He smokes weed all day and all night

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    Feb 14, 2012 5:53 AM GMT
    For you weed smokers out there, I'm dating a dude who smokes all the time with friends. Sometimes all day, all night back to back. I smoke sometimes but I decline a lot more than I will smoke. Is regular life not good enough, is being sober that bad? I'm trying to understand the need for constant weed. So what up, tell me something.
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    Feb 14, 2012 5:55 AM GMT
    good bye
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    Feb 14, 2012 5:56 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidKick his shit to the curb.
    Agreed..

    I dated a guy similar and finally it got to the point I had to ask him.. what do you love more, me or your weed? Ya know what he said and then I did? Take a guess!
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    Feb 14, 2012 5:57 AM GMT
    Wait a minute.. didnt the OP just start a thread about dating some guy in the closet? I smell a troll!

    Edited.. Now I KNOW the OP is a TROLL! Go read his 'other' posts/threads.
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    Feb 14, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    It's the same fucking guy. Just because he smokes weed has nothing to do with the closet.
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:01 AM GMT
    What is this dumb troll shit. Yes, he's in the closet, but he also smokes mad weed. I just said I wanted to understand the need for it, not that it's a problem for me. It's not.
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:01 AM GMT
    citylightsatnight saidHe's not all that bad, he just likes his bud.

    So what's the point of this thread?
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:02 AM GMT
    Let me get this straight, If you discuss more than one problem you are having with a dude you get labeled as this "troll" thing. OMG GAYS. Real life is drama and online is drama. Geez.
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:04 AM GMT
    citylightsatnight saidLet me get this straight, If you discuss more than one problem you are having with a dude you get labeled as this "troll" thing. OMG GAYS. Real life is drama and online is drama. Geez.
    citylightsatnight saidHis behavior is quite normal for 18 and I speak from the college age perspective, I'm a senior in college, and what I face. Of course this isn't every 18 year old, but it is a great deal of them and he fits right in. It's all about drinking, weed and what have you at this age.

    I have plenty of friends who drink and smoke all day in between classes and they treat their boyfriends just like you are being treated. There is no concept of time, hence he may call you once a week, twice a week or not at all and when he does call you he expects nothing to have changed and you to be mad at it. That's normal kid communication.

    We have no concept of commitment or emotional responsibility because we have yet to really be held accountable for anything because we are still babied in college and even though we are 18-23 year old, we get to continue acting like kids without any real consequences.

    At 18 we are just discovering our beauty and sexuality and it's power and sure we abuse that power, as you said he know's he's sexy and he's cocky about it. So what, he's a kid living in a totally different time of being out than you were, when you were 18.

    An 18 year old is convinced that he is an adult and should be treated as such and he is also convinced of his own maturity and ability to appropriately communicate and handle situations, but HELLO these are not normal adult behaviors you described they are normal kid behaviors.

    You've become infatuated and this is now an addiction. It will take every ounce of your being to pull your self out. Yes, it will hurt, yes you will only think of him for a while, but the good news is once you take that step and cut the cord it's just a matter of time before you wake up one day and realize that you're over the mountain.

    You are the adult, you're the one with a clear concept of behavior. You are the one who should be setting the pace and tone. Don't try to change him because it won't work. He will only resent you. Don't try to fall into his lifestyle because it's not appropriate for you at 32, even if you can tolerate it, it would be highly dysfunctional for you.

    Don't forget, it was just yesterday that he was in high school. He didn't just hit 18 armed with full emotional and communicative ability.

    Start the process of leaving. Stop responding to texts no matter how it crushes you on the inside, and it will hurt and crush and you'll obsess, but just stay strong. Reject all urges to call or text. He will get over it, he has the tiny attention span of an 18 year old mind. You, however, will take much longer to get over it, so you need to get started. I hope this works for you because I don't want you stuck in something this dysfunctional. Beauty should enhance your life not dominate it.
    You dont sound so 'naive' in this post!
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:05 AM GMT
    This post just got hijacked by dudes wailing on me calling me troll because I asked more than one question about the same dude. WTF.

