Gay is so lonely for me!

  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 16, 2012 1:49 PM GMT
    why i'm feel so lonely? I dont know what will it be if I turned to 30 or 40 years old while I still couldn't find someone to live like family.

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    Feb 16, 2012 1:54 PM GMT
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  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 16, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
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    that's so cute from you!
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    Feb 16, 2012 2:27 PM GMT
    Hm, don't worry you are not the only one who feels lonely these days. And if I can't find a boyfriend now so I don't want to think what will happen after I turn 30 or 40.
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    Feb 16, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    Lovely video. Loneliness is underrated, there's a lot to be said for being alone. Plus to me, whether you're putting on a cheerful face for the benefit of someone visiting you in the hospital or married, relationships are work. Coupled for 20 years and alone for now, unlike friends in similar situations I never worry nor complain about growing old and dying alone, I like being alone, and even after seeking out community on the web I found I can go for months without it. I don't think there's anything fundamentally wrong with me but if it helps, perhaps it's better feeling the way you do so embrace it.
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    Feb 16, 2012 4:43 PM GMT
    Most will remain single because we are so picky. icon_lol.gif

    Also i agree, relationship is work, stress and worrying. Stay single have friends and enjoy your life LOL
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    Feb 18, 2012 8:49 AM GMT
    seanhex saidMost will remain single because we are so picky. icon_lol.gif

    Also i agree, relationship is work, stress and worrying. Stay single have friends and enjoy your life LOL


    I´m not picky. I just want someone I find attractive who finds me attractive. Any less picky than that is desperate.
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    Feb 18, 2012 9:06 AM GMT
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    Feb 18, 2012 9:08 AM GMT
    Lostboy said
    seanhex saidMost will remain single because we are so picky. icon_lol.gif

    Also i agree, relationship is work, stress and worrying. Stay single have friends and enjoy your life LOL


    I´m not picky. I just want someone I find attractive who finds me attractive. Any less picky than that is desperate.

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    Feb 18, 2012 9:13 AM GMT
    In my expereince you will actually be more likely to find a stable resposnbile relationship as you get into your 30's and 40's tha n you will in your 20's since most guys at that age are still getting a grip on being gay and are in a perpetual "slut phase."

    More importantly, do not confuse being lonely with being in a relationship. Get out and enjoy being with other guys. Granted, if you are like me and don't drink, smoke or use recreational drugs, your pool of potential (gay) friends may be somewhat smaller, but you can still amke some good friends and maybe even meet a guy who wants to date and will take it serioiusly.
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    Feb 18, 2012 9:55 AM GMT
    Kobe_Whisky saidwhy i'm feel so lonely? I dont know what will it be if I turned to 30 or 40 years old while I still couldn't find someone to live like family.

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    Maybe part of the reason is that your relying on other people to be happy. I think you made a similar topic the other night. What have you done to try and meet guys and what have you done to try and make yourself happy about being single?
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    Feb 18, 2012 10:03 AM GMT
    Not to pile on to the poster above, but you'd probably be lonely whatever your sexual persuasion.

    Don't blame it on being gay. Get your ass out there and meet some people.....
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    Feb 18, 2012 11:55 AM GMT
    Shawnathan saidThis has been shared on here before, but it's worth sharing again.



    That was the most beautiful video I've seen in a long time. Thanks for sharing.

    To the poster, I know how you feel. It's normal to be lonely. It's not because you're gay. It's because love has always been hard to find. Hope it comes soon for you.
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    Feb 18, 2012 12:29 PM GMT
    i'm sure a white man will come swoop you off your feet someday.
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    Feb 18, 2012 12:53 PM GMT

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    Whether a person is gay or straight, some of us make friends easily, while some of us do not.
    And, it's the same with finding a partner.

    Until then, get a pet, and shower it with love.
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    Feb 18, 2012 1:07 PM GMT
    closer85 saidi'm sure a white man will come swoop you off your feet someday.


