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Do I look so bad that I cannot find a boyfriend?

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    QUOTE Feb 17, 2012 4:46 PM GMT
    Hej, guys!!!

    I was always thinking that I am not the ugliest guy in this world but since gays are so picky it seems that it is impossible to find someone. I even started to think that probably I do not look good enough icon_sad.gif

    Please be honest and give your thoughts.

    Come on icon_smile.gif
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    QUOTE Feb 17, 2012 4:48 PM GMT

    magnus87 you made a typo, but oddly, it's correct even though you don't think so.

    warmly,

    -Doug

    "it seems that it is not impossible to find someone."

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    QUOTE Feb 17, 2012 5:20 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    magnus87 you made a typo, but oddly, it's correct even though you don't think so.

    warmly,

    -Doug

    "it seems that it is not impossible to find someone."



    Thanks I have already corrected it. Shame on me icon_smile.gif
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    QUOTE Feb 17, 2012 5:23 PM GMT
    magnus87 said
    meninlove said
    magnus87 you made a typo, but oddly, it's correct even though you don't think so.

    warmly,

    -Doug

    "it seems that it is not impossible to find someone."



    Thanks I have already corrected it. Shame on me icon_smile.gif


    lol, but you were right the first time. It's NOT impossible for you to find someone! Or they will find you.
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    QUOTE Feb 17, 2012 6:18 PM GMT
    I know there's plenty of people who are acquaintances to me who would be...


    Keep searching. It sucks, yes... but goddamn. No one is hopeless in this day in age. There are more people alive today than have died... ever.
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    QUOTE Feb 17, 2012 7:34 PM GMT
    There is someone for EVERYONE out there. Gay guys are into every type of shape and flavor. You just have to find them.
  • I_Love_Juan Posts: 5
    QUOTE Feb 17, 2012 7:38 PM GMT
    a guy who consider the physical look is pathetic what inside is what matters
  • QUOTE Feb 17, 2012 8:12 PM GMT
    Here is honesty. You are not very goodlooking but you are not ugly either. Find someone similar. If you are looking for guys in your hot list, you will be really disappointed.

    I am not very goodlooking myself and neither is my partner. But we are happy.
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    QUOTE Feb 17, 2012 8:57 PM GMT
    mrpotatohunter saidHere is honesty. You are not very goodlooking but you are not ugly either. Find someone similar. If you are looking for guys in your hot list, you will be really disappointed.

    I am not very goodlooking myself and neither is my partner. But we are happy.


    well thanks for honesty. I appreciate that ;) I know myself that I am not Mister Universe and I do not have high expectations for a guy.


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    QUOTE Feb 17, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    There's always plastic surgery.
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    QUOTE Feb 18, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    magnus87 saidHej, guys!!!

    I was always thinking that I am not the ugliest guy in this world but since gays are so picky it seems that it is impossible to find someone. I even started to think that probably I do not look good enough icon_sad.gif

    Please be honest and give your thoughts.

    Come on icon_smile.gif


    You're far from being ugly by any stretch of the imagination! I'm no beauty myself but it never stopped me from having a relationship and eventually a 25 year partnership. It's easy to change your "look" with a different hairstyle, different glasses or getting contacts etc.. people do it all the time.
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    QUOTE Feb 18, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    OP I don't know your personality so I can't comment on that.. but as far as your looks go you have LOTS of potential.

    The first thing I thought was cut the hair and lose the glasses. From what I can tell in your facepic you could use more mass so start eating and hit the gym hard! You must be the guy you want to attract so become that guy!

    That facepic of you reminds me of this RealJocker with screen name
    MrCoach

    Look this guy up and have a gander at his pics. There is a pic of him back in the day when he was this scrawny ugly duckling.. but then he gained mass and now look at this studly brick shithouse. Do you think now he has trouble finding a date? hell no...

    Best of luck mate and go get em...
  • I_Love_Juan Posts: 5
    QUOTE Feb 18, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    you are not ugly, beside the face is just a part of the whole body......there are other parts too that counts, well i am not goodlooking myself but i have a very good looking boy that i am in love with and i live with, i am 23 and he is 21, so even if u think u r not good looking which is not true , u have a possibility to find someone cuter than u to be in love with u
  • I_Love_Juan Posts: 5
    QUOTE Feb 18, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    and i agree with Agieboy
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    QUOTE Feb 18, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    Thanks for all your comments and tips
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    QUOTE Feb 18, 2012 5:36 AM GMT
    I would say lose the glasses, and get a new hair-do. Maybe shave the sides to a 1, or just buzz the whole thing. A guy can never go wrong with a buzz cut.

    Look into buying a new wardrobe too. You don't have to be rich to look nice and fashionable.

    Of course, working out can do wonders too. If you can't afford the gym, do lots of cardio and work out at the park.

