Do We Fall For People Like Our Parents?

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    Feb 13, 2012 8:18 AM GMT
    Ive heard this A LOT!

    http://www.datingish.com/708766795/do-we-fall-for-people-like-our-parents/

    And now I wonder.. do gay men fall for people who are like their fathers, the way women do? Or do we fall for people who are like our mothers, the way straight men do? How about lesbians and bisexuals??


    One thing I know: I know that out of all the people Ive fallen for.. all but ONE that I know of had an astrological sign identical to my father, mother, and step-father.. wierd!..

    not to mention.... when I did date women I was more often attracted to darker women like my mom... but, most of the men I fell for were white brunettes like my dad... WIERD!!!
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    Feb 13, 2012 8:30 AM GMT
    I've often heard this and wondered the same. Frankly, I don't think any boy I've dated was similar to either of my parents. I'm the only one who's similar to my parents, lol.

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    Feb 13, 2012 8:31 AM GMT
    I think it could be, my first partner was so much like my mother it was scary, way scary, yet he had the same "look" as my dad.
    I still go for shorter, darker, hairy guys (like dad) and have often wondered if that because thats the opposite of me or some freaky father complex. Many of my friends (lesbian and gay) seem to do the same as in have boy/girlfriends, partners, hook ups that are the physical opposite of themselves.
    I take after my mums blonde, dutch, tall side of the family.
    Interestingly my brother in law is a lot like my father and my sister is a lot like his mother.
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    Feb 13, 2012 8:56 AM GMT
    dontellmeyorhot said my first partner was so much like my mother it was scary, way scary, yet he had the same "look" as my dad.

    Interestingly my brother in law is a lot like my father and my sister is a lot like his mother.


    Yup thats exactly what I mean!!!

    And I imagine that among them homosexuals... the parent-like characteristics get a lot more complicated, since we do not look for exact copies of our parents, but rather probably the look of our same-sex parent combined with the personality traits of our opposite-sex parent...

    That pretty much sums up my theory.. and it seems to fit for a kind of "blueprint" of the guys I fall for, having a physical appearance more like my father's, but with personalities more like my mother's... (though its been a bit mixed, but that is the general rule)
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    Feb 13, 2012 8:57 AM GMT
    No. It's DEFINITELY not true for me.

    The only thing my father would share in common with any man I find attractive is most of the guys I like, are bright eyes... but bright eyes are now much more common than any other eye shade.
  • Suetonius

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    Feb 13, 2012 9:00 AM GMT
    Curious. When I reflect on it, I think my partner of many years has many traits that my father had - character and personality but not looks. OTOH, i was never close to my father, but am with my partner.
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    Feb 13, 2012 9:03 AM GMT
    TrevorMark saidbut bright eyes are now much more common than any other eye shade.


    O really? not around here lol
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    Feb 13, 2012 9:05 AM GMT
    GreenHopper said
    TrevorMark saidbut bright eyes are now much more common than any other eye shade.


    O really? not around here lol

    In all of the world dark eyes are now becoming the gene to die out. It's also with the genetics of the red hair gene. So, both brown eyes and red hair will be a rarity within 20-40 years it is predicted.
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    Feb 13, 2012 9:13 AM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    GreenHopper said
    TrevorMark saidbut bright eyes are now much more common than any other eye shade.


    O really? not around here lol

    In all of the world dark eyes are now becoming the gene to die out. It's also with the genetics of the red hair gene. So, both brown eyes and red hair will be a rarity within 20-40 years it is predicted.


    Dude,. your cray! Dark eyes are totally on the increase worldwide.. the population grows much more in Africa, Asia, and South America than in countries where light eyes predominate!
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    Feb 13, 2012 9:18 AM GMT
    GreenHopper said
    TrevorMark said
    GreenHopper said
    TrevorMark saidbut bright eyes are now much more common than any other eye shade.


    O really? not around here lol

    In all of the world dark eyes are now becoming the gene to die out. It's also with the genetics of the red hair gene. So, both brown eyes and red hair will be a rarity within 20-40 years it is predicted.


    Dude,. your cray! Dark eyes are totally on the increase worldwide.. the population grows much more in Africa, Asia, and South America than in countries where light eyes predominate!

    Not crazy. I've been reading up on it for quite some time. Dark eyes are becoming more and more recessive. They're thinking red hair will be the first to phase out.
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    Feb 13, 2012 9:26 AM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    GreenHopper said
    TrevorMark said
    GreenHopper said
    TrevorMark saidbut bright eyes are now much more common than any other eye shade.


