A TRAIT OF BEING GAY..... Living in a clean house?

  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 16, 2012 1:54 PM GMT
    So had a straight female friend of mine said to me recently...

    "You have to be gay since you have such a clean and neat house.
    That'lll get you every time, Chris".

    I don't think it has anything to do with it. I know a number of straight guys, friends of mine who have a cleaner place than I.....

    I remember my mother encouraging me to make my bed when I was 6 and 7 years old. The bed is made everyday, unless I'm too sick to do it. I recall my older brother making fun of me, calling me a "cleaner boy" because I'd rather put forth the effort to run a clean house than it look like crap. I don't really like cleaning the house, it's just part of the process.
    My sister in law actually has fumed over my referencing my house as "an orderly establishment", actually inferring that somehow it was kind of "strange" to live in "a museum".

    I think it is really more of a personality trait, rather than anything involving sexuality.

    So are you a neat dude, middle of the road or in need of "basic training" when it comes to the care of your place? Just curious.
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    Feb 16, 2012 1:56 PM GMT
    middle of the road. Not very messy, but certainly not a neat freak.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 16, 2012 2:10 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidmiddle of the road. Not very messy, but certainly not a neat freak.


    Well not asking if one is one extreme or the other. I'm certainly no "neat freak".
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    Feb 16, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    Pretty clean, but not obsessive about it. I like things picked up and no dishes in the sink. I know of several untidy gay men, so it's definitely not a give-a-way.
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    Feb 16, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    My apartment generally looks like a disaster for half of the week, as I'm almost never home for a long period of time. I usually clean it up in time to destroy again icon_razz.gif

    I definitely reach a crisis point with being out of dishes, clothes etc., but for the most part I know no one is going to stop in unexpected, so its just me and mah dog icon_razz.gif

  • Feb 16, 2012 2:19 PM GMT
    Very "middle of the road" myself too. My place looks "lived in". Not a museum, but not untidy and sometimes in need of a good cleaning. My OCD takes care of a lot of the little things ... dishes in the sink bother me. Full trash cans have to be emptied .... clothes can be stored in the dryer until I need to wear them. lol
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    Feb 16, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    There is definitely not much of a correlation between sexual orientation and one's sense of cleanliness. The dirtiest, nastiest places I've been to were places where gays lived together! Ugh, the horror! I vividly remember those visits where I thought I would catch some terrible disease just from entering their apartment. I particularly remember this one apartment where a gay couple and their fruit fly/fag hag lived that was a disaster zone or biological hazard. All over their apartment they had dirty dishes, trash, clothes, and cigarette butts! It was the nastiest place I've ever entered in my life. Nightmare.

    I'm a clean freak because my mom is a clean freak. When I lived with my parents and became old enough to do all sorts of cleaning chores, I had to do things to my mom's standards icon_rolleyes.gif Many of her habits have stuck with me as an adult on my own, though certainly I've personalized some of my touches.
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    Feb 16, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    I get a lot "For a guy, your place is pretty clean" ... lol so I'm guessing I'm more middle of the road. I certainly don't think it's clean all the time.
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    Feb 16, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
    Both my partner and I are terrible at maintaining a tidy apartment. Dirty dishes pile up in the sink, there are crumbs all over the floor, laundry is strewn over every piece of furniture as if a washing machine just exploded. And a thick layer of dust blankets most of everything.

    We have an entire room dedicated to empty pizza boxes and milk cartons that wait half a year before going to a recycling center. There is a snake nest of cables on the floor next to the TV.

    My computer peaks out of a pile of paperwork and notepads filled with the kind of mad scribblings you'd find in the cell of an insane asylum.

    Were not bad people, but we wont be winning any neatest gay couple awards anytime soon.
  • calibro

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    Feb 16, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    depends on the room. my bedroom can get messy from time to time, but messy up my kitchen and i'll cut a bitch.
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    Feb 16, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
    Yeah, it's up there with the myth that all gay guys like shopping, fashion and only like hanging out with girls.

    They overly feminize gay men in order to make them appear less threatening. God forbid we could actually be like other straight men at times.

    You gotta love stereotypes though icon_biggrin.gif

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    Feb 16, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    Stuttershock saidBoth my partner and I are terrible at maintaining a tidy apartment. Dirty dishes pile up in the sink, there are crumbs all over the floor, laundry is strewn over every piece of furniture as if a washing machine just exploded. And a thick layer of dust blankets most of everything.

    We have an entire room dedicated to empty pizza boxes and milk cartons that wait half a year before going to a recycling center. There is a snake nest of cables on the floor next to the TV.

    My computer peaks out of a pile of paperwork and notepads filled with the kind of mad scribblings you'd find in the cell of an insane asylum.

    Were not bad people, but we wont be winning any neatest gay couple awards anytime soon.


