Best Friend Approval

  • rex099

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    Feb 17, 2012 4:41 AM GMT
    So I was wondering how many guys on heretake thier best friend's advice really seriously...
    If there was a guy that you were seeing and really liked, but your best friend didn't like him for a specific reason (i.e. doesn't like his sense of humor) would that change how you saw the guy? just curious to see how guys on here would answer.

    For me it would be really hard I think if my best friend did not like the guy for a decent reason. I would want them to get along because they are both big parts of my life.
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    Feb 17, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    rex099 saidSo I was wondering how many guys on heretake thier best friend's advice really seriously...
    If there was a guy that you were seeing and really liked, but your best friend didn't like him for a specific reason (i.e. doesn't like his sense of humor) would that change how you saw the guy? just curious to see how guys on here would answer.

    For me it would be really hard I think if my best friend did not like the guy for a decent reason. I would want them to get along because they are both big parts of my life.


    Well hopefully they would realize that they were both a big part of your life and act like adults and get along.icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 17, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    I would take his opinion into account but in the end Im the one dating the guy, so Id try to look at it as objetctive as possible...
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    Feb 17, 2012 6:45 AM GMT
    I'm on the other side of fence, and I just can't bring myself to like the guy my best friend is dating. We've implicitly agreed to just hang out at separate times.

    It's not the best situation, but I figure... it's their prerogative to date someone, and it's mine to decide who I want to spend time with. Since I've experienced it on the other side, I'd understand if my best friend doesn't like -my- boyfriend.
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    Feb 17, 2012 6:47 AM GMT
    My best friend of almost 21 years has been in a relationship with someone I don't particularly like for the past year and a half. I've never expressed my dislike, I'm not going to, and I will always be polite to his bf and get along. I know and care enough about my best friend to let him make his own dating and relationship decisions. It's not my place.
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    Feb 17, 2012 6:49 AM GMT
    A_X91 saidI would take his opinion into account but in the end Im the one dating the guy, so Id try to look at it as objetctive as possible...


    ditto
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    Feb 17, 2012 9:43 AM GMT
    I do... Bro's before Hoes... beleive me... they know! I think the Spice Girls said it best... "IF YOU WANNA BE MY LOVER... YOU GOTTA GET WITH MY FRIENDS..."
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    Feb 17, 2012 9:47 AM GMT
    A_X91 saidI would take his opinion into account but in the end Im the one dating the guy, so Id try to look at it as objetctive as possible...

    +1
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    Feb 17, 2012 10:19 AM GMT
    Best friend not liking his sense of humor? No


    Best friend doesn't like him because he doesn't treat me well? That, if it's true would have to be seen about.


    Sometimes best friends point out what we are too love-struck to see. I would place importance on their opinion on that.

    Whether or not my best friend liked my boyfriends jokes, not so much.
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    Feb 17, 2012 1:37 PM GMT
    A_X91 saidI would take his opinion into account but in the end Im the one dating the guy, so Id try to look at it as objetctive as possible...


    agreed.
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    Feb 17, 2012 1:50 PM GMT
    I'm glad my husband didn't take the advice of his best friends about me. When we first met they were afraid I would take advantage of him in some way, as others before me had, that maybe he was too old to start a relationship again. At least he had friends who were protective and cared about him.

    Now we're all best friends, and their private name for me is "Saint Robert." They jokingly thank me for "taking him off our hands." But if he had initially listened to them we wouldn't be together now, as he sometimes tells me himself (just to get me to give him an extra kiss, I suspect).

  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 17, 2012 1:52 PM GMT
    I think you need to consider the viewpoint carefully... give it reasonable consideration... but your dates (or bf prospects) shouldn't be based on the input of your best friend. Talking about power..... listen carefully and consider and make the decision that is right for you.... period.
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    Feb 17, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    best friends advices are always good. but the ultimate decision is still yours
  • tuffguyndc

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    Feb 17, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    humm, tough question. i think i would try to get them to work it out. if i could not do that i would just let them both know that they are both apart of my life and i will not choose sides. i would let them both know i care for them both and will have to just hang spend time with both separately
  • vintovka

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    Feb 17, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    Unless a friend is dating someone who is unhealthy for them (e.g. abusive) then I think it's my duty as their friend to be pleasant, civil, and welcoming to their choice of mate/date. I expect the same in return. In the end friendship will outlast the relationship most of the time.
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    Feb 17, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidMy best friend of almost 21 years has been in a relationship with someone I don't particularly like for the past year and a half. I've never expressed my dislike, I'm not going to, and I will always be polite to his bf and get along. I know and care enough about my best friend to let him make his own dating and relationship decisions. It's not my place.


    Yes.
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    Feb 17, 2012 4:11 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidMy best friend of almost 21 years has been in a relationship with someone I don't particularly like for the past year and a half. I've never expressed my dislike, I'm not going to, and I will always be polite to his bf and get along. I know and care enough about my best friend to let him make his own dating and relationship decisions. It's not my place.



    Wonderfully stated.

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    Feb 17, 2012 4:28 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidMy best friend of almost 21 years has been in a relationship with someone I don't particularly like for the past year and a half. I've never expressed my dislike, I'm not going to, and I will always be polite to his bf and get along. I know and care enough about my best friend to let him make his own dating and relationship decisions. It's not my place.

    I'm glad you're around because I love just quoting your responses. Saves me a ton of time and they're always spot on! We must be twins from different mothers!