Insanity In Vanity


  • Feb 14, 2012 8:27 PM GMT
    Most gay/bisexual men I've encountered are narcissistic. There's nothing wrong with being sexy and pretty but where do we draw the line? When does vanity take a backseat to personality and intellect or is a sexy persona your driven motivation?
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    Feb 14, 2012 8:50 PM GMT
    I think it becomes too much when one's desire to be good looking/fit interferes with the rest of their daily functions and interpersonal relations. As long as someone is nice to every one else despite the fact that they may resemble a rotting tree stump, and working out, eating healthy, buying clothes, grooming themselves etc doesn't get in the way of their job or other obligations then I think they're fine.
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    Feb 14, 2012 9:11 PM GMT
    when a person becomes so fixated with fueling their egos and obsessing about their looks that appearance becomes the soul most important aspect in their life and/or quest for "love" it becomes a very empty way to live, to choose beauty over happiness is a very empty way to live and won't leave them satisfied for long sadly, people would rather be miserable and beautiful then happy

  • Feb 14, 2012 10:49 PM GMT
    You guys hit the nail on the head, this is a dead topic now lol. Thank you
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    Feb 15, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    Not dead to me.

    I think there's a difference between taking care of yourself and obsessing over it.

    There's the difference between what you've accomplished in your physique, intellect, altruism, and being proud of something you didn't accomplish such as your facial structure.

    There's the difference between personal growth and the trying to match yourself to whatever the media is bombarding you with on a minute by minute basis. Gay culture advertises with naked men because it sells products. That aspirational approach is something many are not taught to be aware of. "If I buy those new 2-xist underwear, I'll be as sexy as the model in the picture."
    Conversely, if you devote all your time and effort into looking as spectacular as possible, you will have tremendous deficits in what makes a great man. If however, that simple an approach to the way that you live gets you all the sex you want with all the men you want and that's enough; well then, enjoy your life until age deprives you of it, and any substantial life skills you could have been developing have left you spiritually* bankrupt, angry and alone (friendless), blaming the rest of the world for your own intellectual, cultural and spiritual* laziness.

    * I don't mean in the religious sense, although if that's what you wish to ascribe to it, feel free.
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    Feb 15, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    You're hanging out with the wrong people.
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    Feb 15, 2012 12:46 AM GMT
    silverblaze999 saidMost gay/bisexual men I've encountered are narcissistic.
    You just haven't met me. I'm much too beautiful and awesome to be narcissistic.