    I just wanted to know from people who smoke weed, why they do it all the time. It's not a problem that he does it. I just want to understand it.

    The other shit about him being in the closet has nothing to do with this. The closet is the closet is the closet. Got damn!
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:07 AM GMT
    I responded to somebody else's situation. WE ALL TELL OTHER PEOPLE WHAT TO DO WITH THEIR SITUATIONS. But when it's us it's not so easy. We ask other people. It's easy to say what needs to be done when it's not you. When it's you it's hard to listen and do.
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:08 AM GMT
    citylightsatnight saidI just wanted to know from people who smoke weed, why they do it all the time. It's not a problem that he does it. I just want to understand it.

    Have you tried asking the guy you're dating?
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:12 AM GMT
    citylightsatnight saidI responded to somebody else's situation. WE ALL TELL OTHER PEOPLE WHAT TO DO WITH THEIR SITUATIONS. But when it's us it's not so easy. We ask other people. It's easy to say what needs to be done when it's not you. When it's you it's hard to listen and do.
    And your asking what to do with a guy in the closet? You should ask that of yourself!
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:12 AM GMT
    Dudes going in: yourname2000 going hard calling names and everything. I'm guessing he is the kind of man that's the reason most of us are here wondering what the heck to do. Rude, inconsiderate, name-calling, abusive, just all around charming.
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:13 AM GMT
    Uh, oh, Tropicalmark throwing some shots, I see u papi.
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    citylightsatnight saidUh, oh, Tropicalmark throwing some shots, I see u papi.
    I get called that many times..........icon_wink.gifAh, pues bien !
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:19 AM GMT
    But tropicmark for though, it's not that i'm trying to be naive, i want to know what other people think I should do about dude. I like dude, but there's bull shit to deal with. And come on, you've never had a friend you had to be like dump dude to? Then the tables are turned and your friend has to tell you to dump dude and you ignore it? I think we all know what we need to do, we just get stuck.
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:22 AM GMT
    citylightsatnight saidBut tropicmark for though, it's not that i'm trying to be naive, i want to know what other people think I should do about dude. I like dude, but there's bull shit to deal with. And come on, you've never had a friend you had to be like dump dude to? Then the tables are turned and your friend has to tell you to dump dude and you ignore it? I think we all know what we need to do, we just get stuck.
    Hint:

    I dont deal with bullshit. Period. Its about ME, not them!
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:28 AM GMT
    MJ is not a drug, there is no LD/50 achievable for any human besides a chain smoking spider with rapid reload capabilities.

    Trying to understand his constant need for weed? You are boring as fuck and likely unattractive since you don't have a default face photo.

    Come back when you are more interesting and worth talking to as a human being,

    That's what is up. I just told you something.
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    Feb 14, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
    citylightsatnight saidFor you weed smokers out there, I'm dating a dude who smokes all the time with friends. Sometimes all day, all night back to back. I smoke sometimes but I decline a lot more than I will smoke. Is regular life not good enough, is being sober that bad? I'm trying to understand the need for constant weed. So what up, tell me something.


    it's called addiction. case in point i smoke a pack a day (not because i need to or necessarily have to) but rather because I'M ADDICTED TO NICOTINE. It's a drug and some people have addictive personalities where they can get easily hooked on shit, if he claims it ain't a problem see how long he can go without the stuff before he cracks.
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    Feb 14, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    Why would you want to make your life difficult? If you choose to stay with him, you deserve whatever you get back from him.
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    Feb 14, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    Not cool not cool.
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    Feb 14, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    leave his sorry ass
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    Feb 15, 2012 12:01 AM GMT
    I could never deal with someone all weeded out ALL THE TIME....
    plus, once that smell gets in your cloths it stays there..........