Would it matter? ? ? ?

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    Feb 15, 2012 11:15 PM GMT
    icon_eek.gif:Would it matter if a guy your getting to know wear's diapers because he has a urinary incontinence problem,icon_exclaim.gif,it's not like he's wearing them for the fun,but for a problem,,would it bother you to go out with some one like thaticon_question.gifAND would you be willing to see him in his diaper.icon_redface.gif
  • BmwKid92

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    Feb 15, 2012 11:16 PM GMT
    ............yes, yes it would
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    Feb 15, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    omggg lol
    that would be the weirdest thing ever
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    Feb 16, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    very sad but yes it would bother me.
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    Feb 16, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    Why would it be a decisive factor? I mean if he's a nice guy then fuck it!
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    Feb 16, 2012 4:43 AM GMT
    wooohhh....glad I've only attracted guys in good health icon_confused.gif
  • starboard5

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    Feb 16, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    If I liked the guy, no it wouldn't be a deal breaker by any means. I once dated a guy briefly (I'll explain) who had an ileostomy. He had developed ulcerative colitis when he was 18, had multiple bowel resections over the years, and had eventually had a total colectomy. He wore a bag to collect the waste. It didn't bother me at all. I'm a surgical nurse and there isn't much about the body that I haven't seen.

    He was very self conscious about it; didn't even want to take his shirt off in front of me the first time we had sex. He also didn't have a rectum...sewn shut down there, so that limited the menu. But we had some of the best sex I've ever had because he understood it's all about process.

    He was a great guy and I really wanted to see where it might go, but we only dated for a month. His take was that it was all too disappointing for him; he felt like "damaged goods," and he just didn't want to deal with it. He would rather cut me off. I came to see that it didn't matter how much I was all right with everything because I wasn't the one who had to deal with it. There wasn't anything I could do.

    So I would tell you, if you really like this guy and think there is some mileage possible in your relationship, don't let his physical problems stop you from going ahead with it. Decide first of all if you, yourself, are all right with his limitations and if you are, give him as much assurance as you can. Good connections don't fall out of the trees. If you find one, you're fortunate.

    I wish the best for you both.
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    Feb 16, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    It would probably bother me at first, but if he has other good qualities then I perhaps maybe able to look it over. I say, if you truly like the guy, give him a shot. Who knows what you might miss????
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    Feb 16, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
    starboard5 saidIf I liked the guy, no it wouldn't be a deal breaker by any means. I once dated a guy briefly (I'll explain) who had an ileostomy. He had developed ulcerative colitis when he was 18, had multiple bowel resections over the years, and had eventually had a total colectomy. He wore a bag to collect the waste. It didn't bother me at all. I'm a surgical nurse and there isn't much about the body that I haven't seen.

    He was very self conscious about it; didn't even want to take his shirt off in front of me the first time we had sex. He also didn't have a rectum...sewn shut down there, so that limited the menu. But we had some of the best sex I've ever had because he understood it's all about process.

    He was a great guy and I really wanted to see where it might go, but we only dated for a month. His take was that it was all too disappointing for him; he felt like "damaged goods," and he just didn't want to deal with it. He would rather cut me off. I came to see that it didn't matter how much I was all right with everything because I wasn't the one who had to deal with it. There wasn't anything I could do.

    So I would tell you, if you really like this guy and think there is some mileage possible in your relationship, don't let his physical problems stop you from going ahead with it. Decide first of all if you, yourself, are all right with his limitations and if you are, give him as much assurance as you can. Good connections don't fall out of the trees. If you find one, you're fortunate.

    I wish the best for you both.


    Wow.
    I volunteer in palliative care and elder care, and yes, you sure see everything.
    I'm so sorry this happened to you!

