with my dad.
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    i love my momma! i have a chat date at 12 with her actually icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    My relationship with my mother is strong, but I never look for traits in men that are shared with my mom. In fact I find a lot of the traits I look for in men are usually ones that my father never exhibited. For instance I find myself drawn to protective men- something my father rarely displays. And that trait, I think, has carried through into a physical sense of being attracted to muscular men as instinctively muscle is thought of as a form of strength/power and hence the ability to protect. If that makes sense...icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    we cool
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    Mom is simultaneously very loving and very incurious inasmuch as she doesn't think about what she's saying to me before she says it, and blurts out what she's always thought as though things aren't different since I told her I'm gay haha.

    E.g. when I came out and she said, "How are you and Eduardo even boyfriends if you don't have sex?"... apparently being under the impression that I have a very strict interpretation of the Bible. Or the other day when she said, "I hope you're not having sex before marriage..." after which I had to wonder to her, "My still-illegal-in-Florida marriage, mom?"
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    My mother died in a car accident in 1984. Never really knew her; though I do have faint memory of her singing voice and face.
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:42 PM GMT
    It was great! I can say without bias that she was a uniquely kind, clever, and beautiful woman. Sadly, she died.

    She was blond and I think part of my blond fetish comes from her.
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
    Great, unless you mean the other one, then its not so great.
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    Feb 13, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    I was lucky to have an amazing grandmother (and grandfather) up until a few years ago. She and my grandfather raised me and were the best parents anyone could ask for. I was given just the right mix of love, discipline, accountability, and they instilled a spirit of adventure in me. They taught me how to give love to another person, through their example. They treated each other beautifully, and were very good to me. They taught me a whole lot about life.

    My biological mother, on the other hand was not a very good mother. She tried sometimes, but really should not have had children. She was busy with her friends (she is very popular) and resented me most of the time, with little spurts of good times on occasion. She favored my brother and made no secret of it. She made life such Hell for me that at 9 I asked (begged) to be allowed to move out and live with my grandparents. The rotten spoiled brother? What a train wreck that case turned out to be. He was favored, spoiled, and at 50, he still lives with our parents. He's never really worked, finished school, had friends, or become a decent human being. He is a miserable, mean thief. Our mother made a monster and she's reaping what she sowed. I work hard to be kind to her these days, and sometimes we have a nice dinner or lunch, if she's in a good mood. Best thing I ever did was to move out and get away from her back then.
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    Feb 13, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    I have an amazing mother and our relationship is and always has been wonderful. She's always been supportive, my biggest fan, and lets me live my life without interfering in any way. I truly lucked out by having incredible parents.
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    Feb 13, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    I feel so bad for people who have no relationship with their Mum. It's such a waste of a special relationship.

    My mum and I have a very special relationship. I don't think I've ever gone a week without seeing her. I love her very much. She made me the man I am ;)
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    Feb 13, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    Claystation saidGreat, unless you mean the other one, then its not so great.


    ... ?

    My mom and dad are both great people.
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    Feb 13, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    Wow sure is interesting.. so much variety!... I guess the old adage that gay men have great relationships with their mothers and bad ones with their fathers is a myth....
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    Feb 13, 2012 3:54 PM GMT
    RYkid said
    ... ?

    My mom and dad are both great people.


    I was adopted
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    Feb 13, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    Claystation said
    RYkid said
    ... ?

    My mom and dad are both great people.


    I was adopted


    lol initial thouht= lesbian moms but this makes sensw
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    Feb 13, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    GreenHopper saidWow sure is interesting.. so much variety!... I guess the old adage that gay men have great relationships with their mothers and bad ones with their fathers is a myth....


    No, I think there might be some truth in it. I suspect you' ve got a skewed survey.
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    Feb 13, 2012 4:11 PM GMT
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    GreenHopper saidWow sure is interesting.. so much variety!... I guess the old adage that gay men have great relationships with their mothers and bad ones with their fathers is a myth....


    No, I think there might be some truth in it. I suspect you' ve got a skewed survey.


    You and I are pretty much the only ones icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 13, 2012 4:18 PM GMT
    GreenHopper saidAnd also: do you feel she has affected you in what kinds of mates you are attracted to? Do you recognize traits you liked in your mother in your mate? Even physical traits? I have heard that this is a common factor in the male's choice of mate..


    I guess I forgot to answer all this didn't I icon_confused.gif

    I don't think so, when I think of past relationships and why I got into them (or tried to) there are some traits that come to mind that were similar but its traits like they were nice or they cooked well. But those traits are pretty common I mean, whose mom isn't nice? Or whose mom doesn't cook well? Physically, no.
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    Feb 13, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
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    GreenHopper saidAnd also: do you feel she has affected you in what kinds of mates you are attracted to? Do you recognize traits you liked in your mother in your mate? Even physical traits? I have heard that this is a common factor in the male's choice of mate..


    I guess I forgot to answer all this didn't I icon_confused.gif

    I don't think so, when I think of past relationships and why I got into them (or tried to) there are some traits that come to mind that were similar but its traits like they were nice or they cooked well. But those traits are pretty common I mean, whose mom isn't nice? Or whose mom doesn't cook well? Physically, no.


    You mean you arent attracted to a vag? Who would have known lol.

    I think my mother would look weird with tons of muscle and chest hair on her. However, she is overbearing, but I really dont take that crap from her. So no, I am not attracted to people like my mother.
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    Feb 13, 2012 5:03 PM GMT
    GregoSA saidMy relationship with my mother is strong, but I never look for traits in men that are shared with my mom. In fact I find a lot of the traits I look for in men are usually ones that my father never exhibited. For instance I find myself drawn to protective men- something my father rarely displays. And that trait, I think, has carried through into a physical sense of being attracted to muscular men as instinctively muscle is thought of as a form of strength/power and hence the ability to protect. If that makes sense...icon_rolleyes.gif



    very similar to what Grergo said...ill rate the relationship around (9 / 10) someone who actually listens, comfort and layout every single detail to your problems then to make fun or embarrass icon_smile.gif .
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    Feb 13, 2012 5:17 PM GMT
    TropicalMark saidNon existent..
    She lives her life.. I live mine.

    We have no communication and I Love it that way!



    Ditto...Amen
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    Feb 13, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
    Excellent.
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    Feb 13, 2012 5:19 PM GMT


    My mom and I are close BUT distant... It works and works well for us^^