    Lol why does it have to be a white man?
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    Feb 18, 2012 1:54 PM GMT
    Lostboy said
    seanhex saidMost will remain single because we are so picky. icon_lol.gif

    Also i agree, relationship is work, stress and worrying. Stay single have friends and enjoy your life LOL


    I´m not picky. I just want someone I find attractive who finds me attractive. Any less picky than that is desperate.


    i'm in the same boat. not looking for perfection- we're all flawed and have annoying traits and habits, and baggage- but its definitely not easy having standards and sticking to them. i mean, basic things like communicativeness, maturity, direction in life, masculinity, the ability to be monogamous.... add realistically good looks and an athletic body, and you've got yourself a gay unicorn lol.
  • a303guy

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    Feb 18, 2012 1:58 PM GMT
    MuscledHorse saidIn my expereince you will actually be more likely to find a stable resposnbile relationship as you get into your 30's and 40's tha n you will in your 20's since most guys at that age are still getting a grip on being gay and are in a perpetual "slut phase."

    More importantly, do not confuse being lonely with being in a relationship. Get out and enjoy being with other guys. Granted, if you are like me and don't drink, smoke or use recreational drugs, your pool of potential (gay) friends may be somewhat smaller, but you can still amke some good friends and maybe even meet a guy who wants to date and will take it serioiusly.


    This is great advice....although I didn't really enter my 'slut phase' till I was about 40. ;)

    My .02 worth on this: Everyone's timing is unique, but as a few others have mentioned here, just putting yourself out there and meeting people does help. If you're not accustomed to the whole process of meeting people, it is a bit of a lifestyle change, but one that will help you in a rather broad way, including getting along with others in the workplace.

    I think being 'picky' about who you spend your time with, whether as friends/fuck buddies/relationship is appropriate, but being picky purely as a device to keep you from meeting people is a foolish internal prank and probably indicates some other more deeply seated fear.

    Like the OP, I was rather convinced that as my age progressed, I'd become less and less likely to ever meet someone to settle with. Now that I'm well into my 50's, I'm finding that to be completely incorrect. If you get your head screwed on correctly, you'll discover that too.
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    Feb 18, 2012 2:21 PM GMT
    It's all about how you live your life. Your values and beliefs will change in time. To be more practical.
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    Feb 18, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
    know_wunder saidIt's all about how you live your life. Your values and beliefs will change in time. To be more practical.


    The gays are social animals. Your loneliness is self imposed. Do something about it.
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 18, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    adam228 said
    Kobe_Whisky saidwhy i'm feel so lonely? I dont know what will it be if I turned to 30 or 40 years old while I still couldn't find someone to live like family.

    boys,dp,fashion,guy,hot,lonely-cbd75fec9


    Maybe part of the reason is that your relying on other people to be happy. I think you made a similar topic the other night. What have you done to try and meet guys and what have you done to try and make yourself happy about being single?


    yeah..you're right...i put all my happiness with my love (my boy). after he left me, i always found myself lose..so I should build myself happy by being single..
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 18, 2012 2:56 PM GMT
    sdgman said
    know_wunder saidIt's all about how you live your life. Your values and beliefs will change in time. To be more practical.


    The gays are social animals. Your loneliness is self imposed. Do something about it.


    what do you mean by something?...I need to get out of this loneliness. Im getting scared when I become older and older if Im still in this situation
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 18, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    closer85 saidi'm sure a white man will come swoop you off your feet someday.


    Lol why does it have to be a white man?


    Physically, I fall in love with white man or Latino..i know im suck while im an Asian but I had that feeling
  • a303guy

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    Feb 18, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    Kobe_Whisky said
    Aggieboy said
    closer85 saidi'm sure a white man will come swoop you off your feet someday.


    Lol why does it have to be a white man?


    Physically, I fall in love with white man or Latino..i know im suck while im an Asian but I had that feeling


    You're a very handsome man Kobe - why beat on yourself like that?
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    Feb 18, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    sdgman said
    know_wunder saidIt's all about how you live your life. Your values and beliefs will change in time. To be more practical.


    The gays are social animals. Your loneliness is self imposed. Do something about it.

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    aaah we the gays are social animals. Is that why so many of us... the gays are into threesomes and groupsex?