    *admiring your advice*

    -Doug


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    Feb 16, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    It wouldn't stop me. We each have things that will be happening to us in life - - some light and easy and some very serious. Imagine having a partner who suffers a stroke or loses a limb? I'd still love him - - - maybe even more so.
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    Feb 16, 2012 5:34 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidIt would probably bother me at first, but if he has other good qualities then I perhaps maybe able to look it over. I say, if you truly like the guy, give him a shot. Who knows what you might miss????



    even though i am to sexy for him, i agree with what he saysicon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 16, 2012 5:35 AM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidIt wouldn't stop me. We each have things that will be happening to us in life - - some light and easy and some very serious. Imagine having a partner who suffers a stroke or loses a limb? I'd still love him - - - maybe even more so.



    Man, I love you for this.

    -Doug

    lol, note to self, never underestimate what can come of an odd topic.

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    Feb 16, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    Just don't let him drink anything after 8:00 pm... otherwise you need to get plastic sheets.
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    Feb 16, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
    starboard5 saidIf I liked the guy, no it wouldn't be a deal breaker by any means. I once dated a guy briefly (I'll explain) who had an ileostomy. He had developed ulcerative colitis when he was 18, had multiple bowel resections over the years, and had eventually had a total colectomy. He wore a bag to collect the waste. It didn't bother me at all. I'm a surgical nurse and there isn't much about the body that I haven't seen.

    He was very self conscious about it; didn't even want to take his shirt off in front of me the first time we had sex. He also didn't have a rectum...sewn shut down there, so that limited the menu. But we had some of the best sex I've ever had because he understood it's all about process.

    He was a great guy and I really wanted to see where it might go, but we only dated for a month. His take was that it was all too disappointing for him; he felt like "damaged goods," and he just didn't want to deal with it. He would rather cut me off. I came to see that it didn't matter how much I was all right with everything because I wasn't the one who had to deal with it. There wasn't anything I could do.

    So I would tell you, if you really like this guy and think there is some mileage possible in your relationship, don't let his physical problems stop you from going ahead with it. Decide first of all if you, yourself, are all right with his limitations and if you are, give him as much assurance as you can. Good connections don't fall out of the trees. If you find one, you're fortunate.

    I wish the best for you both.


    You are a beautiful soul and restored a bit of my faith in humanity. Thank you icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 16, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
    If he's good in every way you like, than the diaper is just a diaper. What if you met someone your age now, who didn't need it; but in time it became necessary? Wouldn't you just push it aside. You'd already have a connection with the guy.

    On the other hand, unless he had had a fetish for such things and it weirded you out; you'd better make sure you leave before you're wearing that diaper on your head!
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    Feb 16, 2012 5:47 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidIt would probably bother me at first, but if he has other good qualities then I perhaps maybe able to look it over. I say, if you truly like the guy, give him a shot. Who knows what you might miss????


    +1
    Couldn't say it better myself!
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Feb 16, 2012 5:49 AM GMT
    I think the ultimate determining factor would boil down to how much you care about the guy, the chemistry you have, and if there was attraction regardless of the incontinent issue. It's easy to answer a hypothetical and say it would or would not matter, but I don't really think you know for sure until you're in that position with someone you're dating.
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    Feb 16, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    Cricketman saidicon_eek.gif:Would it matter if a guy your getting to know wear's diapers because he has a urinary incontinence problem,icon_exclaim.gif,it's not like he's wearing them for the fun,but for a problem,,would it bother you to go out with some one like thaticon_question.gifAND would you be willing to see him in his diaper.icon_redface.gif


    lol well at some point it would matter but I wouldn't look at him any differently especially if he can't control it.
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    Feb 16, 2012 8:27 AM GMT
    I gave a guy in a wheelchair a chance... until he lied about a few details and then yeah... no go. It wouldn't bother me if he was a good guy and I understood what the situation was. Depends on a few things. I mean if you didnt notice it until he told you why care now?
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    Feb 16, 2012 12:20 PM GMT
    No, it wouldn't matter.
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    Feb 16, 2012 12:30 PM GMT
    No it wouldn't matter.
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    Feb 16, 2012 1:56 PM GMT
    wow. I dunno if i could handle it but props to the guy who's man enough to tell you.