I Just Completely Contradicted Myself

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    Feb 15, 2012 8:06 PM GMT
    Wow. I've never felt so disappointed in my behavior ever. Yesterday I woke up at like 10 and laid in bed until 12 sort of depressed about Valentine's Day (No big deal I always celebrate it being sad). Basically my argument and frustration falls under the fact that I never meet any guys. If it's not a hookup app/website it doesn't happen. I've never had a boyfriend and I blame it on the fact that I don't like clubs and gay guys are hard to find here in public. So this morning i was supposed to go pay for the mattress I ordered on the phone. I put on blue jeans, casual shoes, and a black jacket. Not even trying to look special or impressive because I'm just going to pay for a stupid mattress. BIG MISTAKE. The sales guy at the desk was gorgeous, like my exact type of guy. About 6'2", 22ish, athletic, clean cut, and sexy. I sat down and as he was talking and watching him move I could tell that he wasn't straight. Not like flamboyant gay, but somehow I could just tell. I was taken off guard and I just sat there and went through the process of paying for the mattress. I didn't smile or attempt to engage him in conversation at all. I just completely blew such a rare opportunity that I never get. Now I just feel stupid and like I'm a hypocrite.
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    Feb 15, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    I think the root of all your troubles is that you keep doing this:

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    When you should be doing this:

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    I use this imagery because when you were here before you never took the advice of written posts that mentioned this.
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    Feb 15, 2012 8:34 PM GMT
    I don't like bars or clubs.

    I've had a ten year relationship from the age of 18 to 27.

    We ended.

    a few months (or was it weeks) later I started seeing a new guy.

    Seen him for almost a year.

    Broke up with him.

    Now I'm seeing another guy, w are almost at 7 months.

    if I wasn't his first and I wasn't moving to Brisbane, he'd be a keeper icon_smile.gif

    I think your problem is you.
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    Feb 15, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    You could always go back and start off with "Hey thanks for your help yesterday blah blah" and take it from there.

    Or you could be cheesy/creepy. It's a mattress store so there's really no end to bad pick up lines.
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    Feb 15, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidI don't like bars or clubs.

    I've had a ten year relationship from the age of 18 to 27.

    I think your problem is you.


    What the fuck does your relationship history have to with the OP? How many gay guys do you know get married at 18 and divorce at 27? I personally know of none in real life.

    You're also in Australia (I assume the entirety of your dating life) which is far fetched from the deep south United States. There's different upbringings, morals and levels of being 'out'.

    Dahas saidYou could always go back and start off with "Hey thanks for your help yesterday blah blah" and take it from there.

    Or you could be cheesy/creepy. It's a mattress store so there's really no end to bad pick up lines.


    I disagree...

    look, the guy is at work. It's unlikely; even if he's gay...that he's going to be handing out his number at work. It's just not professional. And even worse is to go backwards and show up the next day. It's kinda creepy, and kinda desperate and if the guy turns out to have a boyfriend like most gay people who actually have a job/car/their own place (God why)...he's gonna feel like a fool.

    OP, don't worry about it being a missed opportunity. Picking guys up at work has always been the least successful way of trying to meet a guy. Better off online or at bar.
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    Feb 16, 2012 12:53 AM GMT
    Mattress stores are great places to get large, heavy-duty plastic...the old mattress bag... to cover large objects. Go back to the store like you need one of their plastic mattress bags to cover something.
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    Feb 16, 2012 12:54 AM GMT
    I absolutely agree with Adrien - - you want to get back to that store! Just let him know you appreciated all his great service the other day, and you wondered if he'd like to have dinner with you some evening?

    If I were in his shoes and you came in and said those words - my answer would definitely be yes.

    Let us know how it goes, and go get him!
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    Feb 16, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    i always try to look my best whenever i go out in public, even if i am just going to buy something, i don't do it to attract guys but for meicon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 16, 2012 1:08 AM GMT
    TallJock said
    lilTanker saidI don't like bars or clubs.

    I've had a ten year relationship from the age of 18 to 27.

    I think your problem is you.


    What the fuck does your relationship history have to with the OP? How many gay guys do you know get married at 18 and divorce at 27? I personally know of none in real life.

    You're also in Australia (I assume the entirety of your dating life) which is far fetched from the deep south United States. There's different upbringings, morals and levels of being 'out'.

    Dahas saidYou could always go back and start off with "Hey thanks for your help yesterday blah blah" and take it from there.

    Or you could be cheesy/creepy. It's a mattress store so there's really no end to bad pick up lines.


    I disagree...

    look, the guy is at work. It's unlikely; even if he's gay...that he's going to be handing out his number at work. It's just not professional. And even worse is to go backwards and show up the next day. It's kinda creepy, and kinda desperate and if the guy turns out to have a boyfriend like most gay people who actually have a job/car/their own place (God why)...he's gonna feel like a fool.

    OP, don't worry about it being a missed opportunity. Picking guys up at work has always been the least successful way of trying to meet a guy. Better off online or at bar.


    icon_rolleyes.gif and icon_confused.gif and icon_lol.gif throughout this whole post... Wow you have a tiny tiny brain.
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    Feb 16, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    TallJock said
    lilTanker saidI don't like bars or clubs.

    I've had a ten year relationship from the age of 18 to 27.

    I think your problem is you.


    What the fuck does your relationship history have to with the OP? How many gay guys do you know get married at 18 and divorce at 27? I personally know of none in real life.

    You're also in Australia (I assume the entirety of your dating life) which is far fetched from the deep south United States. There's different upbringings, morals and levels of being 'out'.

    Dahas saidYou could always go back and start off with "Hey thanks for your help yesterday blah blah" and take it from there.

    Or you could be cheesy/creepy. It's a mattress store so there's really no end to bad pick up lines.


    I disagree...

    look, the guy is at work. It's unlikely; even if he's gay...that he's going to be handing out his number at work. It's just not professional. And even worse is to go backwards and show up the next day. It's kinda creepy, and kinda desperate and if the guy turns out to have a boyfriend like most gay people who actually have a job/car/their own place (God why)...he's gonna feel like a fool.

    OP, don't worry about it being a missed opportunity. Picking guys up at work has always been the least successful way of trying to meet a guy. Better off online or at bar.


    Man your post reeks of negativity and projected insecurities!
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    Feb 16, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    Well he was in customer service mode. I should've worked to engage him in a way where he could talk personally with me. I barely did anything other than sign papers and swipe my moms debit card icon_evil.gif
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    Feb 16, 2012 6:08 AM GMT
    TallJock said
    lilTanker saidI don't like bars or clubs.

    I've had a ten year relationship from the age of 18 to 27.

    I think your problem is you.


    What the fuck does your relationship history have to with the OP? How many gay guys do you know get married at 18 and divorce at 27? I personally know of none in real life.

    You're also in Australia (I assume the entirety of your dating life) which is far fetched from the deep south United States. There's different upbringings, morals and levels of being 'out'.

    Really Mr oh so awesome!

    What does my dating life have to do with anything.

    Well, people are always bitching about not finding a boyfriend, not being able to find a date, not being able to meet men.

    Well, ya know, when you put your self out there and enjoy life and actually have the balls to go up and talk to a man, your going to get what you want.

    My personal dating history is because I had to balls to put my self into uncomfortable situations and make something happen, rather then sitting dumbfounded because some guy was infront of me and I wasn't looking all pretty.

    You need to actually look at Australia's population, we are a small population in a big landmass and we are very spread out. In comparison to when I went to the US and drove around through a lot of hickville.

    Plus this is 2012, if I can find a fag in the middle of no where in Australia, you can find one in the "deep south" and actually make a move!