    O really? not around here lol

    In all of the world dark eyes are now becoming the gene to die out. It's also with the genetics of the red hair gene. So, both brown eyes and red hair will be a rarity within 20-40 years it is predicted.


    Dude,. your cray! Dark eyes are totally on the increase worldwide.. the population grows much more in Africa, Asia, and South America than in countries where light eyes predominate!

    Not crazy. I've been reading up on it for quite some time. Dark eyes are becoming more and more recessive. They're thinking red hair will be the first to phase out.


    Im sorry, but Im looking this info up, and doing my own calculations.. its IMPOSSIBLE brown eyes to become rare in that time.. in fact, it is on the increase considering world birth rates.. for brown eyes to phase out, would require drastic shifts in the world population, that is not likely at this point

    Red hair yes, I know that it is becoming rarer.. but brown eyes you must be mistaken
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    Feb 13, 2012 9:40 AM GMT
    GreenHopper said
    TrevorMark said
    GreenHopper said
    TrevorMark said
    GreenHopper said
    TrevorMark saidbut bright eyes are now much more common than any other eye shade.


    O really? not around here lol

    In all of the world dark eyes are now becoming the gene to die out. It's also with the genetics of the red hair gene. So, both brown eyes and red hair will be a rarity within 20-40 years it is predicted.


    Dude,. your cray! Dark eyes are totally on the increase worldwide.. the population grows much more in Africa, Asia, and South America than in countries where light eyes predominate!

    Not crazy. I've been reading up on it for quite some time. Dark eyes are becoming more and more recessive. They're thinking red hair will be the first to phase out.


    Im sorry, but Im looking this info up, and doing my own calculations.. its IMPOSSIBLE brown eyes to become rare in that time.. in fact, it is on the increase considering world birth rates.. for brown eyes to phase out, would require drastic shifts in the world population, that is not likely at this point

    Red hair yes, I know that it is becoming rarer.. but brown eyes you must be mistaken

    The argument is that Blue eyes and Hazel are becoming more and more dominant with the shifts of people through the countries. Different genes mixing with predominantly dark eyed cultures are causing "rarer" mutations. Though I may be wrong on the knowledge of years they're thinking brown will be rare in, I know I'm right with the red.

    Either way, we're way the fuck off topic. lmao.
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    Feb 13, 2012 9:46 AM GMT
    physically, no. emotionally and intellectually...maybe? i like steady, smart, goal-driven, forceful ppl, traits both my rents (and grandrents) passed on 2 me (instilled?).
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    Feb 13, 2012 11:04 AM GMT
    mmm na, I'm like my dad in many respects and don't find anyone like him (or me) attractive emotionally.

    Just to clarify that one, I don't find guys like me or my dad emotionally attractive for a dating kind of thing.

    Maybe my mother in some ways but they couldn't be considered being like her but many of the qualities she possessed in her earlier years I look for in others.
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    Feb 13, 2012 11:09 AM GMT
    Yep. There is a guy that I dated that didn't look like either of my parents, but his personality was just like my Mother's. Down to the same irritating shit that she does and says. icon_evil.gif

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    Feb 13, 2012 11:11 AM GMT
    I'd probably be attracted to a guy like my dad. I'd hope I never date anyone like my mom...
  • hartfan

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    Feb 13, 2012 1:30 PM GMT
    Both physically and personality, none of the people I've liked were anything like my parents. In fact, they might just be about as far different from them as you could go.
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    Feb 13, 2012 1:39 PM GMT
    My parents are both white Americans... so no, not really so far
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    Feb 13, 2012 1:45 PM GMT
    Personality-wise maybe. I had one crazy needy mother figure of a grandma, and stable admirable father figure of a grandpa to raise me. Would explain more than half of the guys I've dated.
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    Feb 13, 2012 1:46 PM GMT
    i would never go for people like my parentsicon_mad.gif
  • Nayro

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    Feb 13, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    totally doesnt apply to me icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    I can see elements in the personality, but not physically.
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    Feb 13, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    There are traits and mannerisms of my parents that I see in men I date. I remember walking behind this guy I used to date who walked exactly like my father! Another guy's habits were strikingly similar to my mom's, it was uncanny.

    Not to derail the topic but GreenHopper is right, brown eyes are the dominant genes and will be the only eye color as will brunettes in the distant future. "Light" colored eyes and hair will die out. In fact, skin and language will also be neutralized but that's further into the future.

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    Feb 13, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    Yup, I like blonds like my mom.
  • vintovka

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    Feb 13, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    I think it's natural that we are attracted to people who seem familiar to us, but having said that I hope I get someone who mirrors the better traits of my parents, rather than their weak points (in terms of personality, etc.)