    I judge people by their tidiness, and yes, you two are BAD people in my book icon_wink.gificon_razz.gif
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    Feb 16, 2012 2:49 PM GMT
    I tend towards living in a sanitized mess, but I make the effort to straighten up intermittently. I think I'm going to just get myself a Zoila.

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    My place is a mess, but I've always been on the messier side.
  • Buddha

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    Feb 16, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    If I didn't live with my boyfriend who encourages cleaning the apartment, I would live in a pile of everything, everywhere. The only thing that would be moderately clean would be the dishes, it's the one thing I hate seeing piling up, mostly cos of the smell.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Feb 16, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    I'm not obsessive about it, but definitely a neat-nick. I like to wake up with a clean house. If things are in disarray around me, then I feel in disarray. I am obsessed about the kitchen though...it's just got to be free of clutter and dirty anything...and my bathroom is usually pretty spotless. Hmmmm...okay, maybe I am a little obsessed icon_eek.gif Did I mention that one of my favorite possessions is my Oreck vacuum?

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    Feb 16, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    "After four years, you don't notice the dust." ~~Quentin Crisp
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    Feb 16, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    I'm always cleaning and tidying, people make fun of it. I just like things in their place.
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    Feb 16, 2012 3:35 PM GMT
    Middle of the round, except when it comes to the washroom and kitchen. I can't be in a house with a dirty kitchen or bathroom (or even dirty floors); it's disgusting.
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    Feb 16, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    I am a neat freak. Friends of mine always comment on how there is never even a water spot on my granite counters and how they always see the pattern in the carpet from the vacuum brush roll. When I lived with my parents I wasn't as bad as I am now, but I like a clean house. Keeps me sane in my chaotic world.
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    Feb 16, 2012 3:52 PM GMT
    sweetyork saidMiddle of the round, except when it comes to the washroom and kitchen. I can't be in a house with a dirty kitchen or bathroom (or even dirty floors); it's disgusting.


    same here. i hate standing water where it shouldn't be standing. i also hate things that are laying around that could potentially rot. can't stand mold or stains that result from water, food, or anything that comes out of a person's body.

    i also can't stand cracks and crevices where thing could build up or get stuck. I absolutely hate bathrooms with those mini tiles. there are so many creases on the floor where things can get stuck. sick. Tiles on your shower wall? Why the hell would you do that? Scum will build up in between the tiles.

    You know how you can tell if someone is a thorough cleaner? You look under their faucet and see if there is rust or other types of stains. People usually forget to clean underneath there.

    i know, i have a problem.
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    Feb 16, 2012 3:58 PM GMT
    I just like having a clean house because I was raised in a clean house. I was taught that if I wanna have nice things and keep them in good condition then cleaning is the way to do that. Plus, it's just nice having a clean, fresh smelling house/apt or at least one that looks somewhat decent instead of looking like a slob.

    I'd have to agree with HndsmKansas and say it's more a personality trait than a sexuality one. It's definitely learned.

    You know you have a clean house when your friends would rather use your bathroom then their own. LOL.
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    Feb 16, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    It's not a gay thing, it's a male thing. The media has always perpetuated the image of men as slobs but ask any office janitor which restroom is filthier, the men's or the women's, and it's always the women's hands down. Remember college dorms? Ours were set up so four rooms shared one bathroom. The men's bathroom was always completely cleared out with nary a toothbrush in sight nor bar soap in the shower. The women's in their dorm? Razors on the shower floor, every vanity surface covered with toiletries and makeup residue, literal buckets of more toiletries and tampons stashed under the sinks in plain sight, wet laundry hanging over the stall doors. Yuck!
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    Feb 16, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    Good point. Most women's bathrooms are pretty damn dirty.
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    Feb 16, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    "You have to be gay since you have such a clean and neat house".

    Then I must be straight. I've always been a slob and a real headache for my mom.

    However right after Katrina and a few years after that, my attitude has changed and my house was razor-sharp clean and orderly. If there was a spot of water on the counter, I wiped it up. If a towel wasn't placed within reach just so, I'd move it in the correct position. If the bathroom rug didn't line up with the tiles, I adjusted it. My mom noticed and liked my new habits however quirky they were but soon she got tired of me nit-picking HER habits! Nothing was good enough. I was constantly battling people to put things back or leave things alone that people avoided me altogether.

    I had been traumatized by Katrina and I think it was my way of rebuilding. To put things "back in its place". The rug belongs HERE! The fork belongs THERE! The blanket has to be draped evenly on BOTH SIDES of the bed! Not washed away down the road or hanging in a tree or lost forever.

    It took me a long time to come to grips that I am okay, that I am survivor. Slowly my old habits returned. My coat hung crookedly, the plates stacked unevenly, and my family and friends returned to my home. Even my mom who was always at her wits over my mess was glad to see my old self again.