    This is all just for the outside. For the inside I say this, Fake it until you make it....icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
  • Rubycube Posts: 28
    QUOTE Feb 18, 2012 6:06 AM GMT
    Hey, just a note on being single and looks. To be honest you don't wanna date someone that goes on how you look. I believe if you are confident and you are true to who you are, the right guy will come along. Also spend less time on looking and just enjoy yourself for who you are. Don't let finding a bf consume you. I bet you can hold a decent conversation and have a lot to offer.

    You are not ugly at all dude.
    Take care

    H
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    QUOTE Feb 18, 2012 6:35 PM GMT
    Aggieboy said

    That facepic of you reminds me of this RealJocker with screen name
    MrCoach

    Look this guy up and have a gander at his pics. There is a pic of him back in the day when he was this scrawny ugly duckling.. but then he gained mass and now look at this studly brick shithouse. Do you think now he has trouble finding a date? hell no...



    Oh wow! That's quite an impressive transformation.There is hope for the scrawny guys out there.

    To the OP- looks are only part of the equation. icon_wink.gifThere's someone out there for everyone. Just a few small changes like changing the type of glasses you wear and maybe a different hairstyle would work like others recommended. It's amazing sometimes what a mini makeover will do. The guys who passed you up stop and take a second look afterward.

    Or maybe you don't need to change anything about your look as I know there's someone looking for your type out there. All gay guys aren't after the A&F type guys even it seems like they are. I know some gay guys who are actually turned off by them which i don't get personally but different strokes for different folks. Just don't try to be someone you're not as this won't attract someone who's right for you They'll be more attracted to the image of who they think you are.

    Rubycube saidHey, just a note on being single and looks. To be honest you don't wanna date someone that goes on how you look. I believe if you are confident and you are true to who you are, the right guy will come along.


    This is also very true. Worth quoting and remembering when you feel unattractive.
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    QUOTE Feb 19, 2012 11:16 AM GMT
    Confidence always makes guys more attractive. Although there's always a fine line between confident and cocky.
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    QUOTE Feb 22, 2012 4:35 PM GMT
    There's nothing wrong with your appearance mate. You are individual and have personality, you don't have to subscribe to generalizations or a cookie cutter profile.
    If you have an ideal person in your mind and you think that this person wants someone specific and you don't fit the bill physically then try something new out but it might not give you what you're after. Don't let it get to your head so much. The most attractive guys I find are the ones that don't know that they are 'attractive'.

    But keep the glasses and alternate with contacts (I wear contacts on workdays and glasses every other day). The cutest thing is a far sighted guy that you have to get close to and a short sighted guy that can't see you staring at him. icon_biggrin.gif
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    QUOTE Feb 22, 2012 4:36 PM GMT
    krad890 saidConfidence always makes guys more attractive. Although there's always a fine line between confident and cocky.


    I think the fine line is called an Ego icon_smile.gif
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    QUOTE Feb 22, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
    If you are beautiful on the inside, that will shine through. You just have to be confident enough to do it.

    Good confidence boosters:

    1) The Jerry Springer Show
    2) Trailer Parks
    3) Late night infomercials about starving Ethiopians
    4) Perez Hilton
    5) Driving home from work and watching people walk to their destinations
    6) People with facial deformities
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    QUOTE Feb 23, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    magnus87 saidHej, guys!!!

    I was always thinking that I am not the ugliest guy in this world but since gays are so picky it seems that it is impossible to find someone. I even started to think that probably I do not look good enough icon_sad.gif

    Please be honest and give your thoughts.

    Come on icon_smile.gif


    Well first off, I'm told this isn't a dating site...yet there's an option to state what you're looking for and that's one of the choicesicon_rolleyes.gif

    Secondly, "not being ugly" is the bulk of the responses you'll get.

    Thirdly, Russel Brand married Katy Perry, clearly not everyone in this world is shallow and it doesn't sound like you'd want to be with a shallow person anyway. If you were in your late 70's, I could understand the hopelessness..

    Fourthly, maybe they don't like glasses or "intelligent-looking people" haha, but I get hit on more with wearing, so who knows?(Twas a joke)

    Wait until someone who isn't picky comes along.
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    QUOTE Feb 23, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    change your style. Make yrself prettier icon_biggrin.gif
  • josephmovie Posts: 519
    QUOTE Feb 27, 2012 11:51 AM GMT
    I don't think anyone can really judge how attractive someone is from just one photo, but you like fine to me. Nice features, slim build, good clear skin.

    Maybe rethink the glasses. You look like you have nice eyes hidden under those frames. You are also being a bit deceived by gay orientated media that emphasises the young and the beautiful, but just look around your local gay bar or mall. Media is not the reality, and that is a good thing.