I suppose that's why it feels like I get messaged all the time... because I'm not expecting to get messaged. Sometimes that turns into flirting, but only once have I ever imagined "hey I can go meet this guy!"
well, my time is too valuable to be messaging guys back and forth and opening private pics if there's no intentions on meeting. Especially if they are local. I weed a lot of guys out because I expect to meet within a week if possible of chatting. If they don't actually do it, I assume they are just playing with the possibility of meeting to see if someone actually would...and I don't have time for that.
I can get in the car, drive down to a bar and dance/drink and flirt in real life. Not saying you can't either...but I rather do it face to face. It's just a tease online.
TriAthInCA said If they didn't feel compelled to leave a msg after checking out your pics and profile, chances are, they are not interested.
I have to agree with you that the quality of the guys on here, compared to other sites, is much higher. And I guess my location makes it more possible to use this as a dating site. It tough though cause I get msg by more non locals, then locals.
Not always though...
I've alot of guys on other sites namely adam4adam where guys have looked at me but were shy about making the 1st move. So I emailed them a little compliment and they were all interested. Doesn't always work, but it's better chance than emailing someone who DIDN'T look at you at all.
Location makes a lot of difference I would think. For example, I threw up a profile on 1 site in Kansas City. With 1 day, I already have a potential date set up for when I get there. And the guy actually emailed me last year on another site LOL. I also had about 14 emails in 1 night as well.
On the other hand, the guys who've attempted to meet in Denver seem like insular neanderthals who just descended down the mountains and have no clue how to use the internet to meet people. Just clueless. Like hello! Get with the program. Hookup/dating sites are meant to MEET OTHER PEOPLE, not put on a profile and PRETEND like you want to meet. It's not a fucking video game.